Confused with myself

[Star_Flower21]

Ok, I have problems, lots of problems, not just sexual. But here I can only talk about that, so here goes.
I like women as much as I like men. And I like men a whole, whole lot. I'm married, and my hubby doesn't like me sexually--he has other interests. He is still jealous when I go out with other people, tho--and I still feel jealous when he does. And I also feel bad about what I do, not just what he does. I really do love him, even tho we don't ever have sex, and I don't even want to, with him--only with other ppl. I can't explain more on the forums, but you get the picture. I'm so confused--what I'm doing goes against everything I ever learned as being right, but it feels good, and it makes me feel happy--but it also makes me ashamed & depressed.

 

[Johnnz]

Marriage without sex won't satisfy you sexually! So, you have a normal sex drive with no outlet.

Is your same sex interest only since marriage, or has it been there for longer?

John
NZ

 

[goldenviolet]

how about counselling? honestly, you can love and care about your husband (or wife, for ye gents); and be so hurt or let such distance ove-ride your intimacy buttons with eachother. it's so sad. i'd let hubby know you are craving intimancy, and ask his willingness to go see your pastor, or a professional. xo dee

 

[AtheistPerson]

How do you have someone who isn't sexually attracted to you just a little bit. I'm sorry but your marriage is a little strange. Love has nothing to do with sex, just love.

 

[555onetwothreefour]

Unfortunately this isn't that uncommon. There are many marriages out there where the couple isn't quite sexually compatible. At least emotionally. I can't say i have answers to this one, but i'm struck by your situation because i've struggled with the same issue in a past relationship. Talk to your husband about your needs, your desires. Communicate with each other about what it is you're feeling. Maybe check into some counseling, like goldenviolet suggested. Until then, you have prayers from us.

 

[Star_Flower21]

Thanks everyone--unfortunately I found out why he isn't interested in me anymore. It's because he IS interested in someone else. And honestly, I've also been interested in someone else, for quite a while now. I don't know how we'll wind up handling this--or how I'll handle things if we have to split up--but almost anything would be better than this farce, both of us pretending that we still love & trust each other. So, thank you all and please, continue to pray for us both--we really really need it.

 

[childofgod57]

hi - from what i have read you and your husband sound like friends living in the same house,despite the other post saying its not so,love inc sex thats the entire relationship,if one is not there then something is amiss,GOD made marriages for love inc sex,you both seem unattracted to each other now you have bi sexual feelings arising,ive seen that before from marriages that have skewed,friends who appear close and caring and before you know it your attracted to them,i dont know what to suggest other than what the poster said about counsilling but that takes 2 to tango as they say.......

 

[sphsjags]

I would suggest getting some kind of help; professional.