Cruise Virgin

[dayhiker]

Ya, that being told one is a nice guy ... its nice ... but one also knows there is something that they are telling us when they say it as well. I guess its like the guy who is told the person he is meeting on a blind date has the great personality! lol

 

[singlewv2011]

You give sound advice and I thank you. The part about the "hungry eyes" is true. Once a co-worker offered me some food. I said," No,thanks".
She said," I KNOW you want some. I can see it in your eye!"
When I am not acting, while just being myself, I guess that I cannot look as if I am not interested in her. Maybe that is why I never learned how to play poker. My eyes would give my hand away.

There is definitely some truth to that. I 'never' meet anyone when I am desperate, it's always when I am not looking or don't really care.

There is also some truth to the old addage that "nice guys finish last". I am learning that there is a BIG difference between being a 'nice guy' and being a doormat. Nobody respects a doormat, they just wipe their feet and move on. I think a lot of it goes back to self-esteem.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Here's another thought on the whole "nice guy" thing. Maybe you are coming across as SUCH a nice guy that you aren't believable, meaning that they might be thinking you're too good to be true (now that song is playing in my head LOL) but it could be. Without meeting you and knowing or watching you "in action" it's hard to say.

I have an idea. Take me on a cruise and then I can give you a more truthful assessment .









Just kidding by the way

 

[iambren]

I know, give me all the attributes $ etc that you have, I'LL take the cruise and have that cruise ship rockin' enough to make a tsunami!

Otherwise...there's always the monastery.

 

[dayhiker]

A cruise for Michelle ... not that would be yet an other blessing for her!

 

[Merlinius]

Today,I just returned home from a seven night,Eastern Carribean Singles Cruise. There were over 400 singles in our group, which consisted of 183 women and over 200 men. The cruise went well for me until last night, the last night of the cruise. There were too many men. I would talk to a woman in our group. Another man in our group would sit beside us. The woman would leave with the other man.

One woman invited me to sit with her for dinner last night. After dinner,at 10:40 PM, she said that she had to go back to her cabin in order to set her lugguage out. She was to meet me outside of the theater at 11:00PM. Ironically, one of the songs that was sung at the show was, "Like A Virgin " by Madonna. I arrived at 10:50PM. At 11:30 PM, she still did not show up. I got stood up again.......naturally.

Later on,I saw my cabin-mate with a woman. He told me," S..... our cabin is going to be busy." I had planned to go to bed around 1:00 AM.I could not get into my cabin until after 3:00 AM,as I did not want to disturb them.

Now,intellectually, I realize that I cannot be EVERY woman's type. However,the emotional side of me asks the question," Why are these single women, ( who want to hook up with a single man) ignoring ME?" I am not ugly. Many men and women tell me that I have a lot going for me, that I have a good personality, and that I have a good sense of humor. Women tell me that they like the way I smell. One of the changes that I made was to start wearing the cologne, "Obsession for Men". I make $99,000 a year. I drive a Mercedes-Benz. Yet I cannot get a woman to pick me.

One lady in our group told me that five women at her table were complaining that none of the men wanted to hook up with them. Well......NO ONE ever approached ME! I have been on 16 cruises. Yet, NO woman has ever wanted to make out with me. No woman has ever wanted me to make love to her. I am a cruise virgin .......and..........
THIS SUCKS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now,I KNOW that I am not supposed to commit fornication. BUT....NO ONE is ever tempting me! What HURTS me the MOST is the fact that I am NOT being desired by ANYONE,and I am SICK and TIRED of all of this NONSENSE!!!

Brother, count your blessings!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

A cruise for Michelle ... not that would be yet an other blessing for her!

You did see the part at the bottom of my post, right dayhiker? . He wouldn't want to go with me anyway, cuz I don't share the same beliefs about sex as you two

 

[dayhiker]

Ya, that thought did cross my mind. But a nice guy would never as someone to do what they don't feel is right!

 

[exitstageright]

There is definitely some truth to that. I 'never' meet anyone when I am desperate, it's always when I am not looking or don't really care.

There is also some truth to the old addage that "nice guys finish last". I am learning that there is a BIG difference between being a 'nice guy' and being a doormat. Nobody respects a doormat, they just wipe their feet and move on. I think a lot of it goes back to self-esteem.

Self-esteem,self esteem,it is HARD to have a good self esteem,when the FIRST time anyone says to you," I love you" is when are 30 years old.

