Christians and college partying, do they mix?

[SymphonicaX]

I have a problem I am struggling with. I am not struggling with partying, in fact I've never been to a college party before. What I am struggling to understand is why some Christians themselves are involved in college parties.

What is the biblical stance on college parties? I know the bible speaks against orgies (another word for party), but what about modern parties? From what I hear, college parties are filled with uncontrolled drinking, sex, and drugs. It reminds me of modern sodom and gomorrah. Now I get the definition of college partying from friends that party, they tell me what they do, so that's why I think parties involve what I posted above.

Now why are brothers and sisters involved in this type of activity? I can understand if they go to hang out with their friends, but what about if they are participating in the drunkenness, sex, and drugs? Now that is obviously sinful, but what about plain attending parties?

I just don't understand what is the biblical stance on this huge activity in college.

 

[intricatic]

Party does not equal orgy. Two different things.

It depends on what kind of 'party' it is, and why one would be compelled to attend it.

 

[Blank123]

honestly i think something like that needs to be looked at as how is your participating in it going to bring glory to God's name? Certainly we have references that speak about maintaining self control which is hard to do when you're high or drunk, and of course the ones speaking specifically on avoiding drunkeness altogether. As well as verses which speak towards maintaining purity. But they all point to the common factor; as Christians our lives are to be lived for God.


but not all parties are orgies and not all parties are sinfilled. each individual situation needs to be judged on its own whether or not a Christian should be involved in that.

 

[billwald]

Jesus made wine for a wedding party as his first miracle.

 

[HumbleUnderdog]

Jesus made wine for a wedding party as his first miracle.

And??? Does this mean he promoting drinking? Does it say that he drink any himself?

You don't have to drink, do drugs, and have sex at a party. In fact, some ppl do only go to talk and hang out and have maybe a drink or two. I'd only go for a drink or two, and if I knew some ppl there that I could talk to, or to spread a bit of the bible to ppl who are willing to listen.

 

[intricatic]

And??? Does this mean he promoting drinking? Does it say that he drink any himself?

You don't have to drink, do drugs, and have sex at a party. In fact, some ppl do only go to talk and hang out and have maybe a drink or two. I'd only go for a drink or two, and if I knew some ppl there that I could talk to, or to spread a bit of the bible to ppl who are willing to listen.

Obviously He made the wine so He could condemn them once they started drinking it.

 

[Stinker]

For many young people, out on their own for the very first time, this will be their first real world experience.

I would say if they choose to experience one of these parties, that they only drink what they themselves brought.

Make it a point to see what these party people look like the next morning. Usually not a pretty sight.

 

[Tenebrae]

I have a problem I am struggling with. I am not struggling with partying, in fact I've never been to a college party before. What I am struggling to understand is why some Christians themselves are involved in college parties.

What is the biblical stance on college parties? I know the bible speaks against orgies (another word for party),

In that case I would really not want to come to what of your parties. A big difference between party and orgie, orgie, is where three or more people are indulging in sexual activities, a party can be anything from several people gathered together to watch a DVD, to a dinner party, to a drinking party where people all end up drunk

but what about modern parties? From what I hear, college parties are filled with uncontrolled drinking, sex, and drugs. It reminds me of modern sodom and gomorrah. Now I get the definition of college partying from friends that party, they tell me what they do, so that's why I think parties involve what I posted above.

The term Party is all encompassing and can not be defined by drinking and drugs, and sex. I went to a dinner party last week, yes there was alcohol, but no one was drinking to excess, especially as we all had work the next day

Now why are brothers and sisters involved in this type of activity? I can understand if they go to hang out with their friends, but what about if they are participating in the drunkenness, sex, and drugs? Now that is obviously sinful, but what about plain attending parties?

I just don't understand what is the biblical stance on this huge activity in college.

Me personally I'm allergic to alcohol. so when I go to a college party, I may have 1 or 2 drinks, however thats it. I can not afford to get a drink driving conviction in my line of work, it would really stuff everything up..... Personally I also like to be able to remeber what went on the next day

 

[SymphonicaX]

people I am talking about college parties not weddings or dinner parties lol

I can totally understand if any brothers and sistersn just want to hang out with their friends and maybe have a drink or two. The part that bothers is when I hear about Christians getting drunk, celebrating and idolizing alcohol, and pretty much being part of the world. It always frustrates me and bothers me. I know I have my own problems with sin, but I just don't understand why some willingly go to parties. It's like we get a bad rep for being Christians. But I shouldn't be complaining, I need to fix myself up first.

oh and dictionary.com's definition of Orgy is:

"1.wild, drunken or licentious festivity or revelry."

Another definition of orgy is sexual activity, and that seems to be more often used in our modern world.

 

[intricatic]

people I am talking about college parties not weddings or dinner parties lol

I can totally understand if any brothers and sistersn just want to hang out with their friends and maybe have a drink or two. The part that bothers is when I hear about Christians getting drunk, celebrating and idolizing alcohol, and pretty much being part of the world. It always frustrates me and bothers me. I know I have my own problems with sin, but I just don't understand why some willingly go to parties. It's like we get a bad rep for being Christians. But I shouldn't be complaining, I need to fix myself up first.

oh and dictionary.com's definition of Orgy is:

"1.wild, drunken or licentious festivity or revelry."

