Dating

[guitarintro]

Thanks for the feedback. I realized this is based on the individual's decision, but it's nice to hear other opinions about. I mean, dating a Christian girl who has a lot of knowledge on Christianity will totally be a boost for myself. At the same time, I came across this saying, perhaps on a forum or something. I am unsure if this is from The Bible, but it talks about how the male needs to be the more dominant religious one in the relationship. Is this true? If it is, can someone post a link to the Bible Verse?

 

[ryanb6]

Well the man needs to lead the woman in the ways of scripture, but this does not mean the man will know more about scripture than the woman or that the woman should not study on her on. The man is to lead, by example.

 

[JadeTigress]

I don't know if you're really interested in my opinion, but from my non-christian point of view, dating her shouldn't be a problem. I've dated Christians before, and it was fine. As long as you respect each other's right to your own opinions on these matters, in my experience it doesn't matter if you completely agree or not. A couple is never going to agree on absolutely everything anyway, even if they're both of the same religion.

And it can spark some friendly debate, so you both end up learning more about the other, and you learn to see things in a new light. Whether any beliefs change or not is irrelevant; but learning to see things in a new point of view is priceless.

But that's just me; I love to learn. Knowledge is power.

 

[Sketcher]

I am unsure if this is from The Bible, but it talks about how the male needs to be the more dominant religious one in the relationship. Is this true? If it is, can someone post a link to the Bible Verse?

That would come from Ephesians 5:25-33.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Jesus loved the church so much as to give up His own life for it, and He also sanctifies it. He does this through love, not through a controlling personality. If a husband follows the command to love his wife as Christ loved the church, then he is not only going to do his romantic duties, but he is also going to help her grow in the Lord, doing his part to sanctify her. Note that this is for marital relationships. Just like sexual love, only a microcosm of this is appropriate for a dating relationship.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Thanks for the feedback. I realized this is based on the individual's decision, but it's nice to hear other opinions about. I mean, dating a Christian girl who has a lot of knowledge on Christianity will totally be a boost for myself. At the same time, I came across this saying, perhaps on a forum or something. I am unsure if this is from The Bible, but it talks about how the male needs to be the more dominant religious one in the relationship. Is this true? If it is, can someone post a link to the Bible Verse?

IMO, a relationship does NOT have to follow a Biblical model to a perfect T. We are in a culture now where women are allowed to hold more powerful roles in nearly every field. Women can work AND have kids. They can work in factories or offices, they can even hold governmental positions.

What works for one may not work for another. When you find that lovely lady you want to spend the rest of your life with, you should be doing whatever works for the two of you. If you find a woman who has that amazing amount of Biblical knowledge, then there's no reason she can't teach you and share her knowledge or lead devotion or prayer. You could even take turns with leading devotion and prayer.

 

[guitarintro]

EDIT: How to delete this post?

 

[E.C.]

Should Christians only date other Christians? Should I only date her when she is a believer?

What are your thoughts on Christians and dating? I hope I didn't say anything wrong.

Dating based on religious beliefs; or any other be it political, personal, whatever; to me seems quite exclusive if not arrogant.

Sure, it helps to be around like-minded people, but don't eliminate the possibility that maybe whatever influence you may have on her could help her to follow Christ.

Date a non-Christian or not does not really matter. What matters is how your spiritual life keeps.

 

[Riddle_Box]

I dated a few christians but, they never delivered.

 

[SisterOfTheLight]

Mm, I've dated an atheist and a Pagan before. I never dated a Christian and am quite curious about what that'd be like, but I still have a huge spot of weakness for the Pagan guy and so I doubt I'll date anyone else soon. It was, however, far more difficult to date the atheist... we had some issues about our beliefs which ultimately helped destroy the relationship... while dating the Pagan one felt natural and was actually really relaxed because he'd been raised with Christianity and knew what he was getting himself into.

I don't choose to date people based on religious preference. I would probably think twice about dating an atheist in the future, because of my negative experiences with a relationship between a believer and non-believer, but other than that I could really care less about what religion someone follows. If they make me happy, and make me feel loved and safe and at peace... if they make me feel good about myself... those are the things that truly matter to me in my relationships...

 

[guitarintro]

So hanging out with non-Christians is okay, because that is how you minister to them?

