Llauralin
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As a fellow introvert I'd like to say that introversion need not = an inibilty to take initiative, and start up a conversation (perhaps to be continued over coffee). I think there's a bit of misunderstanding: being an "introvert" means that a person spends a lot of their time doing things independantly, needs "olone time" to recharge, isn't generally into big social gatherings, and such like. A lot of us also tend to be rather shy, but that can be gotten over; it isn't part of our fundamental makeup.
I can't give you much dating advice: if I knew how to find a nice chap to go out with I wouldn't be here at a singles forum. But, really, it's not all that complicated, or at least not at first: if you know a girl you'd like to get to know better (perhaps with dating potential), ask her to go do something with you. It hardly even matters what as long as it's fun and not too formal: go to a movie, or a play, or a concert, or dance; have lunch; take a walk; go on a picnic; cook something, or watever. If you're really nervous, do something with other friends as well the first time, and then try something one-on-one.
I'm not too sure about the personality type thing, but if the words introverted, intuitive, feeler, perceiver mean the same as they do in common usage, I have an idea what they mean. Sounds like a collector of stories, or possibly of conversations. (I'm a Judger, but that gets me in trouble as well) So go be thoughtful about the girl you like: I doubt very much you don't know what to do as much as you're just uncomfortable doing it.
On the whole "friend zone" thing... are you really sure about that? I mean, have you asked? Because some of us introverted lasses, especially if we've been brought up in a pretty conservative family, won't let on that we like a chap until he says something pretty definite first (if they're as dense as me it has to be something along the lines of "I really like you." No, wait, a guy said that to me and I didn't know how to interpret it. Perhaps something more along the lines of "will you be my girlfriend?") Case in point: I am a hopeless coward. I hade the hogest crush on my best guy friend, and he seemed to like me alright as well. When I like someone I want to hang out and talk about the meaning of the universe,the proper usee of the intellect, sacramental theology, or anything else of interest. I think it confuses guys a wee bit sometimes. So we're still good friends, but he got a girlfriend. I'm sure I'll get over it eventually. But anyway, just because a girl is just friends, and acts like she just wants to be friends, and does all the stuff your guy friends do with you, it doesn't necessarily mean she either does or does not like you. To find that out, you may just have to ask...
I can't give you much dating advice: if I knew how to find a nice chap to go out with I wouldn't be here at a singles forum. But, really, it's not all that complicated, or at least not at first: if you know a girl you'd like to get to know better (perhaps with dating potential), ask her to go do something with you. It hardly even matters what as long as it's fun and not too formal: go to a movie, or a play, or a concert, or dance; have lunch; take a walk; go on a picnic; cook something, or watever. If you're really nervous, do something with other friends as well the first time, and then try something one-on-one.
I'm not too sure about the personality type thing, but if the words introverted, intuitive, feeler, perceiver mean the same as they do in common usage, I have an idea what they mean. Sounds like a collector of stories, or possibly of conversations. (I'm a Judger, but that gets me in trouble as well) So go be thoughtful about the girl you like: I doubt very much you don't know what to do as much as you're just uncomfortable doing it.
On the whole "friend zone" thing... are you really sure about that? I mean, have you asked? Because some of us introverted lasses, especially if we've been brought up in a pretty conservative family, won't let on that we like a chap until he says something pretty definite first (if they're as dense as me it has to be something along the lines of "I really like you." No, wait, a guy said that to me and I didn't know how to interpret it. Perhaps something more along the lines of "will you be my girlfriend?") Case in point: I am a hopeless coward. I hade the hogest crush on my best guy friend, and he seemed to like me alright as well. When I like someone I want to hang out and talk about the meaning of the universe,the proper usee of the intellect, sacramental theology, or anything else of interest. I think it confuses guys a wee bit sometimes. So we're still good friends, but he got a girlfriend. I'm sure I'll get over it eventually. But anyway, just because a girl is just friends, and acts like she just wants to be friends, and does all the stuff your guy friends do with you, it doesn't necessarily mean she either does or does not like you. To find that out, you may just have to ask...
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