Dealing With Deployment?

[NavyWife40]

I am in the beginning of a 6 month deployment with my husband. He has only been gone about a week and I am already having a hard time. This is our second 6 month deployment. Tonight was the first time that I actually cried. I have been trying to not think about it.
So Im wondering if anyone else here has a husand/wife or loved one gone that would like to chat?
I would just like to talk to people that can relate to how I am feeling right now. My family is great,but they don't really understand what I am going through.
Hope to talk to you all soon....
~Cierra

 

[SH89]

What does your husband do in the Navy, Cierra?

 

[JamieGraham]

Of course you feel sad - this is the man you love and your life partner. These are totally valid feelings. One would worry if you did not care.

I can only imagine how hard it would be Cierra. I pray for you and than you so much for not only your husbands sacrifices - but yours too! Many times this goes un-noticed. I notice. And I am sure many others pray for your husband and you as well.

You must be as strong as he is - that most likely a wuality he found in you along with the others! Try to be around people that give you strenth, kindness, compassion and understanding during this time. You do not need to have your feelings discounted in any way. They are vaild. Find peace with God. He is with you always and with your husband.

I do kn ow that you must have fear, sadness and loss with him being gone. I pray for you to have peace and a knowing that he and our other brothers and sisters are protected.

I pray for all of the best for you daily and in your life moving forward. Write him letters of love,m strenght, prayers and please tell him that YES - we are praying for them daily!

God bless you and your family Cierra,

Jamie

 

[NavyWife40]

What does your husband do in the Navy, Cierra?

My husband is an Electronics Technician in the Navy...

 

[NavyWife40]

Of course you feel sad - this is the man you love and your life partner. These are totally valid feelings. One would worry if you did not care.
God bless you and your family Cierra,
Jamie

Thank you so much for those kind words and for your prayers. It means so much to me and my husband to know that people care. And you also made me feel a lot better and helped to encourage me today. Thanks again!
God bless!

 

[daveleau]

I am supposed to be gone right now, but my training was held up because of issues with squadron leadership. If there is anything I can do to help, please let me know. My wife isn't a member here, but if you'd like to talk to her, I can pass you her email via PM. She's had to deal with a couple of deployments with me. None as long as 6 months (4 months for our job), but she can relate. It is tough.
Remember that it is tough on us as well. It is so hard being away from home and away from the family that we love.

God bless you,
Dave

 

[3girls2dogs]

Thank you so much for those kind words and for your prayers. It means so much to me and my husband to know that people care. And you also made me feel a lot better and helped to encourage me today. Thanks again!
God bless!

I have been through many deployments myself, NavyWife. It can be very difficult and very trying. I found that trying to pretend it wasn't hard just made it worse, but I never liked getting upset in front of my kids because it made them more afraid.

My advice to you? Don't watch the news, it will only make you worry more. I got my news from online sites, that way I could control what I read and how much I got in one sitting. I would let myself break down at night. I would call my dog up on the bed, hold her tight and let go for a few minutes. I would watch really sappy movies sometimes, because I could really let go and then blame the movie, thereby getting it out and not feeling weak LOL. I know it sounds silly, but it worked for me.

I don't know if you are near other wives from this deployment, but get out there and get with them. Do things together. It really makes a huge difference. Pamper yourself. I would get a massage now and then, or spend a bit extra on myself. I found that helping other wives who were worse off than me, i.e. had smaller children or needed more things done around their home was a good distraction.

I belong to a Marine Wives mail loop on yahoo, and it is a great help also, as many of these wives are going through the same thing I am, and I have gotten some great sources of support from it. I would try and do a search on Yahoo and try to find a Navy wives loop. They can be a great way to find others in your position.

Feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat. I also have AIM and MSM, we can chat that way also. My dh is home at this moment, but I remember all too clearly what it was like when he was gone.

Good luck and God bless.

 

[seamonster]

The longest deployment I've dealt with was 2 years. I got to see him about 4 times during that period for 3 days each time. It was REALLY tough, and you're right, so many people won't understand how you feel.

My advice is to talk to him as much as possible: email, write letters, whatever. Keeping a journal about how you're feeling can be really therapeutic, too. Like 3girls2dogs said, joining an online support group or getting together with other military wives works, too. I joined an online support group on MSN during the time my husband was deployed and it helped IMMENSELY just to be able to rant to other people about how I was feeling. A lot of people won't understand how easy it is to miss the little things: watching him shave, cooking dinner for him, cuddling on the couch during a movie, a kiss goodbye, waking up in his arms.

I'm here if you ever want to talk -- feel free to PM me

 

[NavyWife40]

The longest deployment I've dealt with was 2 years. I got to see him about 4 times during that period for 3 days each time. It was REALLY tough, and you're right, so many people won't understand how you feel.

Thank you so much! I got your message on Myspace. I can't wait to get to know you better...
Is your husband in the Navy?

 

[seamonster]

Thank you so much! I got your message on Myspace. I can't wait to get to know you better...
Is your husband in the Navy?

nope, air force!

 

[Kasia]

My boyfriend is on West Pac right now, so he's deployed for 6 months as well. So far it's been one month, and it's been tough. If you ever want to talk, you can PM me and I'll give you my AIM name or email address. I know it's really tough, I'm still have a hard time, but talking to other people who are going through the same thing really does help, sometimes it feels like that's the only thing that's keeping me sane right now!!
I also recommend reading Bible and praying a lot, it gives you this piece of mind that nobody and nothing else can.
Take care and God bless!

 

[WhiteWillow]

I've just begun posting here but will keep these soldiers in thought and prayer when I leave for the service next month also.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

Sigh, I feel your pain. Hubby deployed at the beginning of February for a year and a half. We've been through deployments before and I've even deployed before (I used to be an NCO in the Army). However, this one is by far the toughest. It was easier when I was younger. Our children are not handling this well. Our seven-year-old is going through a depression. He'll just be sitting there when all of a sudden you'll notice the tears pouring down his face. He won't talk about it though. Our two year old is just angry and getting to be almost too much for me to deal with right now. Add to that the fact that I feel a part of me has been ripped away and I'm not handling it so well right now either.

It's tough. I'm sorry you're going through this too.

 

[GraceInHim]

I am in the beginning of a 6 month deployment with my husband. He has only been gone about a week and I am already having a hard time. This is our second 6 month deployment. Tonight was the first time that I actually cried. I have been trying to not think about it.
So Im wondering if anyone else here has a husand/wife or loved one gone that would like to chat?
I would just like to talk to people that can relate to how I am feeling right now. My family is great,but they don't really understand what I am going through.
Hope to talk to you all soon....
~Cierra

he is probably with a bunch of Marines which they call a 6 month pump.. My hubby did 3 of them during his career, and has many Navy Brothers... it is hard.. the days pass fast though.. I always tried to be around other wives of the deployed hubbys and also the young girlfriends.. they seemed to be left out.. have get togethers at someone's home.. we would make videos of our gatherings and send it to them, so they can watch it together... my hubby always put on weight from those pumps.. .. they eat very well..

God Bless you and thank you for your service, wives are a great contribution also..

Marina

 

[NavyWife40]

Thanks everyone for your kind words. I am doing a lot better. I guess the first couple of weeks are always the hardest. Still trying to keep busy so that the time will go by faster..I have good days and bad,but God is really teaching me to trust Him more through all of this.