Dating

[guitarintro]

What do you look for in a significant other? How do you know God approves with the person you are interested in?

 

[RedheadedPrincess]

These are the things that I looked at and will look at:
1. Are they a Christian?
2. Where are they at with there walk with God? Are they growing? Is there faith real?
3. What are their goals, aspirations, dreams? What are they doing to pursue these? How do these fall in line with mine? How will we achieve our goals together?
4. What do we have in common especially when it comes to beliefs?
5. Do my family and friends and their family and friends approve of our relationship and support us?
6. Do I see myself with this person when I am eighty, or at my weakest point, or they are at their worst?

Pray a lot and keep your eyes wide open to discern if this person will make a good wife for you. Will they meet your expectations, etc? What are your expectations?

 

[E.C.]

The ability to cook and cook well

A good soul mostly. To be determined via how they act when under stress, how they argue, etc.

Mostly how they treat family, animals and restaurant employees and other perceived "lower" forms of life.

 

[ListenerFriendly]

I think my anticipations are very high, perhaps. I want someone that likes going against the grain and their whole life is modeled around that. But also a personality. Not conservative. Open minded. Likes to discuss, but also to laugh. A bit of a femanist. Someone who will get upset when I use the "masculine" english language without thinking. Someone who is spiritual and wants to find truth and find God. Someone who gives Animal Collective a chance and thinks Aaron Weiss and Bob Dylan are some of the finest poets. Someone who is artistic and appreciates innovative, experimental things.

A human that cares for others more than themselves--social, environmental causes. Someone who is first and foremost about love.

 

[Hass2be]

The world teaches us to look for a significant other by the principles of..
1) appearance
2) personality
3) spirituality
Gods word teaches us to turn it upside down on what is most important to look for...
1) spirituality
2) personality
3) appearance
And if i were to be with sum1 i would look for that person to possibly be my wife in the future. So id look for those qualities since i believe dating is a form of union. similar to marriage and therefore God hates it when we break up as he does divorce. i mean 100 years ago dating didnt even exist, its a cultural thing- not a Christian thing, so i guess we all need to take care with it and the issues it presents.

Hass

 

[ServinHim]

The world teaches us to look for a significant other by the principles of..
1) appearance
2) personality
3) spirituality
Gods word teaches us to turn it upside down on what is most important to look for...
1) spirituality
2) personality
3) appearance
And if i were to be with sum1 i would look for that person to possibly be my wife in the future. So id look for those qualities since i believe dating is a form of union. similar to marriage and therefore God hates it when we break up as he does divorce. i mean 100 years ago dating didnt even exist, its a cultural thing- not a Christian thing, so i guess we all need to take care with it and the issues it presents.

Hass

I definetely agree with this...this is an awesome way to describe it!

 

[stephanieamber]

I look to see if they're Brandon Heath. if they're not Brandon Heath, then I'm not interested.

jk

 

[guitarintro]

in the past, i am not sure if i dated for marriage. but as i got older, i think that is important: to find a date that will be compatible as a wife.

 

[bunced]

If they're as happy hanging around with people from the bottom of the pond and loving them just as much as the influential middle class movers and shakers, that's a very good start for me

 

[TheDerek]

She has to love God. Period. I have no problem being the number two man in her life; as long as God's number one.

Everything else comes second, and it will fall into place when God brings the right gal into my life.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I agree with E.C and Bunced. They about summed it up.

 

[Luther073082]

Well the first question I ask myself is.

"Is this person a woman?"

then of course I would look into many other things especially their faith.

 

[Bampot]

I usually like a good sense of humor and a nice personality overall. I'm more found of guys who I share similar interest with. It gives us things to do and talk about in our free time and makes for a more enjoyable, fulfilling relationship. I'm not too concerned about differing opinions as long as it's something that would not lead to a fight in the long run. Luckily, my boyfriend and I share many of the same views on politics and religion.

 

[Yuyuchan]

I definetely agree with this...this is an awesome way to describe it!

I agree as well. :3

 

[RachieCat]

Answer for me : my heart feels full,slightly outside of myself when I am with him and I feel he is the light of my life,the reason for being so that's God to me. I feel listened to,finally.

 

[jul7246]

I don't understand how people can date someone they barely know. I am all for spending enjoyable time with a person and getting to know them better but I believe that can be done within the framework (sorry, been writing a business letter, can't get my mind into normal mode ) of a friendship.

First of all, let me state that I, personally, date in order to find the person I will marry. Therefore, my significant other is first and foremost my close friend. Of course you won't wait till you know the person inside out before dating them (that's what you do in your lifetime together if that's what's meant to happen). But I believe that you can get to know a person enough to figure out whether you are willing to enter a serious relationship with them through simply being their friend. By practising that I believe I've saved myself a lot of heartbreak

Then, as a Christian I will choose to date a Christian. Not because I am afraid of other religions or people who practise them: I have many friends who are Muslim, Buddhist, etc. But I have come to realise through personal experience that I cannot share my life and be so close who doesn't understand this aspect of my life that is so important to me.

Those were my 2. . .err, kopeiks?
Sorry it's a bit long.
Julie <3

 

[AceHero]

The world teaches us to look for a significant other by the principles of..
1) appearance
2) personality
3) spirituality
Gods word teaches us to turn it upside down on what is most important to look for...
1) spirituality
2) personality
3) appearance

I get way too distracted by the appearance aspect of the person. However, I have noticed that once I get to know a girl, finding out about her strong faith increases her beauty. It's weird. But cool.

I don't understand how people can date someone they barely know. I am all for spending enjoyable time with a person and getting to know them better but I believe that can be done within the framework (sorry, been writing a business letter, can't get my mind into normal mode ) of a friendship.

I've seen a lot of people get into relationships that appear to do so just so they can have a significant other. It's disheartening.

First of all, let me state that I, personally, date in order to find the person I will marry. Therefore, my significant other is first and foremost my close friend. Of course you won't wait till you know the person inside out before dating them (that's what you do in your lifetime together if that's what's meant to happen). But I believe that you can get to know a person enough to figure out whether you are willing to enter a serious relationship with them through simply being their friend. By practising that I believe I've saved myself a lot of heartbreak

I agree. I've never been in a relationship before, but judging from what I've seen of people dating to date, I'd totally want to get to know a girl before dating, and surely before starting a relationship with her. I have no problem with having coffee with someone to get to know her better, but I wouldn't respond positively to someone who I don't know that came up to me and asked me if I wanted to go out. That's way too fast.

Then, as a Christian I will choose to date a Christian. Not because I am afraid of other religions or people who practise them: I have many friends who are Muslim, Buddhist, etc. But I have come to realise through personal experience that I cannot share my life and be so close who doesn't understand this aspect of my life that is so important to me.

Totally. I could disagree with her on just about anything, but if a potential girlfriend isn't a Christian, then it's not going to happen. And I'd never go out with someone who'd become a Christian "for me." That's just offensive.

 

[AveLaw2011]

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[chi_cchick]

I am very picky. She must:
1. Love God lots.
2. Enjoy the cool refreshing taste of Dr. Pepper.
3. Put up with my goofy date ideas.
4. Like to hold hands while skipping.
5. Be nerdy.

Haha I hate Dr Peppar, but 3 and 4 would apply to me. I'm still learning to love God, so probably not ready to date. I'm not really nerdy, but I do act like a blonde lol.