Knight said:1) They do need to develop independance and fall asleep on their own.
2) If this is the case of an infant I'd be scared I'd roll over on them. (My wife and I both tend to do that throughout the night.)
Yes, these are the two fears of cosleeping. However, it happens safely all over the world. It's kinda counter-cultural in the west, but as in so many things, the way we do things now are not necessarily the best way. Our modern culture is production- and work-centred, not person-centred, and efficiency and individual independence are often valued over interpersonal relationships.
1) They need to develop security before they can develop independence, and this is one way of maxing up the security. Some people of course may say it's over the top but actually, small children have slept with their mothers for centuries in many cultures.
2) Yes -- this was my fear but everything I've read on co-sleeping has put my mind at rest on this.
This is just one plank of 'attachment parenting', an approach to parenting that emphasises the child's emotional need for closness to the mother during the early years. It has been popularised by Dr William Sears (a Christian)
http://www.askdrsears.com/
and builds of the work of the British psychologist John Bowlby, who studied the effects of taking infants away from their mothers.
John Bowlby's work is HATED by some feminists because it goes against their ideas that the mother can be replaced by daycare assistants. However, for those women who believe that full-time motherhood is far more important than any career, it provides very important scientific justification for their instinctual decision.
On the topic -- if I were to recommend just ONE book on parenting, it would be Becoming Attached, by Robert Karen.
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