Dating

[katielou]

Although marriage between two Christians might be perferable, the Bible does not say that marriage between Christians and non Christians is wrong or sinful in any way, 1 Corinthians 7: 12-16:

"..If a Christian man has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage..You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you."

So as long as you are not sinning by having a sexual relationship outside of marriage, having one inside of marriage is perfectly acceptable in God's eyes, regardless of whether the two people are Christians or non Christians

 

[maelstrom]

I think what that passage means is that if one person in a non-Christian marriage becomes a Christian, the marriage should stay together if possible because it will be a good influence on the other person. In other words, if you're already married and decide to become a Christian, don't dump the other person for not being one because it's an opportunity to minister.

But if you're already a Christian and NOT married, there are passages that indicate you should not marry a non-believer (such as the one about not being unequally yoked to non-believers, in II Corinthians I believe). In fact, Paul mentions earlier that the unmarried should not be seeking spouses at all.

In any case, it's a bad idea to have sex outside of marriage no matter what. But as for hanging out with non-Christians, it's perfectly OK because how else could you witness to them?

 

[AetheriusLamia]

One of the weaknesses is that she sometimes uses God's name in vain, which is something I dislike.

I've never seen any define what God's name actually is. The section of the Catechism about the second commandment is instructive, but it also does not specifically define God's name ... rather, it discusses references to God.

Should Christians only date other Christians? Should I only date her when she is a believer?

Read 1 Corinthians; in it Paul talks about marriage between 'brothers' (believers) and unbelievers, and how by one the other might be saved. The understanding is, I think, that the believer will never give up on the unbeliever... I don't think marriages are advisable, though, if one wants children and the other does not, or if one is of a conflicting faith.

 

[akrock21]

Definitely pray about it. God knows better than anyone
else what is right for you.

As one who jumped into an interfaith relationship without
too much thought, I suggest that you truly meditate on
this decision. The distress of falling in love with a person
who's salvation is unsure is a daily sorrow that should not
be taken lightly.

 

[guitarintro]

EDIT:

It's probably best to just hang out with them to witness for now.

 

[Rosalila]

Is it just me, or does it seem almost impossible to find a Christian of the opposite sex you can relate to (on a romantic level) and there is physical attraction and they feel the same way as you? Why is it always the unbelievers that I relate to and am attracted to physically and vice versa? I have had several Christian male friends but we never had anything but our faiths in common and with my unbelieving male friends it was the opposite. We had everything in common but our faiths. Why is it so difficult? Am I doing something wrong?

 

[Sketcher]

^ Sounds like luck of the draw to me.

 

[Rosalila]

Luck of the draw? But it happens too often!