Dating Question

[MsAngela2170]

Hi,
This is my first posting and I have a question. My boyfriend that I've been dating for just over a year is best friends with his ex-wife. He and I both live in GA and she lives in New York. My boyfriend is going to New York for training in a couple of weeks and apparently each time he goes (1 or 2 times per year for training), he gets together with his ex-wife and hangs out. My boyfriend and I are both christians, but I am not sure about his ex-wife.
So...his ex-wife invited me to come to New York and spend the weekend at her house (with my boyfriend) so we can meet each other. I wanted to see what other people thought about this situation.

Thoughts and Opinions?

Thanks!

 

[McScribe]

Well they are best friends.

 

[rainy]

Do they have children together and why are not married anymore? courious..
Think in all actuallity praying is the best way to go on this.

 

[thefallguy25]

Divorce is a crazy beast. My brother and his ex r not friends but his wife and ex are friends. Crazy? Do you trust him? It sounds as if the ex is not trying to hide anything,so maybe you should go if you can. It is easier to have a friendly ex than be in the middle of fights and drama. Pray about if and see what happens.

 

[Bridgit]

This is an unusual situation. I would definitely pray about it. I don't know what I'll do, nor if I'd like my hubby to go there, unless he has children from that first marriage.

 

[saved24]

Well, if you don't feel comfortable about it don't go. I could not even handle meeting my ex-boyfriend's wife when we were dating and he went to pick up his daughter. They were not best friends though, I think he just wanted to flaunt me in front of her, which is wierd and unkind. I can't even imagine dating someone who is best friends with his ex-wife, I mean if I intended to marry him, it would hurt to know my husband was best friends with his wife and I was 2nd in line and he goes to visit with her and spend time with her. That would hurt! some can handle it, can you? and well good advice here to pray about it and asking a Pastor/Minister for counsel might be a good thing to do too. You have a tough decison to make, but really don't do what you feel uncomfortable doing, if this man really cares about you he will respect your decision. God bless. Sending up a prayer for you.

 

[nick garai]

Well, if they divorced and are still friends then that bodes well for you. At least there is no drama. Go ahead and get to know her. She sounds like she is a friendly enough person and has no ill will towards you dating her ex-husband. Just remember that they are still friends so you will have to watch your P's and Q's when talking with her. You don't want to say something offensive that later comes back to haunt you in your relationship with your boyfriend.