Christian friends with benefits

[Sketcher]

I've had the cake. It's not enjoyable when it's being eaten ill-intentioned.

Right. Not waiting for dessert has a lot to do with that.

 

[beautygal123]

Right. Not waiting for dessert has a lot to do with that.

Exactly. The cake won't taste as good if you didn't wait for it. Once you do, it's incredible.

 

[MountainofGod1]

honestly, in my experience, dating someone because you want to get married is a bad idea. i want to get married too. i was flippin engaged up until last week.

you "agreed to dating her". that sounds like you "agreed to go on a picnic". perhaps you should just date her for a while and see if you even like her as a person... then think about marriage. sometimes when we get into that desperate "need to get married" mindset, we make a lot of compromises and settle for things that we wouldn't otherwise settle for.

just some friendly advice!

You should tell that to this girl. Doesn't every girl dream of getting married? The only difference between her and most girls is she is new to the game.

lucky for her, I'm not the kind of guy that just wants to score...

 

[MasterpieceMesias]

you ask not so you shall recieve not. what does God say on the subject....."Its not good for man to be alone" I will make him a helper comparable to him"........If God did it for Adam, He could do it for you, I had such an impossible list of criteria for a man at the age I met my wife. and confirmation after confirmation told me this was the one He brought to me........and He can do it for you too!....but you have to ask

okay, dude.
Like I said, there's more to life than relationships and what not. Aside from Christ and family, I have no need for extraneous relationships. But if somebody comes along, great! If not oh well nothing to get all bent out of shape over. I've been a social monastic for about a year now and couldn't be happier. It isn't good for man to be alone? pfft. . . .

 

[TheDag]

you ask not so you shall recieve not. what does God say on the subject....."Its not good for man to be alone" I will make him a helper comparable to him"........If God did it for Adam, He could do it for you, I had such an impossible list of criteria for a man at the age I met my wife. and confirmation after confirmation told me this was the one He brought to me........and He can do it for you too!....but you have to ask

One must wonder what you believe about the bible then. After all the bible tells us that it is better to be single but to marry if we can't control ourselves. So either the bible contradicts itself (which I don't believe) or there is more to the passage that one needs to look at to properly understand.

 

[A2597]

Bad idea to go the "Friends with Benefits" route, even if that doesn't include outright sex.

Think about it, some day you will find a woman you want to marry, but you'll be carrying this from your past. It *WILL* impact that relationship, and not in a positive way. There's a reason we are called to keep ourselves pure until marriage.

I've been in the same boat you are in, gone down that path...and now I've met a woman I want to marry, and wish very very much that I had not traveled that path so many years ago. I'm still technically a virgin, but that doesn't change that I've given parts of myself out to another woman in the past, and that knowledge hurts me a lot now.

Not worth it man. It just isn't. Save yourself for marriage, it will make it that much better!

 

[MountainofGod1]

this world is a hard place to live in and another woman has mine already. I look at it as a battle I lost in order to win the war... to me virginity was a stink in my nostrils in college. I am able to study and concentrate better on my work having gotten it over with.

It says in psalms I believe, that a man should allow his soul to have refuge in God alone.