Controlling Hormones

[Johnny J]

I know this is an odd request, but are there any remedies to simply keep my mind off sex until I get married? It seems to be fairly distracting. Are there any specific diets for celibate people? I imagine someone like Gandhi maintained such a diet. Thanks!

 

[explodingboy]

Chastity Belt, and no red meat.

 

[Johnny J]

Chastity Belt, and no red meat.

Yes, I was thinking about red meat, that probably does it. Chastity belts ironically seem to be used specifically by perverts these days, and are awful expensive.

 

[explodingboy]

Chastity belts ironically seem to be used specifically by perverts these days, and are awful expensive.

Well you can always try the Irish way, I seem to recall that Irish monks used to stand out in the Arctic waters to kill any case of inflamed loins, and help them think purer thoughts.

Or the Gregorians with the self flagellation.

 

[Johnny J]

Well you can always try the Irish way, I seem to recall that Irish monks used to stand out in the Arctic waters to kill any case of inflamed loins, and help them think purer thoughts.

Or the Gregorians with the self flagellation.

Funny! I think the extreme heat up here in Maine makes me a bit more agitated, whereas during the frigid winter months this is not as much of a problem. So I think temperature certainly has something to do with it.

 

[janman345]

You can do chemical castration, if you have to go to thoes extremes then you have to question the wisdom of what you are trying to do because God made you the way he did. Sex drive came before the fall of adam so you cant just write it off as "sin nature", what you are experenceing is natural and you should go out and find a wife.

 

[Johnny J]

You can do chemical castration, if you have to go to thoes extremes then you have to question the wisdom of what you are trying to do because God made you the way he did. Sex drive came before the fall of adam so you cant just write it off as "sin nature", what you are experenceing is natural and you should go out and find a wife.

Yes, that's the plan, to find a wife. Until then I would do anything to avoid the pitfalls of the most egregious of temptations.

 

[janman345]

Yes, that's the plan, to find a wife. Until then I would do anything to avoid the pitfalls of the most egregious of temptations.

What are you tempted by, do you live next door to a brothel? If you are refering to touching yourself, touching yourself is not a sin and in my opinion neither is porn (no matter how loud or how many people scream about it, it simply can not be supported bibliclly other than very loosely by "lusting of the heart" which was really coveting someone elses wife not getting off to some porn and going to class or work or whatever).

go to faithcomesbyhearing.com and get an audio bible and actually listen to what is really in the bible. In OT times people had concubines and sex slaves, not to say as I would go that far (a concubine would be a modern day fling but that has its own set of challenges like STD's and child support) but when OT people were doing this without any condemnation its a pretty far stretch to say porn is sin, king david had wives and concubines and he did not sin until he went after ANOTHER MANS wife, this whole concept of someones FUTURE wife has no biblical foundation other than by taking a very few NT scriptures out of context. In the mean time the speed with which you find a wife will depend on the effort you put into it.

Also you want to be VERY upfront with what you are looking for dont beat around the bush with what you want sexually and how much you want sex, the last thing you want is to be married to a prude, if she says eww thats gross you want me to do what then thats that and move on the last thing you want to settle on is sexual preference, I would say its alot more important than even looks, what good is a barbie doll if she wont swallow your [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] or perform analingus (hopefully thats proper enough termanology for what im trying to convey). It is very nerve racking to discuss such things with someone you dont know super well but its also disadvantagious to spend tons of time on someone who you come to find out you are not going to be compatable with.

I have found online dating (like craigslist thats how I found my wife) works very well becuase you can get all the awkward stuff out of the way in a non awkward setting so that when you meet this person and are on a date you know that she is good to go on thoes key issues so you just enjoy your beer or soda or whatever and get to know their favorite color etc and when the time comes you dont have to be worried about their willingness to perform in between the sheets. The prudes that are online will not even answer your ad and will probably think its vulger so thats a good thing you can let some other scmuck get with them and have plain jane sex once a week lol. Even if you meet someone offline get their email and discuss these issues via email very early so you are not consuming tons of time on this person when they are not right for you and email is again a non awkward setting.

I may get flamed and hate mail from this post but guess what my marriage is awesome, I dont have to come home from work wondering if my wife is going to be "too tired" or whatever, in fact she wakes me up out of sleep when she wants it too so it has to work both ways and its all good. Or worse find you she does not like to perform X Y or Z EVER, thats a nice little recipie for divorce.

 

[Johnny J]

I have been in relationships before and sexual temptations actually seem less dire when my infatuation with my courtship really provides me with the company I need. Waiting for marriage is no problem. I sometimes mistake lust for love in my singleness. Being in love with an individual can often occupy the mind and heart and elevate him beyond mere lust and bring him closer to God, so this is the intent.

 

[Trashionista]

Get used to it. It doesn't get any easier when you're actually having sex either in marriage, or a relationship either.

 

[explodingboy]

I may get flamed and hate mail from this post but guess what my marriage is awesome, I dont have to come home from work wondering if my wife is going to be "too tired" or whatever, in fact she wakes me up out of sleep when she wants it too so it has to work both ways and its all good. Or worse find you she does not like to perform X Y or Z EVER, thats a nice little recipie for divorce.

This whole post is so awesome, and yet soo wrong, that I honestly don't know where on earth to start.