dating while separated?

[JohnDB]

Figuring out why on earth you ever chose to be with that person and how you can avoid such pitfalls in the future also requires some time...

and prayer....

because if you don't....then...it can happen again...and divorce is something you don't want to do again....it is never fun.

 

[HisdaughterJen]

Sometimes a marriage is over in every way, except the bureaucratic red tape of legality.

What makes a marriage anyway? Is it the piece of paper? Is it registering your marriage with the state for tax purposes? Is it the "i do's"? Is it the consummation?

A marriage can be over spiritually, emotionally, and physically long before the government's papers declare it to be so.

 

[Autumnleaf]

If you're not with your husband anymore then you're not really married now are you?

 

[SearcherKris]

Sometimes a marriage is over in every way, except the bureaucratic red tape of legality.

What makes a marriage anyway? Is it the piece of paper? Is it registering your marriage with the state for tax purposes? Is it the "i do's"? Is it the consummation?

A marriage can be over spiritually, emotionally, and physically long before the government's papers declare it to be so.

a marriage can be over in every way, including legally, but that doesn't speak anything about the completion of healing from a marriage breaking apart.

tons of damage is done to the mind and soul of an individual when separation/divorce happens.

Even if you want the divorce and the marriage is completely dead, there are still hurts and vulnerabilities there. Afterall, something drastic had to happen for the marriage to fall apart. Hurt and vulnerable is no condition to start a relationship in.

I don't want my ex back for anything. We have been divorced for almost 2 years. I've had counseling, been ministered to, been in more than one support group, jounaled, written, ...but I still hurt from the damage done in our marriage. I still have mental issues to work on due to the years of junk that I dealt with while I was married.

I'm saying all this to say that no matter how much a marriage is over, it doesn't mean that a person is ready to move on for the next relationship. If a person tries to before they are ready all they will really be doing is moving toward their next broken relationship.

 

[HisdaughterJen]

a marriage can be over in every way, including legally, but that doesn't speak anything about the completion of healing from a marriage breaking apart.

tons of damage is done to the mind and soul of an individual when separation/divorce happens.

Even if you want the divorce and the marriage is completely dead, there are still hurts and vulnerabilities there. Afterall, something drastic had to happen for the marriage to fall apart. Hurt and vulnerable is no condition to start a relationship in.

I don't want my ex back for anything. We have been divorced for almost 2 years. I've had counseling, been ministered to, been in more than one support group, jounaled, written, ...but I still hurt from the damage done in our marriage. I still have mental issues to work on due to the years of junk that I dealt with while I was married.

I'm saying all this to say that no matter how much a marriage is over, it doesn't mean that a person is ready to move on for the next relationship. If a person tries to before they are ready all they will really be doing is moving toward their next broken relationship.

Think of dating as "free therapy". Every guy who comes across your path teaches you something...and it's a self-esteem booster!