Childfree

[California Dreamin']

Was just wondering if anyone plans to be childfree, whether you stay single or get married? I belong to a lot of childfree groups but no other Christians from what I can see.

 

[TraciDee]

I had a bit of a revelation about this recently. I've never seen myself as someone who would have kids. I am good with kids, but I just am not usually a big fan of them. If you asked me just today if I ever planned on having kids, I would say no.

But I was having a conversation with my bestie the other day about this actor/singer I have a major crush on. We were joking about if I married him (yes, we are that lame) and I made a comment about how if we were together I'd want to have lots of babies just to keep the good genes going! Then it hit me... that's probably how marriage is. If you love somebody enough to commit the rest of your life to them, there's a good change you might feel this way. You'd want to make something that was a piece of him and a piece of you to carry on, that you could raise together.

I'm still not sure how I'll feel, but I definitely think it's a possibility! That being said, my sister is married now and she and her husband have decided not to have kids. And that's totally ok!

 

[Saucy]

Yeah I couldn't imagine myself getting married without kids being in the picture somewhere down the line. I wouldn't want to have kids immediately as I think a new marriage takes time and patience to work on and get used to.

 

[graciesings]

I would not marry a guy who wanted to be childfree... I love kids. Enough that I am willing to change their diapers. So there.

 

[sunshineforJesus]

me too,I hope to have aleast 3 or 4 some day.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Yes, I would like my own children some day. I definitely wouldn't want them right away in the marriage though. I'd like to wait at least two years before starting a family.

 

[Kingsdotter]

I just want to adopt a child someday.

 

[Legal_Eagle]

I have two I can loan any of you.... check that... "some" of you... =)

 

[anewman1993]

I don't know. I have some pretty serious medical problems, I can live my life, but there is LOTS of pain involved, I've seen how my pain causes my parents pain. I'm not sure I would want to feel that pain, much less put a child, not just any child but mine, through it. That said, If I married a woman and she wanted kids, I would probably agree to have them. I'm neutral on the subject, I have the medical issues on one hand but the fact that i DO want kids on the other. Which is why I would more or less leave it up to the wife, assuming we are in a good place to have them. I'm 21 right now, even if I got married in a year (not happening, Ive never been on a date much less had a girlfriend) I wouldn't want kids till my 30's. Thats a sticking point. I want to live through my 20's worrying about me and the wifes life, enjoying life, and handling our own problems. When we are a little older and more secure in life then we could consider it.

 

[William67]

Ive wanted kids since I played with my eldest nephew when I was 15. Ive had a hand in raising all my nieces and nephews. I could fill two semi trucks with the number of dirty diapers Ive changed.

 

[scraparcs]

I'd love to, but I'm not holding my breath. It would really take a miracle at this point to make birth or adoption a plausible reality. I'm better off coming to terms with not having kids.

 

[KitKat1230]

I'm planning on being childfree, but I do want to get married. I would like my husband and I to have two or three cats though.

 

[bèlla]

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