Dating question

[r035198x]

Greet them, ask for their number and tell them that I want to get to know them better.

 

[leothelioness]

I would take her aside and ask clearly, not leaving room for a vague answer. I would probably visibly hem and haw about this first to fight my natural shyness for a while, then do it. Before I would do so, I would spend some months or a year or more just observing her to see if she's someone I want to take things further with. This isn't admiring and pining, this is just observation and restraining myself until the crush wins out over the restraint.

And this hasn't worked yet. I'm open to suggestions for improvement.

Six months to a year?? If you haven't done anything by that point, she's going to move on to someone else thinking you aren't interested.

 

[Blank123]

Six months to a year?? If you haven't done anything by that point, she's going to move on to someone else thinking you aren't interested.

I agree. I'd suggest that if you meet someone who intrigues you that you ask her out first. Use the dating process as a means to determine if there's anything there.

 

[anewday]

I agree. I'd suggest that if you meet someone who intrigues you that you ask her out first. Use the dating process as a means to determine if there's anything there.

 

[Paulie079]

I agree. I'd suggest that if you meet someone who intrigues you that you ask her out first. Use the dating process as a means to determine if there's anything there.

I think this is one of the biggest things guys and girls get backwards nowadays. Now, it's like you have to go through sort of a pre-dating, hangout process to find out if someone is dateable, when the whole point of dating is to do what you're doing in the pre-dating process lol. Fellas, you don't have to know her middle name, shoe size, favorite Bible verse, and spiritual birthday in order to take her out for dinner

 

[Sketcher]

Six months to a year?? If you haven't done anything by that point, she's going to move on to someone else thinking you aren't interested.

I agree. I'd suggest that if you meet someone who intrigues you that you ask her out first. Use the dating process as a means to determine if there's anything there.

Fair enough - how else do you suggest that I weed women out? I've had bad luck with women who turned out to be psycho, and women who appeared to be interested, but turned out not to be interested. Time allows me to profile a woman's individual behavior towards different guys to gauge interest and find out if she's psycho before getting involved with her. It's helped me dodge a few bullets, to be honest with you. What is your suggestion for accomplishing this and getting the right woman interested?

 

[Paulie079]

Fair enough - how else do you suggest that I weed women out? I've had bad luck with women who turned out to be psycho, and women who appeared to be interested, but turned out not to be interested. Time allows me to profile a woman's individual behavior towards different guys to gauge interest and find out if she's psycho before getting involved with her. It's helped me dodge a few bullets, to be honest with you. What is your suggestion for accomplishing this and getting the right woman interested?

But see, you can go on a date to get to know someone better without getting involved with her. That is, you can go on a date (or three) before asking her to be your girlfriend. Just be clear about your plan and intentions.

 

[Blank123]

Fair enough - how else do you suggest that I weed women out? I've had bad luck with women who turned out to be psycho, and women who appeared to be interested, but turned out not to be interested. Time allows me to profile a woman's individual behavior towards different guys to gauge interest and find out if she's psycho before getting involved with her. It's helped me dodge a few bullets, to be honest with you. What is your suggestion for accomplishing this and getting the right woman interested?

Thats the point of dating, to determine who you actually want to be involved with. If she turns out to be someone you'd rather not be linked to, then obviously its time to move on.