Confused

[godishardcore]

I was hoping you could help me as a little confused.

Theres this girl at school I really fancy, this has never happened to me before but I have not felt like this before so I must want more than friendship. Should I tell her how I feel?

Why has God made me like this? Will he still love me?

 

[ladybuelah]

BEFORE I POST THIS I WANNA YOU TO NKNOW THAT THIS IS PURELY BIBLE BASED!!
romans 1v18-32, 1 corinthians 6v9-11, 1 timothy 1v9-11 hunnie i hate to have to be the one to tell you this but you are gonna have to ask God to get you over this God has the right man out there for you , dont compramize for a women, it will never bring you the joy you will have with your future husband! think about it if you go for a girl then your not only hurting you and your friends and family, but allso the guy your ment to be with even if you dont know him yet. The devil trys to destract us from Gods will with all sorts of things you may not even "like" this girl the way you think you do but the devil is good at makeing you belive lies. Dont be deseved hunnie tell God about it and et over it, yea that will take time but wirh Gods help and the surport of your freinds and your family you can do it pluss im sure the gals here would be more then happy to help in any way we can i.e prayer advice etc. Also hun if you want you can pm me when ever you want! God bless you and i will be praying for you luv in Christ hayl xx
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[Tashie]

what ladybuelah said!

You said that you must want more than friendship because you fancy her. I famcy Adam Sandler and Frank Lampard but i wouldn't actually want to go out with them,

Aswell as what ladybuelah said i think that you need to keep yourself away from this girl for the time being and guard your thoughts. Pray, but dont keep thinking about it unless your praying about it, if you think about something like that too much theres the risk of it becoming a longing an then even an action.

Im praying for you an im here if you want to chat or anything!
Love! Tasha x

 

[Paddington]

I agree with above posters. Just because you feel something for this one girl don't think "argh I'm gay!!..." they might be feelings that go away pretty soon and after that you never feel anything for any other girl. Just pray about it, you're definitely not the only one to experience this!

P.S Tashie...

I famcy Adam Sandler and Frank Lampard but i wouldn't actually want to go out with them

(Really? Adam Sandler? )

 

[JesusFreakForEternity]

Hey, I've had the same in the past... Yeah it's really hard, but keep praying, ask God what's going on, ask him to help you see what's right and give you strength to follow it. Sometimes it can help to sit down and work out your feelings. Is she a good friend of yours? Sometimes when you;re really close to someone and you want a closer friendship, your feelings can get confused, and your desire to be close to someone can make you think you like them in a different way. Is it something you admire about her? Think about what it is, and then think how much more amazing Jesus Christ is. I've found that can help a lot with unwanted feelings for anyone... everything you can possible imagine ina perfect relationship with everything, the deepest desires of your heart, the longing to be perfectly close to someone who will understand you completely, eveything we want relationship wise, we can have that in Jesus. Our relationship with him is so much cooler than relationship with any guy or girl.

(And I was thinking the same... Adam Sandler?! I am a bit of a Frank Lampard fan though... )

 

[revivaloftheceltic]

I had the same problem; the only way it worked out is that she moved and I lost interest. I still think about her, and I miss her but only because she was a good friend.
At the end of the day to be in a situatuion like this is difficult, trust, I speak from personal experience. Prayer didn't always work. It made it a little easier, but it (the feeling) never stopped fully. And telling other people just got me sympathy (which I hate) and people crowding around n asking me how I am.
I guess it took her moving away, which if I think about must have been God's intervention, to clear my head and get some space.

 

[ToriL90]

I ASSURE you, God still loves you. You probably aren't really homosexual, but even if you were, it's only the homosexual acts that are condemned, not the person for being homosexual.

But I really doubt you are homosexual. There are a lot of heterosexual people - I think more than not, actually - who have had one or two instances of displaying homosexual tendencies. And what you're saying now doesn't even sound like a homosexual tendency to me.

I wondered once if I might have been. It sounds a lot like what you're saying. I had become a HUGE admirer of the singer-songwriter Anna Nalick. I spend long periods of time on her message board, listened to her whole album every day, and so on. I began to wonder - was I thinking too much about her? But I took a really good look at my feelings about her. I realized that, while I admired her very deeply, it was nothing more than an admiration.

You obviously have deep-seated feelings for her, which makes you naturally wonder if you can feel that strongly for somebody you aren't sexually attracted to. But take a close look at your feelings - it is possible to have feelings that run just as deep as a sexual attraction without them being sexual.

 

[Tashie]

Shut up! Adam Sandler is wayyyyy cool, can't beleive you guys don't think that!! I'm not sure what it is about him, i think its just cause he makes me laugh. *awww!*

And the Frank Lampard (England an Chelsea football player) thing is TOTALLY justified, google images for him. I DARE YOU.


p.s. I am in a happy realationship right now!!! Ha ha!! (he knows about the crushes!! He fancies Kiera Knightly! - fat lipped cow!!)

 

[Paddington]

Tashie - Ok, I'll let you have Frank Lampard. He's alright I don't get why guys fancy Keira Knightly, she's far too thin and she always looks moody!

And on topic, I completely agree with Tori. It's only if you decide to act on it that the problems really start.

 

[godishardcore]

I really really really want to act on it though, what do I do?

 

[ToriL90]

So you've taken a close look at your feelings, and they definitely are sexual? It's not just that you're assuming they are, as you did in your first post?

 

[burningowl]

Yes, God will still love you