Dating Advice for Guys

[Breetai]

However, there are also some young Christian singles (usually between 13 and 24, however I know some older guys also), who are just dating to get to know the opposite sex a bit better and to help them start defining what it is they REALLY want in a man. Dr Dobson, Cloud and Townsend, all state that this is also a sensible form of dating, as long as the general Christian views are maintained in the relationship (ie, respect, physical restraint, etc etc)...

Hmmmm..... I like to just hang out with girls, but I don't think that I would call that dating. In doing so, I can get a better idea of what I like and don't like in women without 'dating'. I wonder if these guys, like Dobson, Cloud and Townsend would call what I do dating???

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Breetai,

Yeah I completely understand that - I guess I look at it like, ok, so I know I'm not dating this guy - but what do those people over there think?

Let's look at what I'm doing

1) Me and this guy, just us, at a movie
2) Me and this guy, laughing, talking, getting along pretty well
3) Me and this guy, sit together, may share popcorn

In their mind, I guess this would equal a date. The amount of times I've been hanging out at a mates cricket or soccer game or met somewhere for dinner and seen occasional acquaintances!!! The first question - so how long have you two been dating? The first answer - oh no he's not my bf/she's not my gf - we're just really good friends.

I know I shouldn't, but I do think of what others think, and if you're in a situation where it could look like a date, then it probably is one - no matter how much we hate the thought!!


I guess that is what Cloud/Dobson would consider defines a 'date' - regardless of any physical interactions!

Sasch

 

[LadyBird]

Advice...

Don't get so comfortable in your relationship that things become a routine. You have to keep the passion alive and always work on your relationship or else the "fire" will burn out.