...Because every thread we have about abortion blows up into something crazy.
But in all seriousness, I follow the Ottawa Students for Life blog (or whatever it is called), and they made a post not long ago about raising awareness among women for the after-effects of abortion. It heavily focused on telling the women that they will likely become depressed, make bad choices of partners in the future, and have unhealthy romantic relationships as a result of having an abortion.
I know that those are the usual tactics, but what bothers me is that approach to addressing women who have had abortions or are seeking abortions covers only half the story. I know women who have had abortions, and they have healthy, happy relationships. They suffer no depression, they are working hard toward building the life they dreamed of, and they are happy with their boyfriends. They know themselves very well, they don't put on fronts, and they aren't running from guilt demons in the night. I know that this isn't what pro-life people want to hear, but this actually IS the reality. There ARE women out there who honestly feel that their decision to abort their child was the best one they could have made in their situation, and they feel no regret or grief over it.
My question is - how do you minister to them? Women in that situation won't respond to insistences that they must be harbouring some secret depression, because they just... aren't. They won't respond to insistences that they must have dysfunctional relationships, because they just don't. I'm sure you could tell them that you know them better than they know themselves, but if there isn't any depression, grief, or dysfunction in their lives... how do you reach them with the message of life?
I am being serious. Please don't tell me that you could convince them that they actually ARE depressed or feeling intense guilt when they aren't. Presently, I haven't encountered a pro-life group who was able to effectively minister to this percentage of women. They play the, "Well, you MUST be depressed, even if you don't fee it!" card. Or the, "Well, you MUST feel guilty, and maybe you're just repressing it!" card. Also, I'm sure that calling those women murderers wouldn't be effective in getting them to listen to you, either. I think it is ineffective for women who feel none of those things. I am wondering how you could approach such a difficult, heartbreaking reality (that there are women out there who feel no remorse for their abortion) and still try to encourage such women to consider the message of life.
Would you just use the same tactics that you use with pro-choicers in general? Focus on the "the fetus is a human person" issue? Try to help the pro-choicers understand that life is life at any stage?
I'm just feeling frustrated and I would like some words of wisdom.
But in all seriousness, I follow the Ottawa Students for Life blog (or whatever it is called), and they made a post not long ago about raising awareness among women for the after-effects of abortion. It heavily focused on telling the women that they will likely become depressed, make bad choices of partners in the future, and have unhealthy romantic relationships as a result of having an abortion.
I know that those are the usual tactics, but what bothers me is that approach to addressing women who have had abortions or are seeking abortions covers only half the story. I know women who have had abortions, and they have healthy, happy relationships. They suffer no depression, they are working hard toward building the life they dreamed of, and they are happy with their boyfriends. They know themselves very well, they don't put on fronts, and they aren't running from guilt demons in the night. I know that this isn't what pro-life people want to hear, but this actually IS the reality. There ARE women out there who honestly feel that their decision to abort their child was the best one they could have made in their situation, and they feel no regret or grief over it.
My question is - how do you minister to them? Women in that situation won't respond to insistences that they must be harbouring some secret depression, because they just... aren't. They won't respond to insistences that they must have dysfunctional relationships, because they just don't. I'm sure you could tell them that you know them better than they know themselves, but if there isn't any depression, grief, or dysfunction in their lives... how do you reach them with the message of life?
I am being serious. Please don't tell me that you could convince them that they actually ARE depressed or feeling intense guilt when they aren't. Presently, I haven't encountered a pro-life group who was able to effectively minister to this percentage of women. They play the, "Well, you MUST be depressed, even if you don't fee it!" card. Or the, "Well, you MUST feel guilty, and maybe you're just repressing it!" card. Also, I'm sure that calling those women murderers wouldn't be effective in getting them to listen to you, either. I think it is ineffective for women who feel none of those things. I am wondering how you could approach such a difficult, heartbreaking reality (that there are women out there who feel no remorse for their abortion) and still try to encourage such women to consider the message of life.
Would you just use the same tactics that you use with pro-choicers in general? Focus on the "the fetus is a human person" issue? Try to help the pro-choicers understand that life is life at any stage?
I'm just feeling frustrated and I would like some words of wisdom.