Dating a psychopath

[Heartofsilver]

This past December I was eating lunch in the cafeteria at school. A man sat across the way at another table and spotted my Santa hat. He started talking to me about God, the Bible, living abroad, and starting a Bible study on campus. He seemed like a very friendly, intelligent and out going person. He gave me his number and we started texting. We continue talking about God, the Bible, and Christian living. He seemed to know much about the Bible and seemed spiritually leading. Though eventually I saw that this was all we were talking about. Whenever I tried talking about regular subjects, he brought it right back to what we were talking about previously. I also started seeing that he didn't end up asking me to lunch or coffee or just hanging out. He also began talking to me about what seemed like false teachings and I tried politely, but firm to correct him, and it eventually turned into a small argument/dabate. I later thought that maybe something got lost in translation and told him that it would be best to talk about this in person. We met up again at school and I noticed that he was very overbooked. He told me that I could still meet with him if I attended a meeting with him along with another friend of his that he would have to tell the same thing. So, I did and his friend showed up a bit later during the meeting who he ended up mentoring. After the meeting, I talked to him in person about what he was misinterpreting when it came to being friends with non-Christians and sharing the Gospel with them. He acted as though, he was seeing what I meant and agreed with me. This had me thinking that maybe something did get lost in translation. He wanted to start hanging out with me and so we did. We were having a great time doing ministry and discipleship together. Though I noticed that he was always overbooked, saying yes to every opportunity, that he wasn't sharing very much about himself, and trying to find out everything there is to know about me very quickly. He seemed to be asking me very personal spiritual questions often and we were just starting to hang out. He eventually asked me out on a date. I came over to his place and another man showed up, he seemed like he was in need of help. He ended up coming on our date with us, which the other man said nothing. As for my date, all he really did was ask me very intrusive questions and insult my faith as well as my walk with God. We went back to his place, he tried counseling his friend and only gave him the biblical answer. I was wondering throughout time as I saw him do ministry, where was the compassion? I tried counseling him myself and there was listening, love, and even breakthrough perhaps. I took my date outside and let him know that he had hurt me. When this happened he told me that I misinterpreted what he said, so I thought about giving him the benefit of the doubt though somewhat reluctantly. He was already invited to come to my small group a couple days later and ended up showing up late which I was honestly relieved, since I didn't want him to show up. He ended up being nice to me for the most part, so I thought that maybe we could just be friends. The week goes by, we have discipleship, and he is treating me wonderful. He wanted to take me out dancing and so, I went on a second date with him. I show up dressed and made up, he actually shows up on time, greets me, and walks away. It seemed like he was helping out with the programming and we end up in a circle and rotating parteners. He gets in the circle, it rotates a couple times and he pulls another girl out of the circle to dance with him. He danced with her almost the whole time, at some point I could hear him talking about me with this girl, and it wasn't good. She leaves and he dances with me for a little bit. I took him outside to ask him what we were doing and his answer was all over the place with wanting to be friends with me, date me, and do ministry with me. When I got home I asked him what he meant when he had previously talked about me doing ministry with him, his answer was self centered, and went back into his false teaching on how we should treat non-christians. I quit speaking to him which he blew up my phone up with text messages, phone calls, and voicemail. I refreshed my memory on my studies and saw that he checked off almost every box in being a psychopath and discovered that the emotional receptor in thier brain isn't working properly or at all which isn't a good trait to have. Though I also discovered that with proper treatment there is hope for them. God was giving me a feeling, a sensation the entire time that I was around him. At first, I thought it was God trying to tell me that he was the one or that this would be a spiritual relationship. Though as time went on, I saw that this was not so as God started telling me "danger, danger", "don't get into a vehicle with him", and "wolves amongst the sheep". I became more cautious when God was telling me this and eventually saw the truth for myself. Now I know that, the sensation that God gave me now and one other time before wasn't to let me know that someone was the one, but to let me know that they are potientually dangerous and/or a psychopath. God was trying to warn, cover, and protect me from him and another guy as well in the past.