While growing up ,I went to three different elementary schools. At ALL three schools, some girls said that I was ugly. In High School ,my football teammates told me
That I reminded them of Joe Frazier ,the boxer. I took that as a compliment because I was a good athlete, a tough guy, and at 5’9”,165 pounds, stocky ,muscular with a great physique. I felt great about myself. Later on ,I see Muhammad Ali on TV, saying ”I WILL
WHIP…..UGLY……JOE…..FRAZIER!!! Now tell me, how in the world am I supposed to feel good about myself AFTER hearing that?

 

[exitstageright]

The best thing I can tell you is: you are not alone. My best friend (who is a man of 38 years old) has never even had a girlfriend. He's a godly person too. He happens to live in a very shallow area of NY and girls are just not that into him. He is actually financially independent and owns his own home in a top rated school district. But he wants a girl to like him for him. He wants to find someone so badly. I know 3 other single people in my life who are in the same boat. You are definitely not alone.

In the SAME boat? No pun intended,huh?

 

[exitstageright]

Here's another thought on the whole "nice guy" thing. Maybe you are coming across as SUCH a nice guy that you aren't believable, meaning that they might be thinking you're too good to be true (now that song is playing in my head LOL) but it could be. Without meeting you and knowing or watching you "in action" it's hard to say.

I have an idea. Take me on a cruise and then I can give you a more truthful assessment .









Just kidding by the way

You are on! Our booking number is 5KXZ1005

Just kidding !

 

[exitstageright]

I know, give me all the attributes $ etc that you have, I'LL take the cruise and have that cruise ship rockin' enough to make a tsunami!

Otherwise...there's always the monastery.

I have thought of that about 30 years ago. Of course ,you would not want to have my hypertension (high blood pressure) and diabetes. I cannot even treat myself with a cheap treat such as ice cream.

 

[exitstageright]

Brother, count your blessings!

I HAVE counted my blessings. People ARE more important than things.
IF I cannot have a wonderful lady to share my life with,then all I have are things. I would rather have a good woman and drive a Chevy,than drive a Benz,and be alone. Hummm....that sounds like a good title to a Country-Western song.

 

[exitstageright]

You did see the part at the bottom of my post, right dayhiker? . He wouldn't want to go with me anyway, cuz I don't share the same beliefs about sex as you two

You are SOOOOO right,Michelle. If I took you on a cruise,I would STILL be a Cruise Virgin!

 

[dayhiker]

lol ... yup ... but it would still be a good time. Plus I don't think there would be disapointment since you would know ahead of time you wouldn't be that virgin again.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

You are SOOOOO right,Michelle. If I took you on a cruise,I would STILL be a Cruise Virgin!

Yeah but we WOULD have fun, and really that's the only way I can give you a proper assessment. It would be like a really fun therapy session. Worth the sacrifice to get the gold on the next one don't cha think?

BTW I get that you don't want to be lonely and you want someone special to share your life with, but please try concentrating on the bigger picture instead of just the ONE thing/person/dream/ you don't have in your life. I'm telling you the truth (and it's been confirmed by singlewv2011) that you will NEVER find it when you are searching. It will come when you least expect it, just like Candid Camera For reals though

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I HAVE counted my blessings. People ARE more important than things.
IF I cannot have a wonderful lady to share my life with,then all I have are things. I would rather have a good woman and drive a Chevy,than drive a Benz,and be alone. Hummm....that sounds like a good title to a Country-Western song.

Sounds like your next calling

 

[exitstageright]

Yeah but we WOULD have fun, and really that's the only way I can give you a proper assessment. It would be like a really fun therapy session. Worth the sacrifice to get the gold on the next one don't cha think?

BTW I get that you don't want to be lonely and you want someone special to share your life with, but please try concentrating on the bigger picture instead of just the ONE thing/person/dream/ you don't have in your life. I'm telling you the truth (and it's been confirmed by singlewv2011) that you will NEVER find it when you are searching. It will come when you least expect it, just like Candid Camera For reals though

I remember the Candid Camera show

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I remember the Candid Camera show

OK here's another idea since you don't want to take me on a cruise to give you a proper assessment . Maybe you could secretly video yourself "in action" and then come back and post it, and then we could all tell you what you are doing wrong or right

 

[chuck77]

Maybe you could secretly video yourself "in action" and then come back and post it, and then we could all tell you what you are doing wrong or right

Oh my.

Just try some moves on Michelle and see how it goes. Send her some PM's and post her responces here in the forum Lay it on real thick. Then, post the messages here for all to see and THEN maybe we can tell you what you are doing wrong OR if it's Michelle (or the women who are wrong).