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Springrain
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WELCOM ARIEL,
Glad to see your post...we have something in common...my husband and I kept on increasing the family right up to the time grandchildren were arriving and for the same reasons. We really loved family life. It was a big investment in time, love and money. Our youngest just left home. It is quiet (I should say peacful ) and I miss them so much but both my husband and I have health issues now and are lucky to be able to take care of each other now. Total years with kids in the house was 43 and 25 of them where teenagers to deal with.
It was a triumph of love and sacrifice even though it was tough.
God Bless you and your family. Hope to read more of your post.
Glad to see your post...we have something in common...my husband and I kept on increasing the family right up to the time grandchildren were arriving and for the same reasons. We really loved family life. It was a big investment in time, love and money. Our youngest just left home. It is quiet (I should say peacful ) and I miss them so much but both my husband and I have health issues now and are lucky to be able to take care of each other now. Total years with kids in the house was 43 and 25 of them where teenagers to deal with.
It was a triumph of love and sacrifice even though it was tough.
God Bless you and your family. Hope to read more of your post.
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Ariel
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Someone who is like-minded! How lovely!
Total time with kids in household so far (lol, assuming I can count my first pregnancy)--35 years. Total time before last child leaves--probably at least another seven years. He's only 14, plans to go to our nearby University, and will probably live at home for a while, just as our others did.
But like you, I love it. I love having a large family. I love having little ones around--now grandchildren! And my husband and I both love babies, which is probably why we had so many (that and lots of "oopses").
And I love even having my teens around. I love the fact that they still want to talk to us, and still seek us out for a chat or a long hug.
I also love it that my grown offspring still feel close enough to us to call sometimes!
This is my only complaint: You have children. They grow up to be nice people and you really enjoy having them around. And then they move.
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bcauser
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Boy oh boy I wish you could go on TV and shut this to all the people of the world!!!! Do you know how many children are falling apart because they didn't have parents that cared?? Toooo many. Bless you and your husband!!!Someone who is like-minded! How lovely!
Total time with kids in household so far (lol, assuming I can count my first pregnancy)--35 years. Total time before last child leaves--probably at least another seven years. He's only 14, plans to go to our nearby University, and will probably live at home for a while, just as our others did.
But like you, I love it. I love having a large family. I love having little ones around--now grandchildren! And my husband and I both love babies, which is probably why we had so many (that and lots of "oopses").
And I love even having my teens around. I love the fact that they still want to talk to us, and still seek us out for a chat or a long hug.
I also love it that my grown offspring still feel close enough to us to call sometimes!
This is my only complaint: You have children. They grow up to be nice people and you really enjoy having them around. And then they move.
Bless
B
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Ariel
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Thank you so much, Bcauser! I receive those blessings!
Yes, you're right. They say that 85% of families are dysfunctional. And there are so many broken people because of it.
I came out of a dysfunctional family, too. But here is the power and saving grace of our Lord Jesus Christ: He changed me, from the time I came to know Him at age 19. At first walking with Him just made me hungry for more. I was in a church that didn't teach the Bible. He filled me with His Holy Spirit, and I wanted even more. I was so hungry for the Word of God, but I didn't even know how to read it. Little by little He drew me. At age 25 I left my church (my family stills calls me a black sheep and tells me I am going to hell). I found a church that taught the Word. I started reading my Bible, resolving to read it through in a year.
That's when I started regularly hearing God's voice. His Word is His voice, but also I could hear His still small voice in my spirit. He called me His little lamb, His precious jewel, His beloved daughter. He encompassed me with His love. All day long I felt like I was walking in liquid love. I realize now He was building me up. All my life I had been told that I was no good. But God didn't agree with that at all. He said I was precious to Him.
And He corrected me. When I thought I should fast for a while, He told me that instead of fasting food, He wanted me to fast my words. No more angry words. No more blowing up. He asked me to do this for a whole week. Wow, it was hard, but I did it. At the end of the week I came to Him to say, okay, what now? He asked me to continue fasting my hot temper...It's been almost 28 years now, but I don't blow up anymore.