 

[ryanb6]

hanging out is not dating

 

[Trashionista]

I think that christians should date other christians. Take her to church with you and introduce her to the word. Even if you two never date...you can at least share the message of salvation with her.

Personally, if I were to fall in love with a Jewish guy or Hindu man or something, and he were taking me to church in the early dating stages to "introduce me to" the faith in hopes I'd convert, I can say that would be a huge turn-off.

It's one thing when it's serious and you're seriously thinking of marriage and children eventually, but the first situation just makes the non-believer feel like a charity case if it all goes wrong.

 

[guitarintro]

Well, she was the one who was interested in coming.

 

[Trying_Hard]

This sounds an awful lot like me a couple years ago.

I dated a girl in the hopes that the interest she showed in Christ would grow into a full faith, but it didn't. all that came from the relationship was a lot of hard earned lessons and a broken vow I made to myself(premarital sex.)

I understand it can be hard to turn up these oportuniies, but I can honestly say I wish I had AT LEAST waited untill she accepted Christ before starting to date her.

 

[E.C.]

So hanging out with non-Christians is okay, because that is how you minister to them?

42.

Oh wait, I thought that you had asked what twenty plus twenty-two was.



You see, in this scenario you were given an answer to a question that you did not ask. People don't like being given answers to questions they did not ask.

If they ask a question, answer. If not, than don't answer.

Is simple.

 

[katielou]

Currently I am dating a non Christian and to start with he had absolutely no interest in God/church/religion, wanted nothing to do with any of it but I continued to pray for him and continued to remain strong in Christ and eventually after months of refusal I have managed to convince him to come to church with me, something which I never thought possible! I think sometimes relationships between Christians and non Christians can work as long as the Christian remains true to themselves and faithful to God, and if you talk about it openly eventually the non believer will give in become curious and perhaps as they ask questions and seek answers and if you are willing to support and encourage them, you may be surprised about what you learn, as they see things in a new way and if you're willing to journey with them, even if the journey is very slow, you will not only have a much stronger relationship with each other, but also with God as you are striving to save someone who may otherwise have ended up in a relationship with a non Christian and have been deprived the opportunity to know the love of God

 

[maelstrom]

Personally I'd rather hang out with a non-Christian who is a nice person, than a "Christian" who is snobby and materialistic.

Kindness is what matters to me in a girl... There aren't that many nice people out there in the world today, so cherish them when you find them, regardless of whether they call themselves Christians. Whoever knows love, knows God.

That being said, it's probably not a good idea to *marry* a non-Christian if you're a Christian. That would fall under being unequally yoked to a non-believer. But as for being friends or even dating, I still say you should cherish knowing a "nice girl" because "nice girls" aren't that common in the modern world.

 

[cguilherme]

i see a datting as a prepare to the marriege. so, i'll just date when i really want to marrie with that girl.
i love a girl and she told me that we should not date by now, because we are to young and when she dates with someone, it'll be to marrie with him. i stay very sad, but i trust in God and i know that this is the best for me. (i'm waiting for her..)
we should not date with someone thinking that after a year, we'll get another girl and maybe we learn somethings. when we date someone, we should want to spend the rest of our life with her. to me, is a serious decision.
but you should not date with someone non-christian thinking that with the time, she'll know God and love Him. i know some people that try that and failed.

 

[Shiversblood]

But then again, if you do start to date and she isnt a Christian you are going to have extreme lust and temptation to have sex because she isnt christian and doesnt believe in pre-marital sex as a sin etc, so u might find urself to be putting urself in a situation where you will no longer be right with God and lose his grace.

 

[JadeTigress]

But then again, if you do start to date and she isnt a Christian you are going to have extreme lust and temptation to have sex because she isnt christian and doesnt believe in pre-marital sex as a sin etc, so u might find urself to be putting urself in a situation where you will no longer be right with God and lose his grace.

I just thought I'd point out that just because someone is a non-Christian, that doesn't mean that they're promiscuous. And just because someone is a Christian doesn't mean that they aren't promiscuous.

I have non-Christian friends who are saving themselves for marriage. They don't call it a 'sin', for obvious reasons, but they still feel that they should wait.

So you probably shouldn't lump everyone together. Just saying.