Confused

[CelticGoth]

What do I do when I become depressed for a few days to the point of wanting to take my own life, but then I "snap out of it"? The doctors won't diagnose it as depression because it doesn't last the stereotypical two weeks. I'll be suicidal and severely hopeless for three or so days, and then the next few weeks I'll be alright.

Normally, I'd say it's just "the blues" that everyone gets, but wanting to take my own life?

 

[rita727]

After you "snapped out of it", did you feel unusually good--like an "I'm on top of the world" feeling?

Or just "normal" again?

 

[Ruth~]

I don't know what you call it. I think all of us have suicidal thoughts at times. The best thing to do is not to entertain them and just get busy doing something else.

 

[metherion]

Even if the doctorswon't diagnose you with depression, you should still get to counselling. Seeing a psychiatrist is might help you figure out what is really wrong.

Also, if your 'downness' follows a pattern, try to schedule fun stuff, like picnics or games with friends, or helpful stuff, like a meeting with your local minister, during the down periods. This might help them go away or at least help you deal with them better.

God bless!

Metherion

 

[CelticGoth]

After you "snapped out of it", did you feel unusually good--like an "I'm on top of the world" feeling?

Or just "normal" again?

Just normal.

As for therapy, I'll gladly involve myself in that when I find a Christian psychologist I can trust.

 

[karen freeinchristman]

I agree that counselling with a good Christian counselor would probably help, but you do seem to be pretty aware of your cycles. When you are in a depressed state, can you keep focussed on the fact that you have overcome this many times before, and that you will come through Ok again? When I sometimes get depressed (OK, I haven't entertained suicide, not seriously, anyway) I try to remember that I have weathered the storm before, and just ride it out.

 

[CelticGoth]

I agree that counselling with a good Christian counselor would probably help, but you do seem to be pretty aware of your cycles. When you are in a depressed state, can you keep focussed on the fact that you have overcome this many times before, and that you will come through Ok again? When I sometimes get depressed (OK, I haven't entertained suicide, not seriously, anyway) I try to remember that I have weathered the storm before, and just ride it out.

When I'm depressed, I fully realize I've beat it before.

I just don't care that I have. To me at the time, it's irrelevant. The only reason I don't commit suicide in those depressed states is because I care and I hope too much.

 

[karen freeinchristman]

When I'm depressed, I fully realize I've beat it before.

I just don't care that I have. To me at the time, it's irrelevant. The only reason I don't commit suicide in those depressed states is because I care and I hope too much.

Hang on to that care and hope, my brother!

 

[CelticGoth]

Hang on to that care and hope, my brother!

The problem with that is the person that I hope and care about doesn't care and hope about me on that same level.

And that's where the depression kicks in: It seems I'll never be with her, thus I get depressed.

 

[karen freeinchristman]

The problem with that is the person that I hope and care about doesn't care and hope about me on that same level.

And that's where the depression kicks in: It seems I'll never be with her, thus I get depressed.

Oh, dear. I do understand that problem, my friend. Even though I am now married, I've been through a lot of that prior to marriage.

You are so young. I know it doesn't help to hear that.

Try to put your hope in Christ. People let us down all the time. It's not that people are untrustworthy (to give our hearts to) - but people let us down. It is sad, but true. We should care for others, but hope in
Christ.

 

[CelticGoth]

Oh, dear. I do understand that problem, my friend. Even though I am now married, I've been through a lot of that prior to marriage.

You are so young. I know it doesn't help to hear that.

Try to put your hope in Christ. People let us down all the time. It's not that people are untrustworthy (to give our hearts to) - but people let us down. It is sad, but true. We should care for others, but hope in
Christ.

I've heard it all before. God's got a fish out there with my name on it, yadda yadda yadda blah blah blah. Funny how I always hear that from people who are happily married and seem to have never experienced depression in their life.

As for hoping in Christ, it's very difficult to trust someone I can't see.

 

[karen freeinchristman]

I've heard it all before. God's got a fish out there with my name on it, yadda yadda yadda blah blah blah. Funny how I always hear that from people who are happily married and seem to have never experienced depression in their life.

As for hoping in Christ, it's very difficult to trust someone I can't see.

Well, I never said God's got a fish out there with your name on it. He may, or he may not. And for me to say "just hope in Him" is pretty difficult, I do know. Because all my life I had family members tell me to hope in God, and I didn't believe them. It wasn't until I experienced post-natal depression (the kind of depression a woman can get after childbirth, due to hormonal changes), that I really reached out, no, CRIED out, to Jesus to help me. I cried out to him in prayer. I was never very religious my whole life until the time came that I needed him, at the age of 37! And Jesus brought me out of that depression, slowly but surely. It didn't happen overnight. I still slide back into it even now, every now and then - but I know where my hope lies. Not in any other person except in Jesus.

