Coping with long time apart

[TheReasoner]

How do you cope when you know you won't see your girlfriend/almost fiancee for several months?

I call, write letters and such, but naturally I miss her like mad.

I know I will cope. I know our love will survive. But, it hurts to be away from her.

 

[Jeremiah31_3]

you call, write letter, and miss her like mad. ya can't really do much else. ya could if ya could manage it, find someway to pull a surprise visit, but those sorts of things can't always be done. hope god blesses you during this time man, stay strong in him. god bless.

 

[koban4max]

i got a feelin' that you need to give up on her...not to be negative or anything...
maybe god is tellin ya something...i don't wanna be influence on ya..
that's just how i see it.

 

[Glorianna]

It's very difficult. But if God wants you to be with this girl, He will help you to make it through. I've found that web cams help a lot but it's still hard, especially when you want to kiss or even simply just touch your significant other. But there's not much you can do about it unfortunately. Try to focus your mind on other things so that you're not constantly thinking about how much you miss your girlfriend and pray that God will help you get through this difficult time!

 

[TheReasoner]

i got a feelin' that you need to give up on her...not to be negative or anything...
maybe god is tellin ya something...i don't wanna be influence on ya..
that's just how i see it.

Love is patient love is kind...
I will not give up on her. It can be seen as a test. True love will survive.

 

[koban4max]

Love is patient love is kind...
I will not give up on her. It can be seen as a test. True love will survive.

dude, i used to think that way..true love stuff..because me and my ex broked up a year ago...she said she gonna call..never did..i know she was my true love...

let's be real here..:true love.? i don't know anymore about it..to me true love is nothing but leprechaun, lucky charm cereral, stuff...
i do believe true love happens at the end of our life.

 

[koban4max]

oh by the way..ya right ...love is kind...but to love god is better

 

[TheReasoner]

oh by the way..ya right ...love is kind...but to love god is better

Yes. You should love God more than your spouse I think. At least not less than your spouse.

 

[TheReasoner]

dude, i used to think that way..true love stuff..because me and my ex broked up a year ago...she said she gonna call..never did..i know she was my true love...

let's be real here..:true love.? i don't know anymore about it..to me true love is nothing but leprechaun, lucky charm cereral, stuff...
i do believe true love happens at the end of our life.

Oh do I ever disagree. You'll find someone else whom you love more than you did your ex. I am pretty sure. I was brokenhearted for two years over what I thought was my true love. She wasn't though.

I know true love is real. I just look at my parents. And so many more around me. Nothing's perfect. But loads is true love.

 

[koban4max]

Oh do I ever disagree. You'll find someone else whom you love more. than your ex. I am pretty sure

I know true love is real. I just look at my parents. And so many more around me. Nothing's perfect. But loads is true love.

true love??/dude she was my soul-mate...

 

[koban4max]

Yes. You should love God more than your spouse I think. At least not less than your spouse.

just think this way..god is everything..right?
ask god to be a match maker..and wink wink
ya'll be happy...
of course it requires patient ..but patient to find a new one...let it go...
ya gotta let it go...if she comes back..okay..she's yours..ya know?

 

[Glorianna]

just think this way..god is everything..right?
ask god to be a match maker..and wink wink
ya'll be happy...
of course it requires patient ..but patient to find a new one...let it go...
ya gotta let it go...if she comes back..okay..she's yours..ya know?

I agree as difficult as I'm sure letting go must be.

 

[koban4max]

the only one that you can't let go is god.

 

[TheReasoner]

I don't understand this talk of letting go. My gf and I are very serious, we're confident we'll be together after these four months. We've done three months apart earlier, successfully. In fact, we feel it made us stronger.

 

[Glorianna]

I don't understand this talk of letting go. My gf and I are very serious, we're confident we'll be together after these four months. We've done three months apart earlier, successfully. In fact, we feel it made us stronger.

Just make sure that God is the center of your relationship.

 

[TheReasoner]

Just make sure that God is the center of your relationship.

Ofcourse. I don't want it any other way. She inspires me to seek God more. With her, and on my own. She really brings forth the best in me. It all seems soooo good.

Apart from the distance thing...

 

[Glorianna]

Ofcourse. I don't want it any other way. She inspires me to seek God more. With her, and on my own. She really brings forth the best in me. It all seems soooo good.

Apart from the distance thing...

I know exactly how that is! I'm the same way with my fiance.

 

[koban4max]

maybe she has to go on her own way..maybe...the relationship was only temporary.....

not sure...sigh..

 

[sweetdarlin2u]

Ok ..man.. I don't see how in the heck this thread got changed to this guy's actual relationship. If I'm reading correctly, the question was how to COPE ?! Not... should I stay with her period!

I've learned that God is the greatest comforter. When your heart is burning inside you and feels like it's just breaking to be with your g/f, pull out your Bible, worship God, pray... it's amazing how much comfort your spirit will feel. Just keep reminding yourself that there will be an end to the distance and you will be with her again one day.. and it will be amazing. Don't ever let yourself get down and depressed about it, always think positively.

Try sending each other gifts (not just letters). My b/f gave me a stuffed animal (childish? I think not) because I have always loved animals. I sleep with it every night.. it's a physical reminder of our love.

Hope that helps some!!!

in Christ,
danielle b

 

[Glorianna]

Try sending each other gifts (not just letters). My b/f gave me a stuffed animal (childish? I think not) because I have always loved animals. I sleep with it every night.. it's a physical reminder of our love.

Yeah, gifts are wonderful. They don't even have to be big or cost much. But it's nice to be reminded of your SO when you look at, touch, or hold something. I hope my fiance wouldn't mind me sharing this but we have exchanged stuffed animals and we both sleep with them every night. It definitely helps. So do body pillows.