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Actually narcissistic or, like most people tend to think, self aware with non-chalant traits?![]()
Elaborate pls.
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Actually narcissistic or, like most people tend to think, self aware with non-chalant traits?![]()
i dont have many restrictions. what i look for is pretty simple and straightforward, it just isnt exactly common. the most important thing i think is for someone to just be who they really are. and then you can evaluate relationship compatibility on that standard. getting rejected is a lot easier if you arent putting your real self on the line. but what good is getting to know someone if youre both just going to pretend to be something youre not anyway?
it covers all the bases if you find someone you like to be with and just let them be who they are. restrictions and conditions in relationships are stupid. people should change because they want to make the other person happy, not because something they do makes the other person unhappy. im sure there are plenty of things i do that would make certain individuals unhappy. and so those people would be well advised to not make their happiness contingent on my choices and actions. if i change it will be because it's something i want for myself. i expect the same of others.
Hey everyone. Some time back I posted about going out and trying the whole internet dating thing. So over Christmas, I signed up with eHarmony. I've been on five dates so far. Definitely nothing to get me excited about. I wonder though, if I'm being a little too tough on my dates. So far, I've come up with three major pet peeves (other than the obvious ones like faith, values, etc.). They are:
1) Not even saying thank you after I buy someone dinner. I mean, I know a guy traditionally does this, and I also get that some women won't even offer to pay. But seriously, is it too much to ask for a little politeness and gratitude?
2) People who failed to mention that the pictures of them on their profile were 5 years/50 pounds ago. I'm not a superficial person, but how can you start a relationship based on a lie?
3) Talking about all your ex's on a first date. When every story I share is met with, "oh, this guy I used to date was into that", or every story you tell is about other guys, the conversation gets really old fast. I know we all have history, but listening to stories about your other relationships is a real turn-off.
Am I being too picky? What are your red flags on a first date?