children

[dogs4thewin]

Do you have and/or want them?

 

[BookofMatt]

I adore children. I went to college with the initial ambition of becoming a special education teacher. When I worked in a bookstore, I read stories to kids every Saturday and hosted all the kids events. I've played in wacky costume bands who've done shows at schools and that sparked a desire to pursue work in children's media: I'd love to write kids' books or work in children's television. I have immense respect and admiration for anyone who works with children in any capacity.

That being said, I most certainly do NOT want kids of my own. I love working with them, playing with them, entertaining them...but I could not be attending to them literally 24/7 for the rest of my natural life. I don't know if I have that kind of particular patience or responsibility.

 

[dogs4thewin]

I do not want them.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

I definitely want kids! I even have names picked out. lol

 

[dogs4thewin]

I definitely want kids! I even have names picked out. lol

cool My health and abilites or lack thereof just make me feel that I could NOT properly care for kids. I have even seriously considered getting "fixed" to prevent that.

 

[Bananagator]

I'm not sure.
I used to be 100% positive that I wanted to have kids. Like, my WHOLE life. But as I get older I'm starting to question it.

But if I get married and my husband is cool with having kids, I'll probably have them hahaha

 

[BookofMatt]

cool My health and abilites or lack thereof just make me feel that I could NOT properly care for kids. I have even seriously considered getting "fixed" to prevent that.

I forgot that I have a similar predicament; I inherited rather severe mental illness from my maternal grandfather (who killed himself long before I was born). Aside from the issues of proper care, it would be downright irresponsible of me to breed and potentially subject a future child to the same kind of emotional hardships I've had to endure. So, even if I had the option, I would intentionally prevent myself from having any children.

 

[HRoseC]

I would love to have kids some day. They make life so much fuller. I could defiantly see not having kids though if I had a health issue.

 

[Cearbhall]

Want!

 

[dogs4thewin]

I forgot that I have a similar predicament; I inherited rather severe mental illness from my maternal grandfather (who killed himself long before I was born). Aside from the issues of proper care, it would be downright irresponsible of me to breed and potentially subject a future child to the same kind of emotional hardships I've had to endure. So, even if I had the option, I would intentionally prevent myself from having any children.

mine is phasical and mental, but not inherited. Mine was pretty much a birth defect ( that would not be passed down or should not be.) I am not sure if the mental health is the result of the defect as well. ( I believe it may be to a certain extent).

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Both of my parent's first children passed away at birth or baby. So I have that to possibly deal with.

Also, I have a physical disability.

I still very much want kids though. I want to share all the things I've learned and pass them on. Make the world a better place, Lord willing.

 

[Hannah♥]

This is like a loaded question for me. I think kids are great, there are 6 little ones in my immediate family. But the women in my family are completely drained and have no lives for themselves. I'm absolutely positive they'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. I know it's "worth it".

But I'm a very selfish person. I'm a dreamer, planner, wanderer. I need to be able to get up and go whenever I want, do whatever I want. I'm horrible with responsibility. I don't take anything seriously. I have deep-rooted fears of being pregnant/going through labor. These things make me feel like I would just not be a good mother.

Don't get me wrong, I would love to raise a baby with my boyfriend and be parents and do the whole thing. I just don't think the world right now is the right place to bring a child into. Also, my boyfriend and I come from financially unstable homes. He has a huge fear of not being able to provide. As it is right now, neither of us want kids. But we have talked about adoption. I think both of us feel really good about taking a person out of a bad situation and giving them a better life. That may happen for us.

 

[dogs4thewin]

Both of my parent's first children passed away at birth or baby. So I have that to possibly deal with.

Also, I have a physical disability.

I still very much want kids though. I want to share all the things I've learned and pass them on. Make the world a better place, Lord willing.

Well, and there are various degrees of disability. I, for example, cannot drive due to a seizure history, eyesight AND poor motor skills. Which also affects my ability to do self care such as cook or even get completely dressed on my own. As a result I have NO business having kids if I cannot even properly care for MYSELF independently.

 

[Cearbhall]

This is like a loaded question for me. I think kids are great, there are 6 little ones in my immediate family. But the women in my family are completely drained and have no lives for themselves. I'm absolutely positive they'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. I know it's "worth it".

But I'm a very selfish person. I'm a dreamer, planner, wanderer. I need to be able to get up and go whenever I want, do whatever I want. I'm horrible with responsibility. I don't take anything seriously. I have deep-rooted fears of being pregnant/going through labor. These things make me feel like I would just not be a good mother.

I wouldn't say that it's selfish to not want to be "completely drained." That's a pretty reasonable wish. On the contrary, I would say that the selfish ones are people who have children just to gain the approval of others. It isn't good for them or their kids. And this is coming from someone who wants to have a handful of children. Children shouldn't be born for the purpose of gaining social capital.

However, it's also entirely possible to be a mother without losing yourself. I would take a look at what some other women are doing.

 

[Hannah♥]

I wouldn't say that it's selfish to not want to be "completely drained." That's a pretty reasonable wish. On the contrary, I would say that the selfish ones are people who have children just to gain the approval of others. It isn't good for them or their kids. And this is coming from someone who wants to have a handful of children. Children shouldn't be born for the purpose of gaining social capital.

However, it's also entirely possible to be a mother without losing yourself. I would take a look at what some other women are doing.

That's true. I know a Christian woman who had kids because her husband wanted them. She has two girls, and she takes good care of them but she her heart doesn't seem there.

 

[dogs4thewin]

That's true. I know a Christian woman who had kids because her husband wanted them. She has two girls, and she takes good care of them but she her heart doesn't seem there.

If he were my husband well he would not be because I will make it VERY clear I do not want children and so if a man wants to be a father there are PLENTY of other women.

 

[Born2live4ever]

At this point in my life, attempting to parent a child would be a bad idea. I'm nowhere near ready to be responsible for any life but my own. But, when I get older, I think I really want to be a foster parent. Especially for the older kids, who are unfortunately less likely to be adopted. Specifically the LGBTQIAP+ kids who are abandoned by their families and often otherwise end up homeless.

 

[Hannah♥]

At this point in my life, attempting to parent a child would be a bad idea. I'm nowhere near ready to be responsible for any life but my own. But, when I get older, I think I really want to be a foster parent. Especially for the older kids, who are unfortunately less likely to be adopted. Specifically the LGBTQIAP+ kids who are abandoned by their families and often otherwise end up homeless.

That is noble of you! I think adoption is a beautiful blessing.

 

[Born2live4ever]

That is noble of you! I think adoption is a beautiful blessing.

Thanks! I'm inclined to it, because I have no desire to procreate, lol. That, and there are already so many kids in need of loving homes in the world; it seems like a better idea to take care of those already born than to produce more. Of course, that's coming from my perspective, in which I don't really care about having a family with the same genes. Some people really look forward to having children that have their blood, and all that, and some might even look forward to being pregnant. That's cool, but it's definitely not for me.

 

[SnowyMacie]

I am unsure whether or not I want to have kids. If I do have children, I am going to adopt, there are too many children in this world without parents.