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I feel damaged in my femininity because of my rape and kidnapping. I feel less than a woman. I feel God does not know how damaged I really am. I feel worthless often and feel that I should not be alive. I feel that I am not beautiful anymore and that the torturers took away everything valuable from me. Please pray that God restore my femininity and allow me to be a feminine soul again.
 

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I'm not a woman but I know abused women. Let me just say that if you will meet Jesus right where you are at, He will meet you right where you are at. Pray to Him.
Thank you so much for these words :)
 
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Become a survivor. Ask God to help you become one. Don't allow the abusers to continue to control you now that you are away from them. Shame, feeling this way is allowing them to continue to victimize you. Don't doubt God on this. He DOES know the pain, how bad you feel. He's right beside you. He knows all. Turn it to Him and realize you are still beautiful. Tell Satan to get lost with his lies! God bless you.
 
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Become a survivor. Ask God to help you become one. Don't allow the abusers to continue to control you now that you are away from them. Shame, feeling this way is allowing them to continue to victimize you. Don't doubt God on this. He DOES know the pain, how bad you feel. He's right beside you. He knows all. Turn it to Him and realize you are still beautiful. Tell Satan to get lost with his lies! God bless you.
Thank you so much for these words :)
 
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I'm so sorry, Bluerose :(

While it may not feel like it right now because you are emotionally hurting and traumatized, you are still the same valuable and special person you were before this horrible event happened. I sent up a prayer for you.
 
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Bluerose31 I know what they did to you is horrible. satan used them to damage you. Now I pray that you wear Jesus' cross any time you don't feel beautiful. I'm not the prettiest woman in the world nor would I ever want to be. What a responsibility! But when I feel so unattractive thanks to all the physical abuse I went through in my life I remember that there are treasures in Heaven that are beyond the physical. Love, Joy, Peace, Gentleness, Goodness, Faith, and of course Beauty. God does beautiful things in lives that astound me even today.
To me your faith is beautiful!

When you have these thoughts of not wanting to be alive I hope you remember that God gave you life and your life is His. God is stronger than satan.

I hope that when you read this you'll have a blessed day/night!
 
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Bluerose, my heart goes out to you and you are in my prayers. I've been keeping an eye on your posts and i can tell you are very beautiful woman in your heart, where beauty truly matters. I know that Jesus loves you, Bluerose, so don't be discouraged. Your healing will take time and you will regain much of what you lost, although you will be different. Like a rose that was stripped away of its scarlet petals, you will bloom again, this time even more beautiful. Trust in the Lord and praise His Holy name, He will guide you. I know this because as a child i, too was hurt, although not nearly as bad as you were. Still it took me a lot of time to regain myself, mostly because i was foolish and i relied only upon myself, letting no one near me, not even Jesus. You wont make the same mistake which is good. Surround yourself with people that love and support you and give your heart to Jesus, He will never let you down that is a promise.

Dear Father we lift our beloved sister up and ask for blessing, healing and guidance. We ask that You protect her as one of Your own, dear Father and send her an angel to watch over her always, in Jesus name we pray. Amen.
 
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I'm so sorry, Bluerose :(

While it may not feel like it right now because you are emotionally hurting and traumatized, you are still the same valuable and special person you were before this horrible event happened. I sent up a prayer for you.
Thank you so much :)
 
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Bluerose31 I know what they did to you is horrible. satan used them to damage you. Now I pray that you wear Jesus' cross any time you don't feel beautiful. I'm not the prettiest woman in the world nor would I ever want to be. What a responsibility! But when I feel so unattractive thanks to all the physical abuse I went through in my life I remember that there are treasures in Heaven that are beyond the physical. Love, Joy, Peace, Gentleness, Goodness, Faith, and of course Beauty. God does beautiful things in lives that astound me even today.
To me your faith is beautiful!

When you have these thoughts of not wanting to be alive I hope you remember that God gave you life and your life is His. God is stronger than satan.

I hope that when you read this you'll have a blessed day/night!
Thank you so much :)
 
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Bluerose, my heart goes out to you and you are in my prayers. I've been keeping an eye on your posts and i can tell you are very beautiful woman in your heart, where beauty truly matters. I know that Jesus loves you, Bluerose, so don't be discouraged. Your healing will take time and you will regain much of what you lost, although you will be different. Like a rose that was stripped away of its scarlet petals, you will bloom again, this time even more beautiful. Trust in the Lord and praise His Holy name, He will guide you. I know this because as a child i, too was hurt, although not nearly as bad as you were. Still it took me a lot of time to regain myself, mostly because i was foolish and i relied only upon myself, letting no one near me, not even Jesus. You wont make the same mistake which is good. Surround yourself with people that love and support you and give your heart to Jesus, He will never let you down that is a promise.

Dear Father we lift our beloved sister up and ask for blessing, healing and guidance. We ask that You protect her as one of Your own, dear Father and send her an angel to watch over her always, in Jesus name we pray. Amen.
Thank you so much for your compassion :)
 
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You have a kind and beautiful heart, bluerose. Hold on to Jesus and strive to be close to Him and give praise to His name. Find it in your heart to forgive your tormentors, He wants us to follow Him and forgive those that have hurt us. He loves you very much, there is no doubt in my mind, your heart shines brightly in His name. Yours will be bright white robes, so keep yourself in His word.

God bless you, sister in Jesus name. Amen.
 
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You have a kind and beautiful heart, bluerose. Hold on to Jesus and strive to be close to Him and give praise to His name. Find it in your heart to forgive your tormentors, He wants us to follow Him and forgive those that have hurt us. He loves you very much, there is no doubt in my mind, your heart shines brightly in His name. Yours will be bright white robes, so keep yourself in His word.

God bless you, sister in Jesus name. Amen.
Thank you so much for your compassion and care Macek :)
 
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Whenever you feel sadness and are in pain and despair because what you went through and have to contend with now, remember that Jesus too suffered on the cross as the world rejected Him and judged Him. If you can in your sadness and pain feel how He had suffered and have compassion for His suffering you will have the feeling of kinship with Him in your pain and your suffering will lessen. Jesus loves you and is with you, bluerose. Place your trust in Him and give Him praise.

God bless you, sister in Jesus name. Amen.

 
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Whenever you feel sadness and are in pain and despair because what you went through and have to contend with now, remember that Jesus too suffered on the cross as the world rejected Him and judged Him. If you can in your sadness and pain feel how He had suffered and have compassion for His suffering you will have the feeling of kinship with Him in your pain and your suffering will lessen. Jesus loves you and is with you, bluerose. Place your trust in Him and give Him praise.

God bless you, sister in Jesus name. Amen.

Thank you so much for your encouragement :)
 
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