Communication Problems

[Heartfelt123]

Does anyone else have problems with communication? When im talking (even with a family member). We would be talking and then I will totally loose track of the conversation and then get anxious. I feel like all my conversations are pressured (not like mania) and tense. One example was when i was talking with my dad yesterday and right after he would finish a sentence i would tense and freeze and all i could muster was a yeah. I also have alot of trouble looking people in the eyes. its like i feel intimadated by everyone or scared they are going to hurt me. I dont know its kind of hard to explain.

 

[RuthD]

Sorry, I don't usually have this problem but have in the past with people who were domineering toward me. Have you tried counseling?

 

[BRERDO]

Anxiety is a drag. A well known drag. It isn't something that can easily broken as some people feel it can be. I currently have a benzo prescription for situations that might cause me to bring out the old capital "A" and act up again. My anxiety stems from a social anxiety disorder where I have terrible time communicating and interacting with people I do not know or people I might one day have a relationship with (co-workers, clients, friends of friends, etc...). It is total crap. I am not in the same boat that you are but I can empathize with you and hopefully you can find what it is that will put your anxiety to rest because you deserve it.

 

[puppii]

I have trouble with eye contact sometimes and I have no idea why. I didn't even realize I did it until someone pointed it out to me. I guess I don't really pay that much attention but I wish I knew why I avoid it and how to counteract that.

 

[BRERDO]

I did not know I did it either, to tell you the truth. Now that someone pointed it out I am self-conscious of it and now I have anxiety that I am not looking people in the eye and that everyone notices me not doing it and will end up not talking to me because I can't make sustained eye contact with them.

Sometimes I find myself just repeating 1 Peter 5:7 - "Cast all your anxiety on Him for he cares for you." and it helps. I have found that indeed does.

Another that teaches to not worry about your life that we are taken care of.


Matthew 6:25-27

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?"

 

[puppii]

I think Psalms and Proverbs helps too with dealing with people and the way you feel about their actions

 

[Heartfelt123]

Thanks for the replys, just knowing i have a problem with eye contact was the start for me to correct the problem. I found that if i look people in the eye even though it "hurts" i can have more meaningful relationships. THe problem i still have is how much eye contact is too much? I tend to give people about 3-4 seconds of eye contact then make a facial expression or look away. is this correct?

 

[Loven God]

It is real hard for me to look someone in the eyes to , makes me nerves . I also lose track of convercations easy . I thank it is part of being bipolar . I just try to fouces harder when someone is talking to me , it does help . sometimes I have to sak them to repeat what they just said . I also have ADD and that makes it harder to . So don't be hard on yourself you are not alone .

 

[yanno the meek]

I'm bipolar and used to have the communication problem, the lack of eye contact and the forgetfulness halfway through a sentence. In my case it was the depression side of my bipolar which had taken hold and caused me to isolate. If you don't use the communication skills you lose them, same with the memory. Once I got my medications straightened out I was able to take part in life again and it eventually went away. As far as the eyes go, I find looking at the bridge of the nose a lot less intimidating.

 

[Loven God]

Good to hear you are doing better , and I will have to try the bridge of the nose thing .

 

[yanno the meek]

Good to hear you are doing better , and I will have to try the bridge of the nose thing .

Just be careful, if you're too close it will look like you're going cross-eyed.

 

[Loven God]

I just got new glasses so I can stand back more and look at the bridge of the nose with out going crossed eyed . LOL