Daughter is experimenting with cutting

[Jenafer]

Dear Nj,

first let me say thank you for adding me to your buddy list, it meant a lot to me. It has been some months since your daughter felt down enough to hurt herself.

I think your daughter felt the rejection by her boyfriend as a sign that she is 'not good enough'. Somehow over her life she has come to try to please people.. and when she doesn't please people she feels like a failure.. then punishes herself by hurting herself. Perhaps I'm wrong about this..

Anyway there is no need to beat yourself up with guilt about your parenting skills, as I'm sure you did the best you could. I think a good talk would be in order from time to time, to reassure her that you love her no matter what.. she doesn't have to be famous or such to get your love (that sort of talk).

You could also assure her that there are lots of men in the world, and most people go though a period of trial and error to find the right mate. Yes, it's quite a common for most of us to get our heart broken at least once.

At fourteen maybe she should be encouraged to do a personal best at school, and enjoy life on a social level, without getting tied down to any one boy.

It's a trying time to be a teenager for some..

My best regards, Jenafer

 

[BeautifulWorshipper]

Please please don't shout at her, or get angry, or manipulate as such, Like make her feel really bad, its the worst thing you can do, just let her cry. I know from what my mother did when she found out, I just needed to cry, no questions to be asked to me, just a cry! Yes it sounds like a cry for help, all self harming is some way of a cry for help.

God bless

Katie, Teen Cf