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sherri

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I'm with the above :) . I think it fosters a whole 'club' mentality that you're either 'in' or 'out' of. Christianity is about loving everyone - not becoming part of a club that excludes everyone except other paying members.

I thought the rent-a-friend comment was great. Since when can you make true friends by signing a piece of paper. People telling you can just fosters superficiality.
 
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I guess I don't understand why some people think that by being in a "sorority" or "fraternity" you automatically agree to be friends with everyone in the club. That's not true. There are lots of people in large organizations who are more like acquaintances.

There are lots of clubs and organizations in which you pay dues. The dues are used to run the clubs, not to pay off people to be your friends. Members don't get paid to be each others friends... so I don't understand the mentality that you are "buying friends". You are buying your spot in the club, if anything, and the benefits of the membership (food, clothing items, etc.) are what you are buying.
 
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Mostly because you are renting friends. Housing and food are covered with some tuition packages, you join a sorority because you want to be friends with those people. And 9 times out of 10 if you lose touch with those people when you stop paying dues.
 
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I still don't understand how paying dues to be in a club is renting friends. You aren't paying those people, so how are you "renting" them? You're paying for your spot in the club, which includes all of the activities that you participate in and funding the operations and administration of the group.

You pay to be in a group because it costs to organize and run a group. That simple.

And by the way, some people may join clubs, civic organizations, or sororities or fraternities to make friends. What is so wrong with that? And lots of people join these groups because they do good work. I say that those are two EXCELLENT reasons to join an organization.
 
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They are not organizations, they are elitist groups that have secret practices that you are not allowed to talk about.

A Christian has no need to join Greek Life because they can make friends without having to be seclusive, and I have yet to meet a greek group that is not seclusive. Oh, and hte fact that you associate drinking rape and all around debauchery with them.
 
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Ok, Let me go into a little more detail about this sorority. This sorority is for christians who want to be involved in Greek life but they do not want to be associated with Drinking, Sex,drugs...etc. Some Christians want to be involved in groups that get together and have formals, sports, movies nights, girls nights, and they want to do it with people that they know. Once they join this sorority, they do meet people and yes they make a lot of friends because of this but to me that is not "renting".

Renting is like paying to use something that you will probably not use later. The dues and things that you pay in this club do not go to individual people to pay them to be your friends. It goes toward the funds for making the activities that you do throughout the year possible. This particular sorority does not have a house so that the dues are not as high as traditional sororities. They use the funds to help homeless people, to go on mission trips, to support Christian concerts, as well as the stuff just for the sorority sisters ( Like formals...etc)

Some people do have a hard time making friends no matter how hard it is. These groups can make it easier because people are generally more open to accepting new people when they are involved in something such as this.Some people have a hard time making friends, finding where they belong in college, This could be something that would work for them. That part depends on preference as far as if People would prefer to make their own friends. I guess I am not really asking about personal preference when it comes to "Making" Friends.

My main question is not about the friends issue, but if this is a good group to learn more about God. Its not a regular Sorority. It is a Christian Sorority, A sorority that seeks to strengthen women and to help them become better women of God. That is their purpose. I was wondering, if that is okay in the eyes of God? This group does not make everything in secret. In fact their Bid night is rahter public and really anyone that wants to join gets in. They call themselves a sorority in part to help those Christians who have yearning to be in a Sorority. But instead of practicing the things All the things that traditional sororities do, they seek to help christians because they will be in an atmosphere with other Christians.

My Question is, Is this against Christian Ideals? Should a christian not join a sorority/faternity because God says so? I guess I am looking for answers on a spiritual level.
 
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I don't think there is anything wrong with a person seeking to know God through this type of means. If you join and then find that it was a hoax or something, or that the members aren't really serious about their stated purpose, then it will be up to you to make sure that you aren't a part of something like that.

My sister is in a sorority like this, and they do have movie nights and "parties" and things like that, but they also have devotionals and do a ton of charity work with mentally handicapped children and all kinds of other worthy causes. They go to church together, and they have adult women who are there to make sure that everything is on track. She has really benefited in terms of her relationship to God and other Christian women, so yes, I TOTALLY think it was a good decision for her.
 
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That sounds like a cool organization and no there isn't anything in the Bible that says do not be involved in sororities that might bring you closer to God. Really there isn't and it's not breaking any Christian ideal that Im aware of either. It sounds like a good club and if you're commited to spending time with it and the people who are involved I would say go for it :)
 
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I am the president and founder of one and God gave me the vision to start it. I dont agree with Christians being apart of "traditional sororities", that is being unequally yoked. But as long the Christian sorority is truly of God and they dont do anything like the traditional ones (the secret information, the oaths, anything that contradicts the Word of God), there is nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately there are a lot of "Christian" sororites that really are no different than the others, they just slap "Christian" on the end and think that makes them different. YOu have to be doers of the Word not just hearers.Christians are really the first "sorority/fraternity" in my book. All that means is "sister/brother" and all Christians are brothers and sisters in Christ. Our mission is to unite them as one for Him. We also witness to the lost that is our purpose as Christians. NOt to make anyone feel alienated. We are called to love one another as Christ does.
 
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I'm currently the Vice President of Tau Beta Sigma at the University of Louisville. This is not a Christian sorority, but neither is it a social one. We are a professional honorary sorority, and our activities revolve around the support/promotion of band and music programs at our school and in the community. We usher concerts, provide the marching band with water at games, host the DCI championships, as well as host high school KMEA music competitions. Our fees are just enough to cover national dues, a T-shirt, and district convention admission. Making friends is an inevitable result. We are still very close to those who were suspended due to grades or stopped paying dues.

You just need to be careful about the particular organization you want to join. Just because it has a Christian label doesn't mean its going to be any better than those that don't. Just make sure that the organization's ideals are the same as your own, or don't join.
 
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I joined a Christian sorority late in my college years because I was lonely and it didn't make much of a difference. The girls I was friends with before I was still friends with and I didn't exactly bond with the others. Save your dues and jersey money if that's the only reason you want to join the group. If you really like what the group stands for and like the other benefits of being a sister, then go for it!
 
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I'm currently the Vice President of Tau Beta Sigma at the University of Louisville. This is not a Christian sorority, but neither is it a social one. We are a professional honorary sorority, and our activities revolve around the support/promotion of band and music programs at our school and in the community. We usher concerts, provide the marching band with water at games, host the DCI championships, as well as host high school KMEA music competitions. Our fees are just enough to cover national dues, a T-shirt, and district convention admission. Making friends is an inevitable result. We are still very close to those who were suspended due to grades or stopped paying dues.

You just need to be careful about the particular organization you want to join. Just because it has a Christian label doesn't mean its going to be any better than those that don't. Just make sure that the organization's ideals are the same as your own, or don't join.
I hear that. I was a the VP of Ritual in Sigma Alpha Iota, a music honorary. This very secular group sometimes acted more Christian than Kappa Phi, the aforementioned Christian Sisterhood (sorority)
 
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