Dating - WHY?

[beetlequeendiva]

Why do you want to date? I've just been thinking about that just now!!! In dating do you want it to lead to marriage? or do you just want to date so you can say you're dating???

Me - i want to date so I can get married and have kids, be a family

 

[Audiomechanic]

I want to date so I'm not alone.

 

[TriptychR]

I want to find a wife. What other reason is there?

 

[FlatpickingJD]

I've always thought that we date for companionship and to figure out what it is we want for a prospective mate. Dating is intended to find a permanent companion. So we date to find that permanent companion which in turn leads to marriage which may, if it be His will, children.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

I've always thought that we date for companionship and to figure out what it is we want for a prospective mate. Dating is intended to find a permanent companion. So we date to find that permanent companion which in turn leads to marriage which may, if it be His will, children.

Ditto.

Read Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. Here is their website.

Diane

 

[mina]

hmmm, I want to date b/c it's a step closer to marriage and family. That and it's fun, and it's nice to have a meaningful relationship with a Godly man. It gives you something to look forward to. I like being encouraging and romantic towards someone special, and having someone to encourage me and be romantic towards me. I like the idea of someone special choosing to spend time with me, and visa versa.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I'm dating to find a husband. When I find out the person is not someone I would marry, then there is no point in dating anymore. If I just want someone to go to the movies with I can go with my kids or very rarely a girlfriend.

I would make an exception for my ex-bf because I think he is a positive person to be around, but time with him could not take up much time from my kids.

 

[Blank123]

I am really looking forward to be married one day and having a family of my own. That would be my reason for dating

 

[LetHimThatGlories]

Why do you want to date? I've just been thinking about that just now!!! In dating do you want it to lead to marriage? or do you just want to date so you can say you're dating???

It blows my mind when I see people dating casually, as if they are just hanging out for the companionship, without really entertaining the thought that they are dating for marriage. It's like they don't understand the significance of what they're doing.

I take the whole affair rather seriously. When I do date, I ask a lot of questions--I want to find out what she believes, and where she is coming from. I realize most girls think this is too intense, and a little odd, but I don't want to spend weeks and weeks, and months, getting attached to a girl, if we don't agree on the major things right up front. By major things, I don't mean her taste in music; I mean doctrinal issues, and stuff. Once I feel comfortable that we are on the same page, then I let my guard down, and start enjoying her company a little more!

But that's just me.

God Bless

 

[beetlequeendiva]

LetHimThatGlories - I agree 100% on that!!! Oooh you said what i wanted to say only I couldn't think of how to put it I feel that agreeing on doctrinal issues is a major one - as is wanting marriage and children, the guy definitely needs to be on the same page. For me they also need to understand the issues of my past.

 

[Blank123]

I agree, I think that is a good approach, LHTG

If you can't agree on basic doctrinal issues then when/if marriage does become an issue there could some real problems to deal with.

I couldn't imagine dating someone whose doctrine did not line up well with my own. Regardless of what that might do to my own walk with the Lord, I can only imagine how that type of arrangement might affect any kids that might show up somewhere down the road.

 

[OhhJim]

I enjoy sharing a pleasant experience with a woman whose company I like. I don't know of any scripture that says I HAVE to be looking for a wife. If it leads to something further, fine. If not, that's ok, too

 

[Eagle_Wings]

I want to find a wife. What other reason is there?

Perfect answer! My approach to dating has always been that it's a precursor to marriage....unfortunately most people around my area don't seem to share that view which is why I remain single.

 

[LOVEthroughINTELLECT]

Why do you want to date? I've just been thinking about that just now!!! In dating do you want it to lead to marriage? or do you just want to date so you can say you're dating???

Me - i want to date so I can get married and have kids, be a family

Some people probably date to try it. That is not commentary. It is not me condoning anything. It is just the facts.

I have been encouraged by more than a few people to "try" dating. I don't think that I could ever do it just to try it, however.

 

[Niels]

I love women. I love women a lot more than I love dating, but since women are involved, I may as well give dating a shot.

That said, I'm in it for the future wife.

 

[Rory]

At 27 I expected to be married years ago, now that I'm in my Walk, I want it even more so. I don't know, it just feels like it's something that I'm missing, like the last peice now that I have Jesus in my life, all I need now is to settle down and have a family.

So yeah, if I ever get around to dating it will be with one purpose, future wife. I have no interest in casual dating, never really did but just can't even think of considering it now. Though my luck with women is sooooo horrible that I'd be surprised if I even make it to a first date with anyone.

I definitely agree on the doctrine issue. btw.

 

[TriptychR]

Some people probably date to try it. That is not commentary. It is not me condoning anything. It is just the facts.

I have been encouraged by more than a few people to "try" dating. I don't think that I could ever do it just to try it, however.

I don't get the whole "trying" dating thing, either. You're not supposed to date to keep doing it, but so you can be able to stop.

 

[Super Gnat]

I don't really want to date, but I do want to get married. I wish I could just wake up one morning and be with the guy God wants for me

 

[intricatic]

I don't date.

 

[OhhJim]

Here's a practical reason to date: So you can find out what's normal and reasonable and what's not, in potential mates.

I had a serious relationship with a woman once, who was lovely, and smart, and fun...but she had some unreasonable ideas about how I should act, and how the relationship should be. Now I'm better able to spot those types of little wackinesses in other women, and avoid them with no regrets, since I know from experience that it just isn't worth it.

On the flip side, when you find someone who is really sweet, you appreciate them more, because you know that not everybody else is sweet.