chunker, chic and broad.

[AveMaria]

I would prefer to be called none of those terms, thank you very much, and I certainly wouldn't dignify an attempt with a response.

Nor will I respond to "dude" or "you guys" or anything like that.

What's wrong with 'ladies'? Simple, classic, respectful.

(It should come as no surprise that my childhood nickname was 'Miss Priss'!)

 

[BlessedVegan]

I call everyone dude or man, regardless of gender. But I don't mind anything, except for Chunker..who calls someone that? It's just mean.

 

[waterbear]

I recently had a friend tell me that these words were not appropriate when referring the to the female gender! What do you all think? I mean c'mon, can't be that bad.

Depends how well you communicate what you really mean when you use the terms. Tis in the context.

 

[Cherub8]

I couldn't imagine referring to any of my lady friends using those terms...

 

[fishstix]

Nope, no slang, that's what it means.,

Hmm. Well in that case, then it would be the height of rudeness to call a woman 'chunker'. Many women are insecure about their weight to start with - often to the point of having eating disorders. And if they aren't already, that's a good way to cause them to become insecure.

 

[AveMaria]

Hmm. Well in that case, then it would be the height of rudeness to call a woman 'chunker'. Many women are insecure about their weight to start with - often to the point of having eating disorders. And if they aren't already, that's a good way to cause them to become insecure.

I'd go a step further and say it would be the height of rudeness to call *anyone* chunker, no matter their age, weight, or sex.

 

[fishstix]

I'd go a step further and say it would be the height of rudeness to call *anyone* chunker, no matter their age, weight, or sex.

Good point.

 

[Stanfi]

Hmmm... Well how about not directly to the person, but in refering to that person.. For example "No, I won't go out with her, she's a chunker". Using it as a descritpive term to define the characterstics of someone else.

 

[fishstix]

Hmmm... Well how about not directly to the person, but in refering to that person.. For example "No, I won't go out with her, she's a chunker". Using it as a descritpive term to define the characterstics of someone else.

Putting someone down behind their back isn't a nice thing to do either. And even if someone truly is overweight, there's no need to gossip about it with other people. Think about how hurt the person could be if what was said got back to them.

 

[JPPT1974]

Tell me about it as I talked to people behind their back and it cost me dearly. Now I am doing my best not too!

 

[Stanfi]

Putting someone down behind their back isn't a nice thing to do either. And even if someone truly is overweight, there's no need to gossip about it with other people. Think about how hurt the person could be if what was said got back to them.

So what would you recommend saying instead?

 

[JPPT1974]

Just watch what you say and do and you will be fine!

 

[kelco]

So what would you recommend saying instead?

Calling them a person might work.

Mat 7:12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

 

[StephanieD]

I would suggest staying away from all of these terms. Chunker is probably the worst. Broad is not very appealing either. In my opinion, chick is only something I'd let my female friends call me. "Woman" is also not a good one. Why not use people's names? If you don't want to, what about "lady" or "sweetie" for a girlfriend. Something nicer than the ones previously mentioned.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Calling them a person might work.

Mat 7:12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

My sentiments exactly. Our tongue can cause us to get into so much unnecessary trouble (even if we're joking). Calling someone a name is not very nice nor Christ-like.


A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue.-Prov. 11:12

 

[fishstix]

So what would you recommend saying instead?

Ask yourself if there is even a need to say anything at all. If you're looking for a way to call a person fat, then it would be better not to say anything.

 

[fieldy]

broad is such an old fashioned term. if i were to use that word i might as well throw my jacket in a poodle for a girl crossing the street (i'm not serious). unless you were born in 1930 you have no reason to use that word. in my experience i have never seen anyone like being called a "broad"

 

[AveMaria]

Hmmm... Well how about not directly to the person, but in refering to that person.. For example "No, I won't go out with her, she's a chunker". Using it as a descritpive term to define the characterstics of someone else.

Definately not okay in my book. In that situation, how about a simple, "No, I won't go out with her, she's not my type"?

 

[Stanfi]

Definately not okay in my book. In that situation, how about a simple, "No, I won't go out with her, she's not my type"?

That is a brillant idea!

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Hey guys, just for clarification, is there ever a time when the word "chunker" DOESN'T refer to a person's weight?