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blythe_ann
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Not looking for advice, just wondering...
do you have couple friends? Other married people that you have double dates with and share common interests with? Do you think they are important?
When we were two years into our marriage I was working with this great girl. She and I got a long really well and we spent sometime outside of work together. I considered her, at the time, to be my best friend. Eventually, we started double dating, and miraculously, our husbands got along. It was great and I thoroughly enjoyed having someone to do things with that shared common interests and goals (we liked the same things and we were both very protective of our marriages, it was a win win). Then we moved away.
I tried to keep in touch with my old friend, calling, emailing, sending letters, but honestly, I think she was done with me. So, I stopped contacting her, letting her know that I would be around, I just would stop bugging her.
Anyway, while the move has been very good for us, we haven't made any couple friends. We basically stick to home and ourselves. We tried to make friends with another young couple at church, but we were SO opposite it didn't work. They were competitive, we are not. They had known each other less than a year, we have been together for years. no common interests. We would invite them places, they would invite us, and eventually, they stopped inviting completely, and we decided we would too. They are a nice couple, we just couldn't carry a conversation with them.
We tried to make friendships in older couples, but most of them were either too busy or didn't want to give us the time of day.
I'm not saying we are or were desperately trying to find some couple friends, but with our last experience we really enjoying knowing a couple that we could both get along with, and who we thought got along well with us.
Thoughts?
do you have couple friends? Other married people that you have double dates with and share common interests with? Do you think they are important?
When we were two years into our marriage I was working with this great girl. She and I got a long really well and we spent sometime outside of work together. I considered her, at the time, to be my best friend. Eventually, we started double dating, and miraculously, our husbands got along. It was great and I thoroughly enjoyed having someone to do things with that shared common interests and goals (we liked the same things and we were both very protective of our marriages, it was a win win). Then we moved away.
I tried to keep in touch with my old friend, calling, emailing, sending letters, but honestly, I think she was done with me. So, I stopped contacting her, letting her know that I would be around, I just would stop bugging her.
Anyway, while the move has been very good for us, we haven't made any couple friends. We basically stick to home and ourselves. We tried to make friends with another young couple at church, but we were SO opposite it didn't work. They were competitive, we are not. They had known each other less than a year, we have been together for years. no common interests. We would invite them places, they would invite us, and eventually, they stopped inviting completely, and we decided we would too. They are a nice couple, we just couldn't carry a conversation with them.
We tried to make friendships in older couples, but most of them were either too busy or didn't want to give us the time of day.
I'm not saying we are or were desperately trying to find some couple friends, but with our last experience we really enjoying knowing a couple that we could both get along with, and who we thought got along well with us.
Thoughts?
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