 

[ashlinabb]

What do I do when I become depressed for a few days to the point of wanting to take my own life, but then I "snap out of it"? The doctors won't diagnose it as depression because it doesn't last the stereotypical two weeks. I'll be suicidal and severely hopeless for three or so days, and then the next few weeks I'll be alright.

Normally, I'd say it's just "the blues" that everyone gets, but wanting to take my own life?

Dear CelticGoth,

I can feel for you because I am the same way, and have been dealing with it for years.
The most important part is that you have trusted Jesus with your life, therefore you must always tell yourself that God will never give you more then you can handle. Life can get just as hard for a Christian as it can for someone unsaved but we have something they don't have, that is the promise from God that the two most precious feelings a human can posses are at our disposal, Peace and Joy.
The fact that you can get out of depression is a good thing. It means the power of God is at work in you. Remember that it is the devil's job to make you believe that God isn't in control of your life and that you are a runaway train. The truth is that even when you are depressed and life seems the worst God is still very much in control of what happens to you.
You can take all kinds of meds and talk to as many people as you like and they will help a little, but until you believe with every fiber of your being that God is in total control of your life whether your messing up or doing the right thing, the devil will continue to push your buttons.
Keep your eyes on Him and when you get depressed try to learn something from it rather then being scared of it. It is hard to believe that God can teach us something in the middle of depression but take it from me, He certainly can.
Shoot for peace and joy and fear nothing for you are The Kings son.
A friend

 

[mandee]

The pattern you describe is exactly what I go through. I do notice that it usaually gets to be too much when I try to do too much and stress gets the better of me...then depression is sure to follow. Does this sound like you?

 

[Amin]

What do I do when I become depressed for a few days to the point of wanting to take my own life, but then I "snap out of it"? The doctors won't diagnose it as depression because it doesn't last the stereotypical two weeks. I'll be suicidal and severely hopeless for three or so days, and then the next few weeks I'll be alright.

Normally, I'd say it's just "the blues" that everyone gets, but wanting to take my own life?

Hi, How ya doin?
I've been told by doctors that our feelings and emotions are like a flowing river. Have you ever seen the water flowing in a river, or maybe something floating in the river? If you look to your right and see an object eventually it gets
closer because the current is constantly moving. Our feelings are the same way, they're constantly moving from one to another just like the object floating by.
Our emotions never stay in the same place. When the storm is raging around you, ask God to keep you safe until it passes like the object in the water, it will
pass . I've already been caught outside in a storm. I find shelter and wait until it passes by. Let God be your shelter until the storm passes. I think it's also true that you get a definite diagnosis so you know what you're dealing with. There's a lot of anxiety and fear when we don't know what's going on when it comes to our health. I'd really like to see you hold on until things can be figured out. You probably feel alone in this, but trust me,
you're not. You can P. M. me anytime you'd like. Plus I'm sure there are a lot of people here that would say the same thing.
Let me know how you're doing. Okay?
Chuck.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Hi, How ya doin?
I've been told by doctors that our feelings and emotions are like a flowing river. Have you ever seen the water flowing in a river, or maybe something floating in the river? If you look to your right and see an object eventually it gets
closer because the current is constantly moving. Our feelings are the same way, they're constantly moving from one to another just like the object floating by.
Our emotions never stay in the same place. When the storm is raging around you, ask God to keep you safe until it passes like the object in the water, it will
pass . I've already been caught outside in a storm. I find shelter and wait until it passes by. Let God be your shelter until the storm passes. I think it's also true that you get a definite diagnosis so you know what you're dealing with. There's a lot of anxiety and fear when we don't know what's going on when it comes to our health. I'd really like to see you hold on until things can be figured out. You probably feel alone in this, but trust me,
you're not. You can P. M. me anytime you'd like. Plus I'm sure there are a lot of people here that would say the same thing.
Let me know how you're doing. Okay?
Chuck.

That's a good analogy to use, that our emotions are like a river. It makes them easier to understand.
I also only get depressed for a few days at a time and then I'm fine for up to a few months sometimes. I've been doing wekk for so long I was starting to think I was almost 'cured' but I guess God is never that nice.
I never quite get suicidal but things seem hopeless and when I have to study it makes it very difficult.
Its also difficult to just ride it out because when I've got things to do and deadlines I don't know how long it will last and I can't just sit arounf doing nothing until I feel better. Sometimes I try to fight it, other times I just give in to it. Now I'm in a state of depression but not depressed at this moment, but anything can trigger it at any time, if that makes any sense.

That's enough from me, I don't think anybody would care to hear that anyway so why bother.