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[Kestad9]

Hello y'all,
I've been enjoying floating around the boards for about a year.

To make a long story short, two months ago I began courting a young lady that was my best girl friend. It's going good. But, I'm not a talkative person and being that I already knew things about her I find it harder and harder to find discussion subject. She understands that I'm not talkative and appreciate that I really wanna make efforts to overcome this because I really want to make our time together worth it, I don't want it to just be the two of us looking at each other or cuddling ( I'm french speaking so I'm not sure if it is the right word to use, if someone could define what cuddling is I would appreciate just as to know if I'm using the right word).

So all in all, I come to you to have ideas of interesting/important subjects to talk about. We've been friends 3 years and courting two months as of next wednesday, so that gives you a vague or very vague idea of what could have been discussed. If you hesitate write it anyway, there's never too much.

I'm not doing this because someone told me to, I just really care for that young lady and I want to know more about her as to see what God might have in store for us.

Thanks for your help and don't hesitate to ask any question you might have.

 

[kopilo]

Hello y'all,
I've been enjoying floating around the boards for about a year.

To make a long story short, two months ago I began courting a young lady that was my best girl friend. It's going good. But, I'm not a talkative person and being that I already knew things about her I find it harder and harder to find discussion subject. She understands that I'm not talkative and appreciate that I really wanna make efforts to overcome this because I really want to make our time together worth it, I don't want it to just be the two of us looking at each other or cuddling ( I'm french speaking so I'm not sure if it is the right word to use, if someone could define what cuddling is I would appreciate just as to know if I'm using the right word).

So all in all, I come to you to have ideas of interesting/important subjects to talk about. We've been friends 3 years and courting two months as of next wednesday, so that gives you a vague or very vague idea of what could have been discussed. If you hesitate write it anyway, there's never too much.

I'm not doing this because someone told me to, I just really care for that young lady and I want to know more about her as to see what God might have in store for us.

Thanks for your help and don't hesitate to ask any question you might have.

Firstly your written english is fairly darn awesome! Cuddling I would say is the right term, but of course I am not there to really know.

Anyway I have a similar issue as well.. What is a good idea is to go and see something new, or do something new and discuss about that together, etc.

 

[Mskedi]

If you've been friends for so long, she probably knew this about you when you got together.

As far as discussion topics, I've noticed that we women tend to like the mundane more than men think we do. For example, I love to hear the details of my boyfriend's night at work, even though he thinks I don't necessarily want to hear it. I like to know what's going on in his head. I like to hear how he reacts to movies or shows we watch together or separately. Just say whatever comes into your head and you should be fine.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

My bf is not a very talkative person either. Sometimes it annoys me, but not a whole lot. That is just who he is. Sometimes I will tell him to just talk about something...hehe...but we do get along very well anyway.

Perhaps you could buy a book with questions in it. There are a lot of books out there that have things like "Questions to ask before married." That just might help you find things to talk about. And yes, girls like guys to just tell them about their day, etc....

 

[Inperfected]

(First things first... "harder to find discussion subject" it would be worded "subjects for discussion" or "discussion subjects". The reason for this is because it is more than one subject you are discussion (plural).)

Now to the situation... You sound pretty mature in what you are doing.. Start doing more together, maybe buy a board game or read a book to each other.. I find that doing things will spark off conversation.. Keep trying. You are doing well

 

[Kestad9]

Thank you all for you kind words I appreciate it. I'll try to put what you said to use.

 

[kopilo]

Thank you all for you kind words I appreciate it. I'll try to put what you said to use.

Your welcome, and I hope our words will help.
By the way Canada is a fantastic place.