He taught me to be kind to those around me who often were hurting, though you didn't necessarily know it. He taught me to be gracious to difficult people. I've seen so many people change because of kind, gracious words. Maybe that's what they needed to change.
He taught me to walk with Him. Yes, I grew up in a dysfunctional family, but when I came to know the Lord, I grew up in an awesome family, the Body of Christ.
And that, I think, is what made so much difference for my kids. How wonderful to know that the love of God is poured out in our spirits by the Holy Spirit, Romans 5:5. We have all the love in the universe to draw from. And when we don't know what to do, we can remember that Jesus is our wisdom, our power, our righteousness, and our redemption, 1 Cor. 1:24, 30.
To God be the glory! I had lots of help--Him!
No, I wouldn't have anything to say to people on TV except to know that God loves them so very much, and that He can change the most hurt and bewildered person, just like I was.
Yes, you're right. They say that 85% of families are dysfunctional. And there are so many broken people because of it.
I came out of a dysfunctional family, too. But here is the power and saving grace of our Lord Jesus Christ: He changed me, from the time I came to know Him at age 19. At first walking with Him just made me hungry for more. I was in a church that didn't teach the Bible. He filled me with His Holy Spirit, and I wanted even more. I was so hungry for the Word of God, but I didn't even know how to read it. Little by little He drew me. At age 25 I left my church (my family stills calls me a black sheep and tells me I am going to hell). I found a church that taught the Word. I started reading my Bible, resolving to read it through in a year.
That's when I started regularly hearing God's voice. His Word is His voice, but also I could hear His still small voice in my spirit. He called me His little lamb, His precious jewel, His beloved daughter. He encompassed me with His love. All day long I felt like I was walking in liquid love. I realize now He was building me up. All my life I had been told that I was no good. But God didn't agree with that at all. He said I was precious to Him.
And He corrected me. When I thought I should fast for a while, He told me that instead of fasting food, He wanted me to fast my words. No more angry words. No more blowing up. He asked me to do this for a whole week. Wow, it was hard, but I did it. At the end of the week I came to Him to say, okay, what now? He asked me to continue fasting my hot temper...It's been almost 28 years now, but I don't blow up anymore.
He taught me to be kind to those around me who often were hurting, though you didn't necessarily know it. He taught me to be gracious to difficult people. I've seen so many people change because of kind, gracious words. Maybe that's what they needed to change.
He taught me to walk with Him. Yes, I grew up in a dysfunctional family, but when I came to know the Lord, I grew up in an awesome family, the Body of Christ.
And that, I think, is what made so much difference for my kids. How wonderful to know that the love of God is poured out in our spirits by the Holy Spirit, Romans 5:5. We have all the love in the universe to draw from. And when we don't know what to do, we can remember that Jesus is our wisdom, our power, our righteousness, and our redemption, 1 Cor. 1:24, 30.
To God be the glory! I had lots of help--Him!
No, I wouldn't have anything to say to people on TV except to know that God loves them so very much, and that He can change the most hurt and bewildered person, just like I was.
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sk8Joyful
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Hi ArielSomeone who is like-minded! How lovely!
I love having a large family. I love having little ones around--
And I love even having my teens around. I love the fact that they still want to talk to us, and still seek us out for a chat or a long hug.
This is my only complaint: You have children. They grow up to be nice people and you really enjoy having them around. And then they move.
Oh boy,
I can soo relate... I also *love having a large family. I love having little ones around--*
and
also re your last sentiment: "This is my only complaint: You have children. They grow up to
be nice
people and you really 
enjoy having them around. And thenthey move.
" ... Why; oh why? 
Annie
PS: silly
me, Nostalgia makes me forget sometimes, that one of our Primary-parental responsabilities, is to Raise our children, for just this --> living *independently*. And children, constructively encouraged in growing Secure & Confident in their own abilities, usually do FLY-away... Meaning we as parents were *successful*
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sk8Joyful
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Hi Springrain
Tho I just Added this 'PS' to the bottom of my post, chances are you may not see this there. So, for your hopeful Benefit as well, I've decided to re-post it here.
