Confusion..

[plasticdaffodils]

Here's my situation... I would like to believe I was right, but you tell me.

I was at a party with a friend of mine, Raymond. We were drinking and sitting on the floor.

I kept noticing that the girls at the party was dressed a certain way. It made me feel weird, seeing as if I was in no way dressed in the matter that they were. They were dressed in the fashion that people call "Indie", I guess.

I turned to my friend and I commented, "All the girls in here look exactly the same. I don't see how males find it attractive if they all are mimicking the exact same style. Don't they have a style of their own?"

Now, at that moment, the expression on my friend's face changed completely. He looked at me and sighed, "That's not cool."



I just noticed that they were limiting themselves. As if they didn't want to be an individual. All of them had the exact same styles of clothes, same hairstyle, same makeup.

Was I wrong?

D.

 

[alfrodull]

Your friend probably just took it the wrong way. To me, it might have sounded like you were criticizing the Indie style, or labeling yourself as superior for being different. After all, adopting that style was, in a sense, their way of being unique.

 

[Blackguard_]

You were very right, which is why I beleive he got so offended.

People who dress artsy/emo/indie/punk/goth etc. tend to be extreme conformists who like to fool themselves into thinking they are non-conformists, so I think your comment hit too close to home.

I don't see how males find it attractive if they all are mimicking the exact same style

That very much depends on how the style looks on them, copied or not. besides, the idea everybody has to have thier own style just adds more fuel to the indie/emo/punk/goth/etc. look fire.

 

[Evangelina]

Whether or not you intended it that way, it probably came across as nasty. C'mon, they weren't really all dressed the same, were they? Just enough different to you that they looked similar to each other in comparison. You mentioned that it 'made you feel weird' ... so do you think maybe your comment was in reaction to how you were feeling, to help get yourself feeling better about your own clothing/hair/whatever?

 

[plasticdaffodils]

No, I didn't mean it as I was superior or anything like that.

My comment really has nothing to do with me.

They really were wearing everything the same! No one had a distinct unique look. I felt weird, because it was just like being surrounded by the exact same person.

I wasn't criticizing anything. It was just weird to me.

D.