Hey all, ok so in September I was dealing drugs, smoking weed, and fornicating. I met a girl that I knew through friends and we starting smoking together and having sex. at first i did not care about her so i slept with another girl while we were just dating then i slept with another girl one week into us being an official couple. as i got deeper into this relationship i realized that i loved her. I still do. she made me want to be a better christian, she isn't even saved but started going to church with me. 21 days ago i stopped smoking weed and selling drugs and started to be a good christian again. So then my heart was heavy with guilt and i told her about cheating. she cried and was really upset. she even logged into my facebook and posted my deepest darkest secret for all my friends to see. i had only told her about my secret. the whole time i was trying to win her back. she has forgiven me as of lately. i think of marrying her but then i have doubts but then i think of marrying her again it's like a bad cycle. so she wanted to get back together with me but i said no i cannot be a hypocrite and date her because christians aren't supposed to date non christians. i want her to get saved and i'm always thinking about her. i can see ourselves being married. little things bout her worry me. she was quitting smoking weed and cigarettes for me but as of lately she isn't anymore because i told her the about me cheating. i told her because i care about her. its the first girl in my LIFE that i've told that i cheated on her. she can be quite cold and shut me out at times but always comes back and talks eventually. so i want to know of some advice you all have for me. i want to marry her at times and others i dont. i want her to get saved and be on fire for God so if she doesn't get saved then i won't marry her. is it normal to have doubts like this or should you just IMMEDIATELY know that a certain person is the one for you and that everything will be peachy in marriage? any help would be appreciated thank you so much. Glory to God in the Highest.
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Leave her alone. Your faith has been weak and you've been corrupt. You need to get it stronger, and you need to be around other christians right now.
Besides, even if you can somehow convince her to continue to talk to you, she'll never trust you.
Besides, even if you can somehow convince her to continue to talk to you, she'll never trust you.
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I think you need to let God help you sort your life out first, before worrying about her life choices and whether or not you should marry her. You just very recently stepped out of a dangerous and dark lifestyle. There is a lot going on in your post. Lots of things that send up red flags. Your life needs to be straightened out first and foremost, and that takes time.
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I love how the biggest reason given for not getting back together was the non-Christian issue, the ONLY actual non-issue in this entire story. Not the cheating, the drug dealing, the lying, but the issue of religion.
You have WAY bigger issues in this story than religion. She ought to be running full speed away from you, from your description, not coming back to you. I really don't think I'm being overly harsh with this.
Please sort out your own life before getting involved with someone else. Don't be fooled, this has nothing at all to do with her not being saved and everything to do with your own actions. The comparison isn't even fair.
You have WAY bigger issues in this story than religion. She ought to be running full speed away from you, from your description, not coming back to you. I really don't think I'm being overly harsh with this.
Please sort out your own life before getting involved with someone else. Don't be fooled, this has nothing at all to do with her not being saved and everything to do with your own actions. The comparison isn't even fair.
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