Courting

[SelfProtect]

I'm interested in a guy that believes in courting. I'm 35, he's about 45. We've been friends for a year. I remember him sharing that he believes in being friends for a year before courting. I keep hoping things will start progressing now. I just can't tell if he's into me. We are very active in church, he'll call occasionally about church business. Sometimes, I think he's interested and other times, I'm not sure. I always tell my girlfriends, that if a guy is interested he will call. I've heard him say men are hunters so I don't call. But I wish he would call me. Should I call just to chat or should I let him lead and do the calling?

 

[Stanfi]

I had a wise friend tell me once. "If there is something somebody wants, there is not much that will stop them from getting it"

So, true. People's actions tell what they're desires are.

I am in a similar situation. There is a woman that is 10 years older than me, She is interested in me. However, I just can't make up mind mind about her.

For one, the age differ bothers me and she has kids. Plus, after being burnt really bad on my previous attempt at a relationship, I am not to eager to get involved with someone.

Anyway, back to your question. In my sitatution, I haven't called much, or made priority on going out or anything. Why? Because I am not that interested.

 

[SelfProtect]

Thanks for your honesty Mrstace. I'm back to earth and grounded.

 

[madison1101]

Thati is an interesting dilemma to be in. First, I would pray and ask the Lord for His will in your relationship. Then, pray for the gentleman and ask the Lord's will for his life. See what develops after a couple of weeks of daily prayer. Maybe he is very busy in his personal life. Just a thought.

 

[Heel2Heaven]

I had a wise friend tell me once. "If there is something somebody wants, there is not much that will stop them from getting it"

So, true. People's actions tell what they're desires are.

I am in a similar situation. There is a woman that is 10 years older than me, She is interested in me. However, I just can't make up mind mind about her.

For one, the age differ bothers me and she has kids. Plus, after being burnt really bad on my previous attempt at a relationship, I am not to eager to get involved with someone.

Anyway, back to your question. In my sitatution, I haven't called much, or made priority on going out or anything. Why? Because I am not that interested.

I completely agree with you, MrStace. And SelfProtect, if he's not callling you..if he's not crazy about you, I know it's sad to say, "No, he's not into you."

BUT Don't worry! God loves you and He will never withhold any good things from you. I am happily single and I don't worry whether someone is going to give me a call or e-mail me or text message me or not. My weekends are full of fun activities with all my friends even with or without Saturday night dates. I remember my mother told me that a happy woman is the most attractive woman. Actually I found that when I'm not looking, there are several guys wanting to go out with me. They know that I will never rush into things. Beautiful Girl, you are not desperate! You're special, precious and always beautiful in God's eyes. It will take a wonderful man to see that in you. Meanwhile, enjoy yourself with what the Lord is having for you now.

 

[Stanfi]

SelfProtect

I was thinking. If you want like to find out for sure, is there possibily a mutual friend that you both have that you could ask?

 

[GreatistheLord]

I know he said that year thing, but heck he's not a robot, he's a human being.
If he likes you he'll show it.

 

[SelfProtect]

madison1101
Thanks for your response, I've been praying for him off/on for a year, nothing so far...

Heel2Heaven
Yep, thats what I think too. I have my moments of going into fairytale land but I'm back to earth now, living in reality. I have a VERY happy fulfilled life, but I just have my moments...

mrstace
the mutual friend, that sounds too desparate PLUS my fear of being vulnerable and then rejected. Yuck! Plus isn't it the man's role to lead?

GreatistheLord
My belief is that he is kidding himself and he hasn't found the "one" because if you found the "one" and the chemistry is there, you just naturally want to spend time, a lot of time with someone. I think he has a great idea but I don't think we are humanly capable of being THAT patient. Its easy to say, if your not interested in someone, but I think his story will change when he is.

THANKS TO ALL! I'm really back to earth, but I have moment's of spiritual warfare where he occupys too much of my mind. I pray through it and I'm back on track but sometimes I need your help and support to get me back on track.

 

[Stanfi]

mrstace
the mutual friend, that sounds too desparate PLUS my fear of being vulnerable and then rejected. Yuck! Plus isn't it the man's role to lead?

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Well based on my own experience. I have always felt like asking the person directly how they felt about me in a situation like yours was appearing to desperate,.. where asking a mutual friend was less invasive.. That's just me. Of course, that is assuming the mutual friend is someone that you can trust.