Hi everyone,
So I've gotten myself into a sticky situation here and I'm not quite sure what to do lol.
Over this past summer, I worked with these two guys. I started to really like them both, and the one and I started to develop a, uh, 'romance' for lack of a better word. Nothing too deep, just joking flirtatiously and stuff. We'll call this guy Bob. At the very end of the summer when we were all departing for college, Bob kissed me. He told me he was glad that he got to know me this summer and stuff, and I said the same to him. We started off texting each other pretty regularly in the Fall but kind of fell out of it as time wore on. The last time I saw him (over Thanksgiving break), he said he doesn't want to date anyone right now because he had broken up with his long term girlfriend earlier in the summer and wasn't ready to move on.
So let's get to the second guy. He'll be Joe. Joe and I became good friends over the summer time. To put it innocently, Joe's extremely good looking (lol) and he's very fun to be around. Throughout the Fall, we've been talking more and more and he recently asked me out on a date over Christmas break (we go to different schools. We all do, btw. I didn't really clarify that). I said yes because, you know, I want to.
So this is all fine and good and everything, exceeeept for a few details.
First off, everyone else I work with think me and Bob are a thing and we were basically 'class couple' throughout the summer. But Bob doesn't want a relationship and I really like Joe. But no one else KNOWS Joe and I have become a thing and... I don't want to be seen as someone who 'gets around' if we start dating because I'm not that kind of girl. Lol, I don't want people to see me as one of.... those.
Plus - and here's where my real issue lies - I have a friend, Beth, who really likes Joe too. She doesn't know I like him and she doesn't know we've been texting each other. I feel sooo bad at times because she'll text me things like "I don't understand why Joe doesn't really text me" and stuff like that... And Joe's told me he doesn't like Beth. He told me she's not his type. Since I'm sort of in the middle of both of them, I haven't told either of them that they've been talking about each other to me... :o
SO... I'm sorry this has been so long but I need advice lol. Here are my main concerns. Is it wrong for me to date Joe if Beth likes him too? I mean, we are friends and everything but Joe for sure doesn't like her and we both like each other. She's my friend and I feel like I should tell her what's been going on but how do I do it without hurting her? I can't tell her that Joe doesn't like her because that would hurt both of them. Should I talk to Joe about it??
And what about Bob? He outright told me and everyone we work with he doesn't want a girlfriend. So why do I feel like I'm almost cheating on him by going out with Joe?
Ugh. I would appreciate any opinions or advice
So I've gotten myself into a sticky situation here and I'm not quite sure what to do lol.
Over this past summer, I worked with these two guys. I started to really like them both, and the one and I started to develop a, uh, 'romance' for lack of a better word. Nothing too deep, just joking flirtatiously and stuff. We'll call this guy Bob. At the very end of the summer when we were all departing for college, Bob kissed me. He told me he was glad that he got to know me this summer and stuff, and I said the same to him. We started off texting each other pretty regularly in the Fall but kind of fell out of it as time wore on. The last time I saw him (over Thanksgiving break), he said he doesn't want to date anyone right now because he had broken up with his long term girlfriend earlier in the summer and wasn't ready to move on.
So let's get to the second guy. He'll be Joe. Joe and I became good friends over the summer time. To put it innocently, Joe's extremely good looking (lol) and he's very fun to be around. Throughout the Fall, we've been talking more and more and he recently asked me out on a date over Christmas break (we go to different schools. We all do, btw. I didn't really clarify that). I said yes because, you know, I want to.
So this is all fine and good and everything, exceeeept for a few details.
First off, everyone else I work with think me and Bob are a thing and we were basically 'class couple' throughout the summer. But Bob doesn't want a relationship and I really like Joe. But no one else KNOWS Joe and I have become a thing and... I don't want to be seen as someone who 'gets around' if we start dating because I'm not that kind of girl. Lol, I don't want people to see me as one of.... those.
Plus - and here's where my real issue lies - I have a friend, Beth, who really likes Joe too. She doesn't know I like him and she doesn't know we've been texting each other. I feel sooo bad at times because she'll text me things like "I don't understand why Joe doesn't really text me" and stuff like that... And Joe's told me he doesn't like Beth. He told me she's not his type. Since I'm sort of in the middle of both of them, I haven't told either of them that they've been talking about each other to me... :o
SO... I'm sorry this has been so long but I need advice lol. Here are my main concerns. Is it wrong for me to date Joe if Beth likes him too? I mean, we are friends and everything but Joe for sure doesn't like her and we both like each other. She's my friend and I feel like I should tell her what's been going on but how do I do it without hurting her? I can't tell her that Joe doesn't like her because that would hurt both of them. Should I talk to Joe about it??
And what about Bob? He outright told me and everyone we work with he doesn't want a girlfriend. So why do I feel like I'm almost cheating on him by going out with Joe?
Ugh. I would appreciate any opinions or advice
