date a friend ????

[cross_cutie]

i have never even considered dating a friend because i figured it would ruin the friendship...now, i see one of my good friends and i am interested romantically...
i wonder if it would be ok to date them or would it be too risky....
then there is the question of does he like me back ?
because he is way interested in alot of other things and he's quite passionate about them and i support most of them but i am not as "into" it as he is....
i think maybe he's too into them to even consider being "into" me....
what do u think

 

[Carri20]

I think the best marriages start out as great friendships, so it's a risk worth taking. If I were you I would drop a few subtle hints for him to pick up, and then let him decide whether or not to make a move. Always be available, but never try to push for a relationship. That can drive men away faster than a swarm of killer bees. And unfortunately I speak from experience lol..

 

[Anduron]

If it be the Lord's will, do it, if not, don't, if you don't know pray and ask for guidence than wait for a response.

 

[winglovesall]

I think your relationship with this person will always last -

A good relationship would involve good communication, friendship that can last and openess.

Is he interested in you?

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[EmSchmem]

My husband and I were good friends before we married. It is what makes our marriage so strong. I "liked" him the moment I saw him but he made it quite clear that he was not interested in me. As much as it hurt I decided to be his friend and man were we good together! We had so much fun after I got past the hurt. Lo and behold a few months later his feelings for me grew and here we are. Now I don't think that this happens with everyone BUT it is an example of how dating a friend REALLY worked out.

 

[chanis]

see if he's interested...before you say anything invite him to hang out with you and see how if goes from there...you don't want to make yourself vulernable yet...wait and see how he's feelings towards you are and then once you gauge go on to the next step what ever that might be...

 

[Brutus/HisCatalyst]

It's up to you cross. I know in my case, I'm only going to date someone who I took the time to know as a friend before I took a romantic interest.

 

[JPPT1974]

I want to be a friend first and foremost. Get to know the person. Know our likes and dislikes and know where we stand. Then take it from there if that's God's will for us.

 

[OhhJim]

I only date enemies, myself. People I hate, you know?

 

[lunalinda]

I only date enemies, myself. People I hate, you know?

lol sure...

 

[rebel_conservative]

well, as I would only 'date' someone with whom I see a future together, I would certainly date a friend. I don't want to meet just random girls, I don't really see the point in that...

 

[cross_cutie]

I am definetly more mature than most all of the people in my school and a few adults....
i've always been that way so no worries there

THANKS for all the replies

 

[rebel_conservative]

I have always been more mature than most adults... it is a blessing and a curse...

 

[JPPT1974]

I only date enemies, myself. People I hate, you know?

Yeah I know that!

 

[BlackSaab52]

i have never even considered dating a friend because i figured it would ruin the friendship...now, i see one of my good friends and i am interested romantically...

i wonder if it would be ok to date them or would it be too risky....
then there is the question of does he like me back ?
because he is way interested in alot of other things and he's quite passionate about them and i support most of them but i am not as "into" it as he is....
i think maybe he's too into them to even consider being "into" me....
what do u think

I really don't see anything wrong with dating a friend. Some people like to date other people that they've hardly known before, but personally, I would most likely want to date someone that I could consider to be a good friend. I think that a relationship based solely on emotions and romantic feelings (even though those are good things) without friendship would crumble quickly and probably lead to unnecessary temptation. If you both decide to date, just be careful not to get too close too soon and keep yourselves from sin. If you both date and then break up later, having memories of mistakes you've both made would make your friendship awkward. But other than that I don't see the problem. I'm still good friends with a girl I dated in high school.

 

[jasperbound]

Think of it this way. Any guy you date that you actually like will become a friend. Otherwise, it'll only be a waste of time.

 

[JPPT1974]

I really don't see anything wrong with dating a friend. Some people like to date other people that they've hardly known before, but personally, I would most likely want to date someone that I could consider to be a good friend. I think that a relationship based solely on emotions and romantic feelings (even though those are good things) without friendship would crumble quickly and probably lead to unnecessary temptation. If you both decide to date, just be careful not to get too close too soon and keep yourselves from sin. If you both date and then break up later, having memories of mistakes you've both made would make your friendship awkward. But other than that I don't see the problem. I'm still good friends with a girl I dated in high school.

Just as long as you know what you all are getting yourself into. And that you stay friends because friendship is much more important if you ask me. And that a relationship should be solely based on indeed emotions and romantic feelings.

 

[GL2814]

Your 15 years old. You still have your WHOLE life in front of you. If you think serious dating your friend is going to ruin the friendship, don't date. Going to the movies--harmless stuff.

 

[justasinner]

In a marriage, a person's spouse is their best friend that is ther opposite sex.

So, in finding a mate one may date a person that will become a best friend. Or one may date a friend that inturns becomes the best friend that one marrys.