The not-an-ex-but-thought-we-were-and-still-are-in-a-relationship was just a stalker. It doesn't help that i'm the only person with my name and work in an area where names are pretty much given out to whoever asks. Turning up on the doorstep, making a nuisance of himself at work (he'd just stand at the end of my till, all day, buying little things every so often to avoid being thrown out for loitering), hand posting letters written in dubious substances, hiding in the garden ... basically turning up in places he really shouldn't have been. He wouldn't listen to the "no", or the "it's my job to be nice". At one point, whilst over in petrol, D had to physically usher him out and lay down the "if you're just going to bother staff, don't bother coming back" line. Not that it stopped him, just mean he'd (once again) just keep buying things.
He'd walk me home, even after being told not to, sent threatening messages to my housemate, took a few photographs, it all escalated until the restraining order (which didn't work), moving and changing jobs. Lots of fun really. For a while he did keep finding my work e-mail/personal e-mail/uni e-mail and would just keep sending messages over and over, kept making new Facebook accounts and trying to add me (what pushed my eventual total clampdown on privacy settings) and the last message I received about 6 months ago which was basically a video clip of him drinking, smoking and shouting about how I should have just let him love me because i'm "his".
The last I heard on the grapevine he threw a frozen chicken at my old-housemate and accused him of stealing his woman. If would be hilarious if it wasn't so bonkers.
The obsessive are generally the only ones attracted to me.
I need to change my personality, so as to change the pattern.
I did have the girlfriend of a security guard come up to me in the street and start accusing me of having a relationship with him, in fact I think she called me a filthy home wrecker who should know better than chasing after men twice my age. I have no idea what sparked it, just that she forces him to cross the street when she sees me now.
I only made him a cup of tea D:.