Another definition of orgy is sexual activity, and that seems to be more often used in our modern world.

Going to parties isn't synonymous with being an alcoholic or drinking a lot.

Orgies are historical and modern. In the historical, orgies were pagan worship rites to fertility god(s)(ess)(es), but in modern times, it refers to a group sexual activity.

 

[bliz]

Obviously He made the wine so He could condemn them once they started drinking it.

 

[Chie]

I have a problem I am struggling with. I am not struggling with partying, in fact I've never been to a college party before. What I am struggling to understand is why some Christians themselves are involved in college parties.

What is the biblical stance on college parties? I know the bible speaks against orgies (another word for party), but what about modern parties? From what I hear, college parties are filled with uncontrolled drinking, sex, and drugs. It reminds me of modern sodom and gomorrah. Now I get the definition of college partying from friends that party, they tell me what they do, so that's why I think parties involve what I posted above.

Now why are brothers and sisters involved in this type of activity? I can understand if they go to hang out with their friends, but what about if they are participating in the drunkenness, sex, and drugs? Now that is obviously sinful, but what about plain attending parties?

I just don't understand what is the biblical stance on this huge activity in college.

The bible is very clear on sin and having fellowship with those who do it. It do not matter if it is 1 person or a room of 100. Participating in any thing that is contrary to our walk as a christian , instructed to us by God , is wrong. Parties are not a sin, it is what is being done by the partier that determines it a sin or not. I as a christian, if I decided to attend a party, college or any other party whatever it might be, if drugs, drunkeness, sex orgies, sinful behavior of any kind was going on, I would walk my happy feet away.

 

[JWNEWMAN]

Obviously He made the wine so He could condemn them once they started drinking it.

No, that's what a pharisee would do. Thanks for the laugh!

 

[JWNEWMAN]

I'd stay away from any party that had, drugs, sex, and people consuming large quanities of alcohol unless I felt compelled by the Holy Spirit to go. Why tempt fate?

As far as you friends who go... it's why they are going at issue. The other issue. Why are you concerned? Do you feel bad for them, jealous of them, judgmental? If you think it is wrong you should talk to them in love and share your concerns. Are they going to do drugs, have sex, get drunk? Regardless, any get together that is intended for exess and intoxication isn't someplace I want to be. Sounds dangerous to a fuddy duddy like me.

 

[intricatic]

No, that's what a pharisee would do. Thanks for the laugh!

No way, they were already drinking. Besides, the pharisees couldn't turn water into wine.

 

[creationscrown]

I think that Christian youth want to attend a lot of these parties because they feel like they are missing out on something that the world has to offer. Most times they end up finding that the grass is not greener on the dark side - the grass is dead. I love to dance and I attended a lot of parties just to dance. But I always ended up feeling depressed because most of the people there were searching for something to fill the void in their lives and ended up being disappointed again and again.

I stopped going to the things because while I was having fun without engaging in the sin - it still wasn't healthy for me to be around it. And my being there wasn't bringing any glory to God.

As for what the Bible says - AVOID SIN! It doesn't matter if the sin is occuring in a party setting or at church, God wants us to separate ourselves from it as much as possible. Hope that helps.

 

[ChristBearer]

1 John 1:5-7

5 This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.

 

[SymphonicaX]

The bible is very clear on sin and having fellowship with those who do it. It do not matter if it is 1 person or a room of 100. Participating in any thing that is contrary to our walk as a christian , instructed to us by God , is wrong. Parties are not a sin, it is what is being done by the partier that determines it a sin or not. I as a christian, if I decided to attend a party, college or any other party whatever it might be, if drugs, drunkeness, sex orgies, sinful behavior of any kind was going on, I would walk my happy feet away.

that's the way I see things.

Ok how about I propose another question:

How would you communicate to a brother or sister that actually participates in the excess drinking, drugs, and sex? Now that is what bugs me the most.

 

[Blank123]

that's the way I see things.

Ok how about I propose another question:

How would you communicate to a brother or sister that actually participates in the excess drinking, drugs, and sex? Now that is what bugs me the most.

treat them with love and show them what the Bible has to say about the lifestyle they're choosing. pray for them as well

 

[JWNEWMAN]

that's the way I see things.

Ok how about I propose another question:

How would you communicate to a brother or sister that actually participates in the excess drinking, drugs, and sex? Now that is what bugs me the most.

It's their life but, you have a responsibility to them. Simply, pray and warn them. Tell them how you feel, there's no other way to communicate besides being honest and, as gentle as you can be. There are all sorts of dangers that should be obvious to them, point them out.

God is long-suffering and patience with I can attest, however, we also reap what we sow. There is always a price, and, its always to high. Plead for God's grace and mercy to protect them from some of the more wretched possible consequences, like drug addiction and stds.