My girlfriend and I are both Christians and have been dating for 6mths now. I am in the paratroopers and she is a doctor. She does daily men's health screens and STD screens I would just like to know what people think about the moral implications of that. I know it is her profession but it does bother me. I have been saved by God's grace from sexual immorality and I think I am more aware of the temptations. I submit this query humbly trying to figure this out. I don't view porn or touch anymore so I am interested in what other people think.
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I couldn't tell you if it is wrong or not; I think that the career in itself is not wrong. However, it does come down to whether or not you can handle it. For myself, if my bf was a "woman's doctor" then no, I couldn't be in a relationship with him. There are just things that I cannot deal with, but it is not like she is a stripper (which would be a sin).
So, it would be up to you in this. Can you deal with it, or do you think you can't? If you can't, I would break off the relationship because it will mean trouble later.
So, it would be up to you in this. Can you deal with it, or do you think you can't? If you can't, I would break off the relationship because it will mean trouble later.
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i can understand why you would be concerned. if my boyfriend were a woman's doctor i would probably feel a little weird about the whole thing but i wouldn't worry about it cause i know he's a strong christian. i really don't think you have anything to worry about. it's her job and i'm sure she doesn't think of it as any more than that.
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Catholic Wife
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It sounds as if you are concerned that your girlfriend sees her male patients in some sexual way. As a woman in the healthcare field, I can say with 99.99% certainty that your girlfriend sees her male patients as nothing more than just patients.
If you have a problem with her job, you should talk with your girlfriend openly and honestly about it. It may be that this isn't the right woman for you. I've dated men who were uneasy about the fact that most of the people I work with are men with whom I spend 24 hours alone on an ambulance or at the station. Luckily, my fiance has no such reservations and doesn't fear that I will be tempted to be unfaithful.
If you have a problem with her job, you should talk with your girlfriend openly and honestly about it. It may be that this isn't the right woman for you. I've dated men who were uneasy about the fact that most of the people I work with are men with whom I spend 24 hours alone on an ambulance or at the station. Luckily, my fiance has no such reservations and doesn't fear that I will be tempted to be unfaithful.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with what she does - in fact, I think she is to be commended. Sounds like she must be a strong, smart woman who has a goal in life. You should try to remember that when you are uneasy!
Seriously, everyone knows that feeling you are talking about, but there's really nothing you can do about it. I mean, I suppose you could ask her to quit her job, but that's a little ridiculous. I guess you could talk to her about it - perhaps the way she explains what she does will put you at ease?
I can't imagine that she'd be attracted a man just because she saw his penis. I don't know a lot of women who find penises themselves all that attractive, to be honest.
Seriously, everyone knows that feeling you are talking about, but there's really nothing you can do about it. I mean, I suppose you could ask her to quit her job, but that's a little ridiculous. I guess you could talk to her about it - perhaps the way she explains what she does will put you at ease?
I can't imagine that she'd be attracted a man just because she saw his penis. I don't know a lot of women who find penises themselves all that attractive, to be honest.
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alwayz_remember_Calvery
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you also must remember, guys are visual, where as women aren't. For her to be attracted to any of her patients they would have to have an emotional bond with them. I doubt she's getting an emotional bond by doing STD tests on guys
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