dating

[heavenliejediofthebeach]

ok im sure there is alot of threads on dating but on this one...tell me, how do u reallie feel about it?
well me,i thought it was cool but now i think its not worth it untill u meet the person u want to spend ur life with cuz wuts the point if its not gonna go anywhere..ok im not known to be realistic but why do it????? i know it might be fun, u kno, getting to know a new person of the opposite sex and all but after while it might very dull!i just want to meet my soulmate(if i have one and some one would want to put up with me 50*years )

so whats your opinion?

 

[fishstix]

My opinion is that it is good to have lots of friends of both genders. And that people should get to know each other as friends first before even considering dating or courting or whatever else.

 

[Sam the Record Man]

Umm ... ill just tell you what my situation is. There are so many different meanings to dating, everyone seems to have their own. So i'll just explain what im doing.

I had been best friends with this girl for a year and a half, and had never even thought about her, or looked at her, with the intent of pursuing a romantic relationship. However, one day it just kinda clicked and I realized that I had feelings for her as more than a friend. So I told her, and now we are going out, we've been going out for almost a year now.

 

[heavenliejediofthebeach]

Umm ... ill just tell you what my situation is. There are so many different meanings to dating, everyone seems to have their own. So i'll just explain what im doing.

I had been best friends with this girl for a year and a half, and had never even thought about her, or looked at her, with the intent of pursuing a romantic relationship. However, one day it just kinda clicked and I realized that I had feelings for her as more than a friend. So I told her, and now we are going out, we've been going out for almost a year now.

no dont mind me, to each their own, im just asking opinions, im not here to slam anyone..its just mostlie the casual dating thing i dont like but im reallie happy for u!

 

[fishstix]

Casual dating doesn't make sense to me. People can do stuff together just as friends, so why bother with casual dating? I don't need to be dating someone to go for supper with them or go to a ball game with them or spend time with them.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

If you dont date you'll never meet Mr.Right, by dating you determine what you want your partner to be like.

 

[mina]

I've only dated one person, didn't even date until i was 23, and I like it. Dating just seems kind of futile unless you are dating towards something like marriage. Dating just to be dating is just kind of pointless to me.

 

[KristianJ]

I think dating with a "now" focus, jsut for the sake of having a partner is fraught with danger if the other person's attitude is more long-term. I was a bit like this in high school, but haven't had a girlfriend since Year 11. God's shown me the importance of thinking about who He has for me (soulmate so to speak), and that when I am dating that woman I need to be thinking about whether this is the woman God wants me to marry.

 

[Lbiagm]

never had a gf been on one date and I am just waiting for God to show mrs.Right.

 

[fishstix]

If you dont date you'll never meet Mr.Right, by dating you determine what you want your partner to be like.

I would have to disagree with that statement. I think that people can determine what they want their partner to be like through friendship relationships with the opposite gender. And they can meet that person without dating. Dating to meet people really doesn't make sense to me - why would anyone date someone who they don't already know as a friend I would never consider dating someone who wasn't already a friend. That's just like asking for things not to work out.

 

[klewlis]

I think a lot of people here equate dating with being in an exclusive relationship... I do not equate the two. I think it's cool to go on a date or two with someone just for fun, without any expectations. You can also go on "dates" with your friends (of either sex) and it doesn't mean anything except that you're hanging out and doing something special--there doesn't have to be any romance involved. So I can get dressed up and go out for dinner with a guy, and I consider that a date, but that doesn't mean that I am considering marrying him or that we are even going to have a relationship, but it's just a fun thing to do to get to know someone.

 

[fishstix]

I think a lot of people here equate dating with being in an exclusive relationship... I do not equate the two. I think it's cool to go on a date or two with someone just for fun, without any expectations. You can also go on "dates" with your friends (of either sex) and it doesn't mean anything except that you're hanging out and doing something special--there doesn't have to be any romance involved. So I can get dressed up and go out for dinner with a guy, and I consider that a date, but that doesn't mean that I am considering marrying him or that we are even going to have a relationship, but it's just a fun thing to do to get to know someone.

I see that our main disagreement is how we are defining dating. I do indeed equate dating with being boyfriend/girlfriend or at least purposely seeking that end. And I don't personally call going for supper or whatever with a friend a date, just to avoid confusion on everyone's part. I know technically a date is just meeting someone at a pre-arranged time, but I try to avoid using the word in that sense because people tend to take it the wrong way and assume that some sort of romantic relationship is involved.

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[london boy]

Even as a non-Christian, I only wanted to date a girl who I felt I be in a serious relationship with. I was not interested in one-night stands or short-term stuff. I only got interested if I felt we could be together long-term. The result of this is that I have not been in a relationship so far in my life. Since becoming a Christian, the looking for someone has been given to God as He has the perfect plan and the perfect woman for me (i.e. the right one). I still would only date to see whether God speaks to us and clarifies whether we could be together long-term. I guess I've always held this belief....

 

[Snowhite]

ok im sure there is alot of threads on ...dating but on this one...tell me, how do u reallie feel about it?
well me,i thought it was cool but now i think its not worth it untill u meet the person u want to spend ur life with cuz wuts the point if its not gonna go anywhere..ok im not known to be realistic but why do it????? i know it might be fun, u kno, getting to know a new person of the opposite sex and all but after while it might very dull!i just want to meet my soulmate(if i have one and some one would want to put up with me 50*years )

so whats your opinion?

I totally agree

 

[wvmtnkid]

Hmmm....I have dated. But not for the simple sake of dating. The fellows I went and go out with on dates are ones that I have a genuine interest in getting to know better because I see a possible future with them. I think though if you are going to do this, a distinction needs to be made so that both people are on the same page. I have guys that are friends that I hang out with, but don't consider the "hanging out" time as dates. We have made it clear that we are friends and that we are spending time together as friends, not to see if there is a possible connection as something more than friends. Clear as mud?

 

[songz777]

Hi,
The purpose of dating to me is the pre requistete of marriage.. i wouldnt date someone unless i really though there was a strong chance i would marrY dating is getting to know her before you marry .. ive waited years and cant wait to experinece Gods blessing with the very best of His choice..bless u JOHN

 

[KruseKontrol]

NEWBIE ALERT!!!

I believe that dating is preparation for marriage. It needs to be done properly and in God's time. Personally, I believe that God has someone out there for me. I don't know who, but I have my faith in God that He will provide that "special someone" for me when He thinks I am ready. I have made numerous mistakes in the past when I walked away from God. In dating, I was putting that person in front of God, which is unacceptable. I was also dating an unbeliever, which in the Bible it says to not be unequally yoked. I also believe that dating can be dangerous. After multiple breakups, I have a hard time with certain situations due to past experiences. I guess what I'm saying is that dating around can lead to you putting up defensive barriers to protect yourself from future pain. I don't believe that God designed it that way. But again, this is my personal opinion. I might be wrong in some of this. What do I know? I'm just a newb!!!

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[LadyDJ]

AHAH!!! Caught you sneaking on here while you're at work... eh? Oh wait... I do that too.

nice to know I'm not the only guilty party