 

[Jude1:3Contendforthefaith]

This past December I was eating lunch in the cafeteria at school. A man sat across the way at another table and spotted my Santa hat. He started talking to me about God, the Bible, living abroad, and starting a Bible study on campus. He seemed like a very friendly, intelligent and out going person. He gave me his number and we started texting. We continue talking about God, the Bible, and Christian living. He seemed to know much about the Bible and seemed spiritually leading. Though eventually I saw that this was all we were talking about. Whenever I tried talking about regular subjects, he brought it right back to what we were talking about previously. I also started seeing that he didn't end up asking me to lunch or coffee or just hanging out. He also began talking to me about what seemed like false teachings and I tried politely, but firm to correct him, and it eventually turned into a small argument/dabate. I later thought that maybe something got lost in translation and told him that it would be best to talk about this in person. We met up again at school and I noticed that he was very overbooked. He told me that I could still meet with him if I attended a meeting with him along with another friend of his that he would have to tell the same thing. So, I did and his friend showed up a bit later during the meeting who he ended up mentoring. After the meeting, I talked to him in person about what he was misinterpreting when it came to being friends with non-Christians and sharing the Gospel with them. He acted as though, he was seeing what I meant and agreed with me. This had me thinking that maybe something did get lost in translation. He wanted to start hanging out with me and so we did. We were having a great time doing ministry and discipleship together. Though I noticed that he was always overbooked, saying yes to every opportunity, that he wasn't sharing very much about himself, and trying to find out everything there is to know about me very quickly. He seemed to be asking me very personal spiritual questions often and we were just starting to hang out. He eventually asked me out on a date. I came over to his place and another man showed up, he seemed like he was in need of help. He ended up coming on our date with us, which the other man said nothing. As for my date, all he really did was ask me very intrusive questions and insult my faith as well as my walk with God. We went back to his place, he tried counseling his friend and only gave him the biblical answer. I was wondering throughout time as I saw him do ministry, where was the compassion? I tried counseling him myself and there was listening, love, and even breakthrough perhaps. I took my date outside and let him know that he had hurt me. When this happened he told me that I misinterpreted what he said, so I thought about giving him the benefit of the doubt though somewhat reluctantly. He was already invited to come to my small group a couple days later and ended up showing up late which I was honestly relieved, since I didn't want him to show up. He ended up being nice to me for the most part, so I thought that maybe we could just be friends. The week goes by, we have discipleship, and he is treating me wonderful. He wanted to take me out dancing and so, I went on a second date with him. I show up dressed and made up, he actually shows up on time, greets me, and walks away. It seemed like he was helping out with the programming and we end up in a circle and rotating parteners. He gets in the circle, it rotates a couple times and he pulls another girl out of the circle to dance with him. He danced with her almost the whole time, at some point I could hear him talking about me with this girl, and it wasn't good. She leaves and he dances with me for a little bit. I took him outside to ask him what we were doing and his answer was all over the place with wanting to be friends with me, date me, and do ministry with me. When I got home I asked him what he meant when he had previously talked about me doing ministry with him, his answer was self centered, and went back into his false teaching on how we should treat non-christians. I quit speaking to him which he blew up my phone up with text messages, phone calls, and voicemail. I refreshed my memory on my studies and saw that he checked off almost every box in being a psychopath and discovered that the emotional receptor in thier brain isn't working properly or at all which isn't a good trait to have. Though I also discovered that with proper treatment there is hope for them. God was giving me a feeling, a sensation the entire time that I was around him. At first, I thought it was God trying to tell me that he was the one or that this would be a spiritual relationship. Though as time went on, I saw that this was not so as God started telling me "danger, danger", "don't get into a vehicle with him", and "wolves amongst the sheep". I became more cautious when God was telling me this and eventually saw the truth for myself. Now I know that, the sensation that God gave me now and one other time before wasn't to let me know that someone was the one, but to let me know that they are potientually dangerous and/or a psychopath. God was trying to warn, cover, and protect me from him and another guy as well in the past.

Listen to The Holy Spirit and your intuition. There are A Ridiculous amount of Tares Among The Wheat and Wolves Among The Sheep right now.

I'm convinced that many of these people are just Closet Occultists "Pretending" to be Christians.

They are 100% Psychopaths.

These people are actually instructed to marry and date true Christians to try and mess up their lives.

 

[Jude1:3Contendforthefaith]

I have 2 friends that are genuine Christians that have married people who I'm convinced are playing for the other team and I don't know how to tell them.

