Dating- age differences etc.....

[Alecto]

I am 18 and the girl who I am in a relationship with is 16. I find nothing difficult about it. It depends on the maturity of the two people involved. If you talked to her for a bit, you would never know she was 16, she looks and acts 18, as far as Im concerned, shes perfect.

Love knows no boundaries, age, gender, race, religion whatever.

 

[The Gregorian]

also depends on the person. Difference between almost 15 (14) and 16 might not be very much... but it might be a LOT. I'm 20 and there are some 16 year olds I wouldn't feel bad about dating (not for sex, that's illegal... but just for someone to keep me company)... but not many. Most people change a LOT between 14 and 16... and even more between 16-18... I really don't think I've changed since 18 though... but I'm really immature.

 

[Nymphalidae]

I wished I felt the same.

I don't know about the interesting part, but the experienced part is pretty much moot for me, considering I don't want to have sex again until I'm married.

I'm 30, and I cannot find a women around my age that I would consider dating. All the good one's are either taken, or there's a reason why they alone.

Think of it like this people's, the older a women get's, the less appealing on an attractive level they become.

Unfortunately.

I don't think that's the reason for impotence in older men.

 

[Harlan Norris]

Frankly I think you are both to young. She definatly is. As time goes by you will realize that things that seem extremely important now, wont amount to much later. You will however be placing yourselves in circumstances that can cause a life altering failier of charicter. Cool down take your time. You are young. Plenty of time for dating when you are mature enough to handle any outcome.

 

[Seaside Mists]

My husband is 10 years older than I am. 10 years and 9 days. We never think of our age difference. So 15 and 16 isn't a big difference at all...

You're both teens, and at 16 I was thinking about my prom and semi-formal date prospects. I think at both of your ages it's totally healthy to "go out." Just be responsible about it. Keep the parents informed, respect each others boundaries, blah blah blah (what I'm saying is nothing you've never heard before I'm sure).

 

[HeyHomie]

A good rule of thumb that I read somewhere is that the lower age limit for who you should date is half your age plus seven years.


So if you're 34 like me, then the lower age limit is (*does math*) 17 + 7, or 24. I couldn't see myself dating a 24-year-old, but whatever.

For my father, who is 55 & on his third wife, the lower limit would be 27.5 + 7, or 34.5. That's actually a few months older than his current wife is, but things will iron themselves out in a few years, mathematically, anyway.

If you're 16, the lower limit would be 8 + 7, or 15. Looks like you're in the clear.

 

[Ledifni]

I have searched the forums and have found several topics of non-christian dating (which i believe is a big NO), but have not found anything on age differneces. In my opinion, i think it is very important that both the guy and girl are roughly the same strength spiritually (if that makes sense at all ) and maturity wise but i just wanted some opinions about age differneces because i really like this girl but she is almost 15 and i am about 16 1/2, so..... any opinions and input would be great, thanks.

That's it? You guys might as well be the same age. When you're 28 and thinking about dating an 18-year-old (assuming you stay away from the jailbait) then you might have something to worry about.

 

[Alecto]

A good rule of thumb that I read somewhere is that the lower age limit for who you should date is half your age plus seven years.


So if you're 34 like me, then the lower age limit is (*does math*) 17 + 7, or 24. I couldn't see myself dating a 24-year-old, but whatever.

For my father, who is 55 & on his third wife, the lower limit would be 27.5 + 7, or 34.5. That's actually a few months older than his current wife is, but things will iron themselves out in a few years, mathematically, anyway.

If you're 16, the lower limit would be 8 + 7, or 15. Looks like you're in the clear.

Huh? Im not gonna sit down and start doing math problems to see if its ok for me to date someone.

Why cant you just run with it and deal with any problems when they come up?

 

[HeyHomie]

Huh? Im not gonna sit down and start doing math problems to see if its ok for me to date someone.

Why cant you just run with it and deal with any problems when they come up?

It's a suggestion, dude, not a law. Make of it what you will.

 

[AngylBelle]

Age gaps don't matter a whole lot...but it depends on the age in which the gaps occur. For instance, my bf and I are 5 years apart in age...I was 18 when we started dating he was 23, which is fine, but it would have been twisted if we had dated when I was 12 and he was 17, lol.

The same goes for his parents. They are 11 years apart in age and started dating when she was 25 and he was 36...perfectly acceptable because both were mature enough and old enough to make their own decisions. Mind you, had they dated 8 years earlier, his dad would have been a pedofile.

Rather than look at age, look at maturity. I have known many 30 year olds who should be back in kindergarten and many 16 year olds who are wise beyond their years. Each person is different and so is each relationship. To put a generalization on what is or is not acceptable with an age limit is not only impossible, it's absurd.

 

[Ryan Gates]

Well the age difference is up to the person but as far as spiritual maturity that is very important becuase in the Bible it talks about being equally yoked. So that should tell you to be equally yoked spiritually especially even more than just age difference or solical things.

 

[36 degrees]

what when woman i loved for 20 years,same age as me,is about to marry 22 year old ?

 

[Jamme]

A good rule of thumb that I read somewhere is that the lower age limit for who you should date is half your age plus seven years.


So if you're 34 like me, then the lower age limit is (*does math*) 17 + 7, or 24. I couldn't see myself dating a 24-year-old, but whatever.

For my father, who is 55 & on his third wife, the lower limit would be 27.5 + 7, or 34.5. That's actually a few months older than his current wife is, but things will iron themselves out in a few years, mathematically, anyway.

If you're 16, the lower limit would be 8 + 7, or 15. Looks like you're in the clear.

Ooh, that's good to hear

The guy I have my eye on is a lot older than me - but according to your criterion, I am bang on his lower age limit

 

[Moros]

My dad's 60 and my mom's 46. Bad combination.