Dating a non-christian

[4jc]

Okay, here is the deal. I am a christian and I have a girl friend(just a friend), and I know she likes me. I like her also. She is not a Christian, but she says she has a relationship with God.
Now I know that unless you be born again, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.
That being said, I have asked her to church, and she said she will go with me. I do believe that if we we did decide to date each other, she would become a christian(not because of me), because she finds interest in my walk with God.
She also knows me very well, that I don't like swearing and lieing, etc... She respects that.
Like I said, I believe in my heart that she will become a christian in time.
Opinions anyone?

 

[MizDoulos]

Moving your thread here from Questions About Christianity. Your question would be more appropriately answered here.

 

[Susan]

I think it's wrong. You should not be involved with her.

 

[Hojo Hominygrits]

When I met my wife, she was not a Christian. When I married my wife, she was not a Christian. About a year after we married, she accepted Jesus Christ as her savior. Mostly, she says, because of the things she saw in my life. I have no idea what she saw, because I wasn't exactly living for Christ at the time. But obviously Christ was doing some work. She has been an inspiration to me in that I see what wonderful work The Lord has done in her. She has a very sensitive heart for God.

I absolutely believe that God put her in my life for a reason even though she wasn't a Christian at the time she came into my life. If I would have shunned her because she wasn't a Christian at the time, I wonder if she would've ever become saved? Maybe.

In retrospect, I think God had a dual purpose in putting us together. One, to save her, and two, to turn me back towards Him.

 

[AnnMercy2]

I wouldn't personally date someone who is not a christian. I wouldn't want the risk of falling in love with someone that doesn't love the Lord. Because I believe in that scripture about being unevenly yoked. It would cause so many problems. I guess what I want to say is ( or make that what I believe the Lords wants me to say, I always pray before I try to answer a question like this or anything question for that matter) Be friends, and if and when she gets saved, pray to the Lord to see if this is the person that he has intended for you. Don't rush anything, let the Lord do his work, and then see what the Lord has in store for you. But if I had my guess at it, I would say the Lord is using you to lead her to him, and whatever happens after that is totally up to the Lord. But please, whatever you do, don't rush, and don't let feelings get in the way of truly wanting to lead her to the Lord and having her have a relationship with God, like you do. I pray this helps. I'll be for you.

In Christ,
Anna

 

[forjesus]

God might be using you as his tool to bring this girl to Christ. You say you are only friends at this point, I say continue to be very good friends, witness to her, and let her go to church with you. If you show her your love of God it might open her heart to him. Then maybe your hearts can be opened to each other. I suggest you talk to your pastor about the dating. God Bless, keep us posted

 

[DaveKerwin]

dont have a relationship with her until she outwardly confesses faith with christ. if she asks why you are not dating, tell her its not time. Pray for her.

 

[4jc]

Thank you all for your input. I have prayed about this on a regular basis. I will witness to her as much as I can, and I will bring her to church, and hopefully, by the grace of God, she will ask Jesus into her heart as her saviour.
I know not to rush into anything, and I will try not to. God is wonderful and I know he will give me the strength to wait. Praise His name.
Thank you all, I will keep you all posted as to what happens.
Praise God!!

 

[sbbqb7n16]

In my opinion, I don't think it is good for you to date her. Now showing her the love of God, bringing her to church, talking with her about God is all good and everything you should be doing. That is all good... but I wouldn't get involved with her unless she is a Christian because of the emotional/spiritual conflict. I mean not involved like dating involved.

 

[Gerry]

Bump

 

[fieldmouse3]

Definitely keep praying about this.....God could very well have put you into each other's lives for a reason. Give it time, and give her time, and see what happens.

 

[amie]

Follow your heart my friend

Love and blessings
Amie~