 

[SkyWriting]

This past December I was eating lunch in the cafeteria at school. A man sat across the way at another table and spotted my Santa hat. He started talking to me about God, the Bible, living abroad, and starting a Bible study on campus. He seemed like a very friendly, intelligent and out going person. He gave me his number and we started texting. We continue talking about God, the Bible, and Christian living. He seemed to know much about the Bible and seemed spiritually leading. Though eventually I saw that this was all we were talking about. Whenever I tried talking about regular subjects, he brought it right back to what we were talking about previously. I also started seeing that he didn't end up asking me to lunch or coffee or just hanging out. He also began talking to me about what seemed like false teachings and I tried politely, but firm to correct him, and it eventually turned into a small argument/dabate. I later thought that maybe something got lost in translation and told him that it would be best to talk about this in person. We met up again at school and I noticed that he was very overbooked. He told me that I could still meet with him if I attended a meeting with him along with another friend of his that he would have to tell the same thing. So, I did and his friend showed up a bit later during the meeting who he ended up mentoring. After the meeting, I talked to him in person about what he was misinterpreting when it came to being friends with non-Christians and sharing the Gospel with them. He acted as though, he was seeing what I meant and agreed with me. This had me thinking that maybe something did get lost in translation. He wanted to start hanging out with me and so we did. We were having a great time doing ministry and discipleship together. Though I noticed that he was always overbooked, saying yes to every opportunity, that he wasn't sharing very much about himself, and trying to find out everything there is to know about me very quickly. He seemed to be asking me very personal spiritual questions often and we were just starting to hang out. He eventually asked me out on a date. I came over to his place and another man showed up, he seemed like he was in need of help. He ended up coming on our date with us, which the other man said nothing. As for my date, all he really did was ask me very intrusive questions and insult my faith as well as my walk with God. We went back to his place, he tried counseling his friend and only gave him the biblical answer. I was wondering throughout time as I saw him do ministry, where was the compassion? I tried counseling him myself and there was listening, love, and even breakthrough perhaps. I took my date outside and let him know that he had hurt me. When this happened he told me that I misinterpreted what he said, so I thought about giving him the benefit of the doubt though somewhat reluctantly. He was already invited to come to my small group a couple days later and ended up showing up late which I was honestly relieved, since I didn't want him to show up. He ended up being nice to me for the most part, so I thought that maybe we could just be friends. The week goes by, we have discipleship, and he is treating me wonderful. He wanted to take me out dancing and so, I went on a second date with him. I show up dressed and made up, he actually shows up on time, greets me, and walks away. It seemed like he was helping out with the programming and we end up in a circle and rotating parteners. He gets in the circle, it rotates a couple times and he pulls another girl out of the circle to dance with him. He danced with her almost the whole time, at some point I could hear him talking about me with this girl, and it wasn't good. She leaves and he dances with me for a little bit. I took him outside to ask him what we were doing and his answer was all over the place with wanting to be friends with me, date me, and do ministry with me. When I got home I asked him what he meant when he had previously talked about me doing ministry with him, his answer was self centered, and went back into his false teaching on how we should treat non-christians. I quit speaking to him which he blew up my phone up with text messages, phone calls, and voicemail. I refreshed my memory on my studies and saw that he checked off almost every box in being a psychopath and discovered that the emotional receptor in thier brain isn't working properly or at all which isn't a good trait to have. Though I also discovered that with proper treatment there is hope for them. God was giving me a feeling, a sensation the entire time that I was around him. At first, I thought it was God trying to tell me that he was the one or that this would be a spiritual relationship. Though as time went on, I saw that this was not so as God started telling me "danger, danger", "don't get into a vehicle with him", and "wolves amongst the sheep". I became more cautious when God was telling me this and eventually saw the truth for myself. Now I know that, the sensation that God gave me now and one other time before wasn't to let me know that someone was the one, but to let me know that they are potientually dangerous and/or a psychopath. God was trying to warn, cover, and protect me from him and another guy as well in the past.

God does not provide the smooth and easy path.
God promises to support you no matter what.

 

[LEAA/SOFR]

Last summer I was approached by someone in the mall corridor of
The Jordan Creek Town Center mall in West Des Moines. He wore a
Jesus T-shirt, carried a midsize Bible, and right out of the blue he asked
me where I was at in my relationship with Christ. This caught me off
guard just a bit, and after quickly composing myself I told him: "I don't
see how that's any of your business."

"Oh it is my business. The Lord revealed some things to me about you,
while you were in the Cheesecake Factory."

By this time I was ready to arrest him under citizen's arrest statutes
for harassment and disorderly conduct. You can do that you know.

I asked him how he knew if I was a believer or not. He pointed out the
button on my vest which reads: "God's Word: Your Door To Adventure."
He said he saw that standing next to me when I reached into my pocket
for my wallet to retrieve a Cheesecake coupon.

