Cure for Chronic Datelessness

[Living4Him03]

Well, not a cure, but this is more about what you do when you finally get a date and haven't been asked out in quite some time. Okay, so it's been awhile since I've been on an actual date (check out my posts in the dateless waif thread). This seems to be something that is going to last for quite some time. It's not that I'm complaining here, but I'm wondering, when you haven't gone out with someone in a long time, do you find yourself not knowing what to do? Getting nervous and making a total clutz of yourself?

What do I do if I don't go on a date for several years or so and am not really sure how to act or what to say? I know this sound silly, but I'm afraid I'll get so used to being single that I wont' know what to do once I finally get a date! Anyone else been in that situation before?

 

[KeilCoppes]

Being 'dateable' is mostly a matter of self confidence and how you see yourself. You can have that same confidence without dating, but you need to practice.

 

[stonetoflesh]

Oh yeah, definitely; not just when I'm on a date though, even the asking out part is tough. I feel really out of the loop, since my last two relationships just sort of "happened".

 

[fishstix]

About all that you can do is make sure that you spend enough time around people - friends and family - so that you maintain basic social skills. And if you get nervous when it actually comes to the date, remind yourself that your date is probably just as nervous.

 

[Nico]

i'm hoping that my cluelessness and awkwardness actually comes across as endearing and vulnerable in a positive way. i know i find it cute when a guy is nervous around me on our first date.

 

[TriptychR]

Being 'dateable' is mostly a matter of self confidence and how you see yourself. You can have that same confidence without dating, but you need to practice.

Are you talking about practicing in a mirror or something?

 

[2scoops]

Well, not a cure, but this is more about what you do when you finally get a date and haven't been asked out in quite some time. Okay, so it's been awhile since I've been on an actual date (check out my posts in the dateless waif thread). This seems to be something that is going to last for quite some time. It's not that I'm complaining here, but I'm wondering, when you haven't gone out with someone in a long time, do you find yourself not knowing what to do? Getting nervous and making a total clutz of yourself?

What do I do if I don't go on a date for several years or so and am not really sure how to act or what to say? I know this sound silly, but I'm afraid I'll get so used to being single that I wont' know what to do once I finally get a date! Anyone else been in that situation before?

Don't worry about it. You know when God sends someone to you, eveything will be ok. Even if you stumble with words or trip or whatever, that man won't care. He will probably even think it's cute, because he may even seem the same way. People usually tend took look into things too much and see something that is not even a problem. Personally, I think a woman that comes off a little shy is attractive, that shows me that she's not stuck on herself.