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I'm thinking of signing up for Christian Connections or Christian Mingle, but I was wondering if anyone out there had any experience with these or any views on dating websites in general, or these Christian specific ones.
They seem pretty expensive, but maybe it's worth it? Anyone got any ideas? : )
Yes, I have tried both in the last 2 years - waste of time and money. There are online scammers on all dating websites, even Christian ones. I always insist on meeting face to face in a very public place for coffee after one or 2 emails. 90% of the time, they make excuse or don't reply. Those that replied tend to be scammers. That's when you know they are either scammers or not genuine. I also found that I hardly get anyone writing to me first. To get your money's worth, you have to spend time searching, writing etc. when no-one replies (and I am not ugly), it can get very depressing and you can start to wonder what's wrong with you that no-one even bothers to reply and say 'No, thank you'. I found online dating very demeaning after a while and if you are not an extremely self-confident person, can be very bad for people with low self-esteem. I have promised myself that I will not myself through online dating again. If God wants me to have a partner, then He will have to get that person to initiate it first, otherwise I am preparing myself for a life on my own. so be it. I am not saying it won't work for you. It is just my personal experience. There are a few things you have to say NO to - the person does not live in the same city as you, he makes excuses why he can't meet you in person, happens to be flying overseas suddenly on a business trip when he said he will meet you, widower with a child who lives overseas/with grandparents, own their own business and the minute he asks you for money in any form (maybe only $100 to support charity), dump him straightaway!!
I got sick of OKC since nothing was working there and sorted the whole world by match percentage. Somehow I've got a really good friend out of the mix, and we still joke that I should have been deleted since she was getting 100+ messages a week with her very modest photos.Ain't that the truth! I have a profile on OKCupid and found someone in my area who is a Christian and has a 96% match. We got in touch to exchange 2 messages and that was it. She'd obviously been on this site for a long time and hadn't found anyone yet, and still decided to ignore me even though we had a pleasant couple of exchanges. Sounds like the too high standard you were talking about. I guess being 96% matched (the highest throughout the entire region) isn't good enough to even stay in contact with.
I'm weird that way. Maybe it's because I've felt burned.. But I'm one who appreciates Asian ladies more provided there is culture present. My sister doesn't care for Caucasians at all, whilst my sentiments aren't as strong but exist to a point... I've been told "you can find an ABC (American Born Asian) when you move to Texas" by my Taiwanese friend who was saying they will be closer and probably more attractive than her. But really when it boils down to it if your culture is different, or you look different people usually don't want that since it's not as easy or straightforward.When I first started online dating years ago I was having a huge crush on the Caucasian ladies. It was very tough for me since I am Asian and 5'8. For that first year I had like zero replies and went on zero dates. I got discouraged and stopped going online for over a year.
Looking back it seems that Caucasian ladies would only be interested in Caucasian men. That is ok it is their free choice. And given how hard it already was for a Caucasian man to find a Caucasian lady online, it actually shouldn't be a surprise that an Asian guy like me got zero replies.
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When I returned to online dating last year, I no longer want a Caucasian lady. In fact I am against it since they wasted a whole year of my time (once again not their fault. But they did waste my time). Now I aim for Asian ladies. And I had much more success.
I went on multiple dates and found my very first GF. We dated for a few months but that ended in a break up. I was devastated but hey I was 31 years old and it is about time I get my very first heart break. And nothing regretful happened so I passed the test.
After a break I went back online. Since then I had dated multiple ladies. Some has ended totally. Some has become casual friends with me. Got to keep trying. =)
Ladies get tons unless they're scary in their profile pics. It peeved me and annoyed me but my best friend (that I always mention of course) kept fishing for more friends on OKC. She got a LOT of creeps since they automatically think Asian girls are easy or some stupid concept so she eventually got sick of it. She was getting 100+ messages a week, but only a few % of them were worth replying to. But I bet girls have a good sucess rate with messages unlike guys.From what I hear the ladies often gets a ton of messages to them on online dating sites. The hard part is picking and choosing which guy they should respond to.
Do you get a lot of profile reads? If you don't, that means you have to find a better picture of yourself as your profile lead picture.
If you are getting a lot of profile reads but no message, then perhaps you need to rewrite your self description.
My answer would be no don't do it. Sadly my own husband set himself up on this dating site and lied about being single. Although they will shut the liars down in a heart beat once found out. The problem is, in the meantime how many hearts will be broken before they are found out? Many churches have singles ministry's try one of those. At least that way the participants are affiliated with the church and the likely hood of them being married is very slim.I'm thinking of signing up for Christian Connections or Christian Mingle, but I was wondering if anyone out there had any experience with these or any views on dating websites in general, or these Christian specific ones.
They seem pretty expensive, but maybe it's worth it? Anyone got any ideas? : )
I still think there is a knee-jerk response to some religious beliefs. I would expect some of you to be eating out of your hand. For example, YankeeGirl.
I'm thinking of signing up for Christian Connections or Christian Mingle, but I was wondering if anyone out there had any experience with these or any views on dating websites in general, or these Christian specific ones.
They seem pretty expensive, but maybe it's worth it? Anyone got any ideas? : )
I still think there is a knee-jerk response to some religious beliefs. I would expect some of you to be eating out of your hand. For example, YankeeGirl.
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