I have been separated from my husband for over 2yrs. and will soon be getting divorced. I was married for 24yrs. and from the beginning, there was no connection. He has a personality disorder and it caused our marriage to be very shallow. In other words, he never allowed me to get to know him. I eventually left him. Anyhow, my concern is that I now find myself missing him at times. I don't feel I want to go back, because nothing would have changed. Has anyone else experienced these feelings of missing their exspouse, and why do you think this is. Thanks
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BrBob
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That is a soul tie. A marriage covenant ties the souls of two people together. Even if a marriage is ended, a part of each person still resides in that other person. That's why God hates divorce, it's a ripping apart of His people.
These soul ties can be broken. It takes repentance and renunciation but it can done.
Bob
Spearfish, SD
These soul ties can be broken. It takes repentance and renunciation but it can done.
Bob
Spearfish, SD
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Could it be a message from God? Maybe you will not be happy divorced. Maybe God is going to work a miracle in your husband. It is never too late for God to change a person. How does your husband feel about the divorce?
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You can't be married for 24 years and not know someone if you lived in close proximity to them. If you did live with them for so long and claim not to know them you might want to rethink blaming them for the divorce. Either way, of course you will miss them.
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It's normal to miss our ex's. Sometimes I look out at the place where we used to set up picnics on the weekend and I'l remember how we all were laughing and playing in the summer sun. It was a beautiful experience and I wish the whole relationship could have been like that. Other days I walk past the door of the woman who my stbx cheathe with and I just feel week and angry. It's an emotional rollercoaster. I miss friends that have drifted away as well. I think it's totally normal to miss someone you've had any kind of positive experience with... don't beat yourself up over it. Just be thankful for the memories.
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To miss your ex is very normal. You have spent so much of your lives together, even if the marriage wasn't great. Go with it and take it to your heavenly Father who loves you dearly. Over time you will likely find that you miss him less, at least that has been my experience. As tryingtobeagain said, the feelings will come and go, triggered by different things you may see, hear and do.
Although possibly well intentioned, I want to encourage you not to take condemnation re: knowing your husband and blame for the divorce. Many people do not understand the effect of personality disorders and you can only know a person as much as they will let you. Regardless of who may ave done what, there is enough pain in divorce without condemnation.
I pray you will seek and find rest and comfort in Jesus as you go through this time. He loves you and is with you every moment.
Bless you
Hope
Although possibly well intentioned, I want to encourage you not to take condemnation re: knowing your husband and blame for the divorce. Many people do not understand the effect of personality disorders and you can only know a person as much as they will let you. Regardless of who may ave done what, there is enough pain in divorce without condemnation.
I pray you will seek and find rest and comfort in Jesus as you go through this time. He loves you and is with you every moment.
Bless you
Hope
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