This is what I added:
" PS: silly
me, Nostalgia makes me forget sometimes, that one of our Primary-parental responsabilities, is to Raise our children, for just this --> living *independently*. And children, constructively encouraged in growing Secure & Confident in their own abilities, usually do FLY-away... Meaning we as parents were *successful* "May this make you Feel-*better*; even Peacefully
Joyfull 
Annie
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Springrain
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That was very kind of you to try to offer some comfort Annie...
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I was going to tell you that we were happy to share the snow with you. Then I looked at your profile and saw where you live and I would say you did not need any more snow!!
Guess that storm system that dumped on us still had lots in it.
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Ariel
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Hey Annie and Springrain, thanks for the comfort and kind words! Yeah, I guess I'm doing my job. Three of my kids are scattered. One of my sons lives near Philadelphia, one in Houston and one in Japan. I have a married daughter here in the town I live in. She is a lovely person, now expecting her third baby, her first daughter.
I've already decided. When we get to heaven, we are NOT going to live so far away from our loved ones that we can't see them very often. I don't know how God is going to do it, but I think it would be nice if families live together.
Bcauser, I just looked at your profile to see where you are. New York. Yes, I know you've had a lot of snow. Didn't your area also have an ice storm in October? I'm sorry, it must really be hard to look outside and see it coming down AGAIN.
I live in Texas. Anytime you want to send some snow our way, just go ahead and do it. Parts of Texas are still parched with drought. Our farmers would jump up and down with great joy to see precipitation in any form.
Instead, we just went through our second dust storm. And our town has been hit by flu as well as some kind of bacterial infection. We're still trying to spit out the dirt and cough up the phlegm.
I think I'd rather have snow....
I've already decided. When we get to heaven, we are NOT going to live so far away from our loved ones that we can't see them very often. I don't know how God is going to do it, but I think it would be nice if families live together.
Bcauser, I just looked at your profile to see where you are. New York. Yes, I know you've had a lot of snow. Didn't your area also have an ice storm in October? I'm sorry, it must really be hard to look outside and see it coming down AGAIN.
I live in Texas. Anytime you want to send some snow our way, just go ahead and do it. Parts of Texas are still parched with drought. Our farmers would jump up and down with great joy to see precipitation in any form.
Instead, we just went through our second dust storm. And our town has been hit by flu as well as some kind of bacterial infection. We're still trying to spit out the dirt and cough up the phlegm.
I think I'd rather have snow....
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sk8Joyful
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Hey Jim
You may think it's great
now; butGuess what!
the day may well
come when GOD says: "Welcome! to my mansion, Jim and here Whos-it & you will be *Next-door
neighbors*. Yippee, Yes! DO
ponder anew how this LIFE = merely *practice... for the next...*; and
Yes!
CHEER!!!!!
Annie
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Springrain
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I couldnt agree with you more Ariel...but I have to be totally honest here...The recipe for a HAPPY FAMILY does not always turn out a lovely prize winning cake no matter how hard a mother tries, no matter how much love she gives and how much she prays. For some MOMs, (not all) missing those adult children is equal to grief.
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sk8Joyful
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Hi Spring
Would it be OK
with you, for me to Gently suggest,that you miss (GOD's souls He entrusted into your Prayerful, Loving, Nurturing...*for a season
*) - not nearly as much; as you are missing, or better said, are Searching-for.. ,
what Developmental-*choices*..., you want to make in your own Sweet
life, next....You see, I've trod this path before you; and yes - (I also grieved; but additionally during that same time (7-yrs ago), I almost died physically; so there were 3-conditions in our Family, over which Suddenly/overnight I had precious little control. I just sorta went along for the ride
And that's also the time, I put on my 1st. ever *ice-skates* no less. But enough, about me )The point I wish to make for you, is this: You are still their Examplar, no matter what. Sure they are now outa the nest; But - they are still watching, albeit from a distance. AND
they want to know: *How WELL... is my own dear
Sweet mother faring with this latest Change*.And CHANGE is what LIFE is all about, you understand
Spring. So what do *you want to choose*; and equally-important, HOW ... <-- these-2 Skills are what you will continue... teaching..., and not only your own children; my dear
sister, the rest of the world, as well.I wish for you
my friend, ALL the very Best !!Annie
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