I turned, walked away and looking back, he was still standing there. I went to
the mall security office, and informed them of the incident. I made a report,
and while I was doing that they checked their video feed on the monitor's and
they found him, and zoomed in and got a good look at his face, clothing, so
forth. By the time I walked out, I went back toward the Cheesecake Factory
and two of the security officer's were already speaking to him, checking his ID.

That afternoon when I was on break I called the 700-Club line and spoke with
a counselor and he told me "Anyone doing that are generally the controlling type
who simply want to rope you into their conversation, and anything you tell them
would be wrong, no matter what. The Lord didn't tell him anything."

PS: The Cheesecake Factory is a restaurant that also serves alcohol. How many
other Christian's patronize eating establishments like that? I love their fish and
sandwiches, steaks and salads.

You know what? I'm getting hungry, so I'm going to stop right here and get lunch.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

These people are actually instructed to marry and date true Christians to try and mess up their lives.

The devil would love that.

To be equally yoked covers a lot of territory.

M-Bob

 

[Heartofsilver]

Last summer I was approached by someone in the mall corridor of
The Jordan Creek Town Center mall in West Des Moines. He wore a
Jesus T-shirt, carried a midsize Bible, and right out of the blue he asked
me where I was at in my relationship with Christ. This caught me off
guard just a bit, and after quickly composing myself I told him: "I don't
see how that's any of your business."

"Oh it is my business. The Lord revealed some things to me about you,
while you were in the Cheesecake Factory."

By this time I was ready to arrest him under citizen's arrest statutes
for harassment and disorderly conduct. You can do that you know.

I asked him how he knew if I was a believer or not. He pointed out the
button on my vest which reads: "God's Word: Your Door To Adventure."
He said he saw that standing next to me when I reached into my pocket
for my wallet to retrieve a Cheesecake coupon.

I turned, walked away and looking back, he was still standing there. I went to
the mall security office, and informed them of the incident. I made a report,
and while I was doing that they checked their video feed on the monitor's and
they found him, and zoomed in and got a good look at his face, clothing, so
forth. By the time I walked out, I went back toward the Cheesecake Factory
and two of the security officer's were already speaking to him, checking his ID.

That afternoon when I was a on break I called the 700-Club line and spoke with
a counselor and he told me "Anyone doing that are generally the controlling type
who simply want to rope you into their conversation, and anything you tell them
would be wrong, no matter what. The Lord didn't tell him anything."

PS: The Cheesecake Factory is a restaurant that also serves alcohol. How many
other Christian's patronize eating establishments like that? I love their fish and
sandwiches, steaks and salads.

You know what? I'm getting hungry, so I'm going to stop right here and get lunch.

That is a very interesting story and I'm glad that you are ok. The guy I spoke to was telling me that God told him to go talk to me. Yes, the cheesecake factory is a good place to eat, though I don't order alochol from there either.

 

[joshua 1 9]

he pulls another girl out of the circle to dance with him. He danced with her almost the whole time

Sounds like he is wanting an open relationship. My mom told a story once of pouring a picture of water on my dad because she felt he was paying to much attention to another women.

 

[LEAA/SOFR]

That is a very interesting story and I'm glad that you are ok. The guy I spoke to was telling me that God told him to go talk to me. Yes, the cheesecake factory is a good place to eat, though I don't order alochol from there either.

I don't see your point here.

 

[LaSorcia]

This has to be the strangest thread I've come across in some time. I appreciate it.

 

[LEAA/SOFR]

I don't see your point here.

Let me rephrase that: are you being facetious with me?

 

[Heartofsilver]

Let me rephrase that: are you being facetious with me?

I was responding to your whole post.

 

[Heartofsilver]

Sounds like he is wanting an open relationship. My mom told a story once of pouring a picture of water on my dad because she felt he was paying to much attention to another women.

I'm very sorry to hear about this and I'm here if you would like to chat. I too have issues when it comes to family. As for this particular case with the guy though, it wasn't about having an open relationship. It was about him gaining power and control over others. I was wondering after a couple of incidences why he was trying so hard to humiliate me and I discovered with further research that psychopaths humiliate their victims, so that they can further control them and have a tight grip on them. While dating they also use a method called:

Triangulation
"Psychopaths love to work you up into a state of obsessive frenzy, so to do that, they idealize you, give you fabulous perks, and then begin pulling away and “triangulating.” This is when they introduce other people into the mix to make you jealous. It could be an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, a friend of the same sex, or even a celebrity. In the psychopaths mind, everyone else wants him, so you better be on your best behavior, or he will move on to one of his adoring fans."