Coping with no real friends

[songz777]

Hi,
As a single chap who lives out in the country, I find my self with no friends, no one to have a heart to heart with. All my friends of years gone by have got married and so Im left as it were. I have to go holiday on my own and do every thing by my self. It times its a bit hurtful,, but I do have Jesus as my Friend. I guess the only real friend I want as a female friend, But the question is DO any of you feel like I do? Are you on your own? Do you some times a hurt a little? Im not really unahppy, Ive just used to it, but your thoughts would be sweet.
Thanks for reading take care John

 

[Donny_B]

My contacts with other people are generally work-related. When I get off work, I am generally limited to "hello, how are you doing" to my next-door neighbors and then go to sleep, while they go off to work. I have found the internet a good place to meet new people, but you have to be careful there. And then there's church, but most everyone my age is married with kids.

 

[holo]

I know what you're saying. I've spent more than four year in this (almost literally) God-forsaken tiny little rotten place, hoping to make some friends or at least learn to be happy with what I've got. Turns out I can't. So I've just quit my job and am moving in a few months, to where my friends (and hopefully a good job) are. People aren't supposed to get by all by themselves.

 

[london boy]

I became a Christian when I was living abroad. Since being back in London, it's been hard to find fellow Christians...recently I have joined a local church where I have started to settled in, but it will take time to really get to know people.
God doesn't desire us to be lonely, He will provide us with friends at the right time. He sees our needs and responds to them. So trust in Him, and everything will work for the best. Take a leap of faith!

 

[klewlis]

Start praying for some good, solid, Christian friends! God will answer your prayer, even if it takes awhile.

 

[jesus_is_my_life]

Start praying for some good, solid, Christian friends! God will answer your prayer, even if it takes awhile.

Ditto!

 

[FaithfulServant]

It can be very sad and lonely without friends. Perhaps God is trying to teach you something and the only way you can learn it is by being alone. My roomate in college has told me that all throughout high school she never had any friends and would come home and cry about it often. However, God was working in her life because during that time she grew even closer and depended on God for everything. God may be trying to humble you, to show you that you need him "Blessed are those who realize thier need for Him, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven". If you pray about it God will send you friends, maybe not in the time you see fit, but he will answer and provide. God Bless you

 

[DontWorryBeHappy]

I know a woman who you could probably relate to quite well. She's in the same situation. I suggest making a list of all the things that "alone time" is great for and do one. (My favorite is bubble baths and my favorite CDs.)

I'd also recommend going into a random chat room on the net. After I've talked with people for a while, I usually get a PM from one or two that turn out to be very good conversations. I've even made some good business contacts that way.

 

[led]

go into the Chat Box on the homepage of this site. After a couple of weeks you'll have too many good crazy christian friends bugging you all day

 

[rkonfire]

That chat box is interesting, none-the-less. I posted there once, but I think it got erased or something.

 

[seangoh]

hey song are u living with your family there or what?if not probably try moving some place else so u can meet more people..just my suggestion.

 

[Ginsu]

I feel the same way with the friends issue. the thing is I CAN have friends, but I don't want to. my friends I had around here party and drink, and one even got into a knife fight. I tried to 'minister' to them, but they are in their blind youthfulness. I will have no part of their activities. So I'm basicly friendless. I live out in the country too in the middle of nowhere, thugh I'm moving to edmonton this month, so I hope to make some cool Christian buddies eventually. rely on God.

 

[jesus_is_my_life]

It can be very sad and lonely without friends. Perhaps God is trying to teach you something and the only way you can learn it is by being alone. My roomate in college has told me that all throughout high school she never had any friends and would come home and cry about it often. However, God was working in her life because during that time she grew even closer and depended on God for everything. God may be trying to humble you, to show you that you need him "Blessed are those who realize thier need for Him, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven". If you pray about it God will send you friends, maybe not in the time you see fit, but he will answer and provide. God Bless you

You guys are hitting right on the dot! I believe this is what the Lord is doing in my life as well!!

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

Hi,
As a single chap who lives out in the country, I find my self with no friends, no one to have a heart to heart with. All my friends of years gone by have got married and so Im left as it were. I have to go holiday on my own and do every thing by my self. It times its a bit hurtful,, but I do have Jesus as my Friend. I guess the only real friend I want as a female friend, But the question is DO any of you feel like I do? Are you on your own? Do you some times a hurt a little? Im not really unahppy, Ive just used to it, but your thoughts would be sweet.
Thanks for reading take care John

Reading this thread I realize that there are more people out there like me! It's good to know! However, not good that the lot of you are lonely.

I've always been sort of a loner. Growing up, I always had "friends." More like acquaintances. I got along with most people back then, but never had anyone that I was really close to. As I get older, I realize that I don't want mere acquaintances. I need to "click" with someone. I'm not for fair-weathered friends. I have one good friend who lives in GA (I'm in NY). We see each other once a year, but talk on the phone all the time. Even though we're so far apart, our friendship grows and stays strong. THAT'S the kind of people I want to be around.

For the most part, I'm comfortable being alone and the majority of the time love it. There are times when I feel extremely lonely and my heart aches for someone who is genuine. As for the opposite sex . . . I'm still praying for my best friend. I just try to be patient while He brings us together.

 

[jlc]

I understand how you feel. I'm a Brit living in the US (I love this country) for 14 years. Mum and dad raised me to be typically British...you know...quiet, reserved, stiff upper lip and all that...people take that as being aloof. I've learned that I need to be friendlier towards others...long way to go, but I'm getting there. Take a step in faith, do something or go somewhere you wouldn't ordinarily go and say hello to someone...smile...that one usually gets them!! You would be amazed at the response.

 

[SandyLou]

I've learned that I need to be friendlier towards others...long way to go, but I'm getting there. Take a step in faith, do something or go somewhere you wouldn't ordinarily go and say hello to someone...smile...that one usually gets them!! You would be amazed at the response.

I think that's a great suggestion!!

 

[klewlis]

I feel the same way with the friends issue. the thing is I CAN have friends, but I don't want to. my friends I had around here party and drink, and one even got into a knife fight. I tried to 'minister' to them, but they are in their blind youthfulness. I will have no part of their activities. So I'm basicly friendless. I live out in the country too in the middle of nowhere, thugh I'm moving to edmonton this month, so I hope to make some cool Christian buddies eventually. rely on God.

Hey! There are a couple of us Edmontonians kicking around the fora... be sure to let me know if you need help meeting people, finding a church, job, place to live, etc. Do you know yet where you'll be living?