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Dating Advice for Guys
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Breetai
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It's no joke. Desi isn't kidding at all when he's saying those things. I used to do it too. Girls like the compatition. Plus, with the way that so many girls are, we need someone else ready to go for when the first girl gets all crazy and leaves with some other guy(probably me, Jay or Desililray said:
). It's all part of the dating game, and you girls are just as much to blame as us guys for it's existance.Nice guys finish last.desi said:
You girls can't help but to like the bad boys. A nice guy is someone that a girl wants to marry, but a bad boy is what she wants to be with now (and probably ends up marrying in the process, then divorces a few years later because the bad boy was being bad).Unfortunately, that's how it is.
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gosh darnit I WANT a nice guy. But I don't see any of THOSE falling at my doorstep! You nice, Christian guys are waiting around for a gorgeous girl who wants a bunch of children who will stay home and care for them and treat you like a king when you come home all the while never getting a stretch mark.
If I could even get a GOOD guy interested enough in me to at least get to know me, that would be a blessing. But, as usual, the "bad" boys are attracted to me and at first I actually think they're one of the nice guys. Go figure.
I choose to focus on my run for city council in a few years so I can eventually take over the mayor's spot.
If I could even get a GOOD guy interested enough in me to at least get to know me, that would be a blessing. But, as usual, the "bad" boys are attracted to me and at first I actually think they're one of the nice guys. Go figure.
I choose to focus on my run for city council in a few years so I can eventually take over the mayor's spot.
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This was a dating advice thread right?
How its suppose to be and how it is are very different, we can start picking partners that would do wonders. It wont drop divorce rates the only way to drop those... is to get rid of divorce. There is a respectful and right way to do things, even the bad boy if he knows what he is doing, meets the parents of he picks her up, opens her door, its part of the bad boy persona, be good with a streak of bad, how bad is one thing, but you can be bad with out being bad. Skydiving, dirtbiking, physical stuff where "you could get hurt" is more of of the happy medium I guess.
What scares me the most, the person in this thread who seems to be making the most statement, i wont call that advice.
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How its suppose to be and how it is are very different, we can start picking partners that would do wonders. It wont drop divorce rates the only way to drop those... is to get rid of divorce. There is a respectful and right way to do things, even the bad boy if he knows what he is doing, meets the parents of he picks her up, opens her door, its part of the bad boy persona, be good with a streak of bad, how bad is one thing, but you can be bad with out being bad. Skydiving, dirtbiking, physical stuff where "you could get hurt" is more of of the happy medium I guess.
What scares me the most, the person in this thread who seems to be making the most statement, i wont call that advice.
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I believe a person on this board once posted a verse about the wise remaining silent and something about a fool running his mouth..... wait desi you quoted that verse.
Ill take Shut up for 1000....ooooOOOOO lucky me its a Daily Double.
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Ill take Shut up for 1000....ooooOOOOO lucky me its a Daily Double.
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Warrior Poet said:I believe a person on this board once posted a verse about the wise remaining silent and something about a fool running his mouth..... wait desi you quoted that verse.
Ill take Shut up for 1000....ooooOOOOO lucky me its a Daily Double.
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Doh! If so, I'm a fool married to a gorgeous woman for going on ten years. If I can offer advice to help other Christian men out I would be selfish to withold info, as would you.
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Dude! I know you're being serious, but I can't help but think this is so hilarious! If I find out some guy I'm dating is seeing other people.. my first reaction is "SEE YA!" I am outta there! There is no way I'm gonna hang out with a guy one day and have him go out with someone else the next day. Hey, I don't know.. maybe I'm selfish, but as for me.. I don't like to share.Breetai said:It's no joke. Desi isn't kidding at all when he's saying those things. I used to do it too. Girls like the compatition. Plus, with the way that so many girls are, we need someone else ready to go for when the first girl gets all crazy and leaves with some other guy(probably me, Jay or Desi
If when you say nice guys, you mean guys that lack confidence and allow others to walk all over them, then yes they finish last. I don't want a guy like that no matter how nice he is. If you mean bad boys are the guys with confidence and a personality, yes then I want a bad boy! My idea of a bad boy is someone who will not treat me with respect. I definitely DON'T want that. Any girl with half a brain and some confidence would not want that either.Breetai said:Nice guys finish last.
Unfortunately, that's how it is.
So, I guess in your experience that's how it is, but in reality that is not how it has to be. I like this thread though and can understand how you guys have come to these conclusions. Some of my friends who have very low self esteem go for 'bad boys', but not all girls do that.
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desi said:
Which is a direct contradiction to the verse in question.I will no use this same answer to the thread where you posted that verse.Sucks when it comes back to bite yah in the rear
Nice guys finish last, cause they arent worried about winning."First shall be _ _ _ _ and the _ _ _ _ shall be first"
Dont make it about winning, cause at one point all winners, are/were losers too.
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"Good advice is something a man gives when he is too old to set a bad example." - Francois de La Rouchefoucauld
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Nope.. No Canadian in me - eh?!? hee!hee!Breetai said:If it helps...I don't do that anymore.
So...how you doing? Do you have any Canadian in you?
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if you're dating for the long term, or for short term satisfaction, will really determine what you do and how you treat your lady.
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I couldn't agree more
There are a lot of christian singles (and couples) who agree that dating (or courting, if thats the word you prefer) should only be started and continued if the purpose is marriage-focussed. Therefore, their discussions and interaction always reflect this.
However, there are also some young Christian singles (usually between 13 and 24, however I know some older guys also), who are just dating to get to know the opposite sex a bit better and to help them start defining what it is they REALLY want in a man. Dr Dobson, Cloud and Townsend, all state that this is also a sensible form of dating, as long as the general Christian views are maintained in the relationship (ie, respect, physical restraint, etc etc)...
This doesn't mean that I don't know Christians who just date for fun. This can be good as well, provided that they aren't getting in over their head whilst doing so!!! I have been on what a lay person would call a 'date', where all it's been is the fact that me and a guy at work both wanted to see the same movie and decided to go. No romantic feelings, just a good companionship.
Personally, I have no 'beef' with any of these viewpoints on dating - all of them have their own good points and bad points. It's all in the personal definition of the word - at the end of it, the most important thing is that you are treating the other person as you would have them treat you - respectfully, honourably, lovingly and with deep care....
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