Dating while a student

[ThisIsMe123]

Do you think I'd have to abandon seeing anyone for the next 4 years until I have my degree

No, that would be a mistake, because college is THE place to meet single ladies. ;-) I recall when I was in college, the dating pool was epic, because you're ensconced in a community and opportunities to meet prospects.

In fact, that's how most people meet, date, and get married.

Once I graduated...those options and opportunities plummeted.

College is a fabulous opportunity to meet women, so...don't blow it.

 

[Sketcher]

I would say not to date.

Going to school is going to change you; maybe a little, maybe a lot, but it will change you. I say wait until you are either out of school or at the very least 7/8ths of the way through.

Life is going to change you. My parents, who are still together, will freely admit that they have changed over the years they have been together, and are still changing. Change isn't the issue, the issue is determining what (and in the context of dating, whom) to commit to.

 

[blackribbon]

Doesn't really work all the time.

When I took an IT course, there's barely any women in there. Even if I changed classes. If I wanted to take a course just for the sake of high chances of meeting women, I would have taken nursing or a business course instead

skip the nursing students, they barely have time to eat, let alone date....

 

[timewerx]

That's ok.

There's not a lot of things I need from another person to be happy. And nurses are doing a great job. I really don't mind their schedules.

 

[blackribbon]

That's ok.

There's not a lot of things I need from another person to be happy. And nurses are doing a great job. I really don't mind their schedules.

 

[blackribbon]

Nursing school....where doing a "A" level care plan requires 40 hours worth of work...and having 48 before it is due...and a "B-" is considered failing.

 

[Sketcher]

skip the nursing students, they barely have time to eat, let alone date....

I know someone who just graduated from an accelerated nursing program - did it all in under a year. I don't know how some people do it.

 

[deusartemlux]

Hey everyone

What are your thoughts about dating while being enrolled in university?

I'm in my early 30's and have decided I'm going to go for a degree, as I'm hoping to move out of my lower working class income bracket, as well as do something more interesting. Degree I'm looking at will take about 4 years. Money's going to be pretty tight for that time, though I plan to continue working part time, which will help somewhat. I'm also single and longing for companionship. I've got friends and hobbies and all that, but obviously because God's built us for intimate relationship, this is something that's on my mind too. (Also, friends and people from church keep insisting I "need" a girlfriend. Not sure if I agree this is a need, but it's most certainly a strong want in my case.) Do you think I'd have to abandon seeing anyone for the next 4 years until I have my degree and a better job sorted out? What advice can you give me from your own experience in dating while in tertiary, particularly with regards to time and money? Thanks.

I don't claim to be wise. But here's my advice. I'm in a similar situation. I've so far been dateless for the two years I've been in school, and will most likely continue to be a "student celibate" until a land a career job--but that's only two more years out for me and I'm still early in my 20's. As for you, you have fours years on top of thirty without the marriage gig. I feel for you if you want a "her" in your life. If I where you (of course I'd pray and seek advice from elders) but I'd start looking to get married. You don't need to be a 4.0 while in school and making the C really isn't that hard, so I'd say you could work, so school, and still look for a girl. I'd wager she'd be impressed by a christian dude going back to school to provide better for a future family and understand your work load. If face to face dates can't make it into your schedule, you can always stay up late and email or write letters once homework and work are done for the day. Who knows you could find a girl that's in school too and study together for a date that would be cool!
What's your major?