- Jul 19, 2015
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I am never sure how much to relate about myself in dating profiles. Some people believe in keeping it light and saving anything heavier for once you get to know each other. I tend to want to save people time by sharing a bit more. Some counter my idea by suggesting that if I share too much upfront I may be dismissed whereas once they got to know me they might form a liking and be more willing to consider something that they might have otherwise considered a show stopper.
One is example is that I am not that family oriented. My siblings all live out-of-state. We are close and I see them from time to time but we make no effort to gather at holidays. Our parents are deceased so we no longer gather with them. I have 3 adult children though none with kids yet. I grew up in a dysfunctional family due to alcoholism. I am very close to retirement and am strongly considering moving one to two days drive from where I live now. Not to avoid my kids but to be somewhere I love and can pursue my retirement activities in.
I have met women with lots of grandkids and who just love family. That is truly a great thing but I know it's not me. I don't see myself as the doting grandfather. The norm for me is spending holidays alone. In general I would prefer to spend holidays with one other person and once in a while with family. Hanging out with grandchildren a lot is not something I would enjoy a lot.
So is that something worth mentioning in someway in a profile? If so how would you say it? I know that is important to a lot of women my age so I hate to waste women's time. In general I am not super social. A little goes a long ways with me.
Worth mentioning upfront?
One is example is that I am not that family oriented. My siblings all live out-of-state. We are close and I see them from time to time but we make no effort to gather at holidays. Our parents are deceased so we no longer gather with them. I have 3 adult children though none with kids yet. I grew up in a dysfunctional family due to alcoholism. I am very close to retirement and am strongly considering moving one to two days drive from where I live now. Not to avoid my kids but to be somewhere I love and can pursue my retirement activities in.
I have met women with lots of grandkids and who just love family. That is truly a great thing but I know it's not me. I don't see myself as the doting grandfather. The norm for me is spending holidays alone. In general I would prefer to spend holidays with one other person and once in a while with family. Hanging out with grandchildren a lot is not something I would enjoy a lot.
So is that something worth mentioning in someway in a profile? If so how would you say it? I know that is important to a lot of women my age so I hate to waste women's time. In general I am not super social. A little goes a long ways with me.
Worth mentioning upfront?