Christians or Non Christians

[Fur]

I know its a bad idea to go out with Non Christians or have Non Christian bf/gf. I've actually taken a course about it and even heard remarkable testamonies of those who are married with Non Christians. But i couldn't help that the ppl i cared most about and has a greater likelihood to become my partner are my non christian friends. Has anyone stumpled with the same problems? Any advices?

 

[Lilly of the Valley]

Keep it at friendship level. If you try getting involved w/ them it will harm you spiritually and it just won't work out. Plus, it's disobedience. If you feel very presserd or tempted to get involved w/ them more then just friends, then you should probably make some distance btwn. them and yourself.

 

[bliz]

If you are really a Christian, then partnering with a non-Christian is out of the question. You say that God has all your loyalty and the He comes before anyone else. A non-Christian person does not put God in the same place. Either they see God as someone/thing lesser or unimportant or they worship a different God. How on earth can you form a partnership with someone who does not agree with you on the most important thing in your livfe?

If you are not finding Christians you like, perhaps you need to go looking someplace else. Try other branches of the Christian faith - other denominations, with other theological emphisis, where you might find someone with who you are more compatable. There is a great deal of variety within the Body of Christ, but Christians at the same church all tend to be somwehat alike. Branch out and you will be surprised!

Please don't be deceived by the great testemonies! For most people, being married to a non-Christian is constant heart ache. Check out the Unequally Yoked site.

 

[Love&Pain]

1 Corinthians 7 :: New International Version (NIV)


If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. 19Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. 20Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him.

 

[desi]

You can go for it but living with nonbelievers isn't always fun.

 

[charligirl]

There is a long discussion about this in the Unqually yoked thread at the moment.

http://www.christianforums.com/t716772

I would say that generally you should not get involved romantically with a non believer, for all the great testimonies you may hear there are many more that are not so great! 'Missionary Dating' where you date someone to save them is also not a good idea.

You would be far better off praying for the kind of Godly spouse that you desire, and wait for God to move and bring people into your life.

 

[charligirl]

1 Corinthians 7 :: New International Version (NIV)


If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. 19Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. 20Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him.

This refers to people who are already married when they become christians, the questionwas what should you do if you get saved after marriage and your spouse is not saved.

 

[Bradford]

This refers to people who are already married when they become christians, the questionwas what should you do if you get saved after marriage and your spouse is not saved.

You get it... That allows continued marriage between two former non Christians, when one is converted. The burden to decide to stay or go, however MUST be on the unbeliever- the converted cannot choose to leave over their conversion. (Unless it turns abusive, but that's another thread...)..

There is no scriptural support for a Christian to marry a non-Christian. So, why would you want to date one? Last time I checked- dating was an exercise, that, when done right, with the right person, leads to marriage.m Dating is not an end unto itself, even though our culture tries to sell it as such- we cannot buy into this false teaching.

Be in the world, but be not of the world. Why set yourself up in the position to be led into sin?

Just an idea- but if you spend more time around Christians, and less around non-Christians... you will have greater chance of someone acceptable (I mean a beleiver) catching your eye...

 

[D-Lisch]

Well, you could try to get them involved a little bit into Christianity. If they're good friends it might not be too hard to involve them in church or something. Pray about it with God to see if you're going in the right path.

 

[rainbowprism]

If you are really a Christian, then partnering with a non-Christian is out of the question. You say that God has all your loyalty and the He comes before anyone else. A non-Christian person does not put God in the same place. Either they see God as someone/thing lesser or unimportant or they worship a different God. How on earth can you form a partnership with someone who does not agree with you on the most important thing in your livfe?

If you are not finding Christians you like, perhaps you need to go looking someplace else. Try other branches of the Christian faith - other denominations, with other theological emphisis, where you might find someone with who you are more compatable. There is a great deal of variety within the Body of Christ, but Christians at the same church all tend to be somwehat alike. Branch out and you will be surprised!

Please don't be deceived by the great testemonies! For most people, being married to a non-Christian is constant heart ache. Check out the Unequally Yoked site.

Worded very well.

 

[rainbowprism]

You technically could date someone who is not a Christian but why would you want to date someone that doens't place your values and beliefs on the same level? For example, would you want to date someone that laughs at you becuase you pray before eating or something, would you want someone to tell you that you're nuts becuase you don't want to have sex before marriage because God says not to? There is a whole bunch of foundational, moral issues that would come up if you were a true Christian dating a nonChristian.

 

[revelation101]

I wouldn't push it, but if you believe that your faith is strong enough then try to just stay friends. If you don't think your strong enough then don't even try. Satan loves to try to catch people in their weakest moments.

 

[TheMainException]

Seek out people who are Christians. It's good to have nonchristian friends so that we can be a light in the darkness...but to have a love relationship with them is not what God wants from us...it can be really hard in later years if you have a bf/gf whose life is not based upon the Creator's way....think hard on this and seek God in prayer.

 

[cynjo59]

My advice to you, and this comes from personal experience, is to NOT pursue a relationship (the dating kind) with a non-Christian. You are setting yourself up for nothing but heartbreak. I married a non-Christian and I did not end up influencing him along the right path. I did end up falling out of church for 18 years. I did not raise my children in church and did not even attend a church for those years. By the time I realized how wrong I had been, my oldest was almost 17. I got my four girls to go to church but not my sons. My girls are saved, my boys are not and neither is my husband. Spare yourself the agony of such a relationship. God has a Christian man out there for you. Don't settle for second best.